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writes:I know this will sound incredibly stupid, and reckless but I have been having a purely sexual relationship with my ex and the father of my two children. I know people say it all the time, but it really did just happen. We had taken our children out for the day, and he came back to my house afterwards. He stayed until the children fell asleep and we ended up watching a movie together. When he was about to leave, I kissed him. I don't know why but I did. And then we slept together. I can't explain it, other then, we just wanted each other. Now it's a regular thing, we both agreed that we would not get over involved and that we both remain single while we do this. I left him about 2 year's ago. I'd had our eldest when I was 18, and our second when I was 22, he's 5 year's older then me. Anyway, I left because I found out he had been texting other girls, not seeing them but I thought if I allow him to text them, the next step is sleeping with them. He was always really into trying new stuff in the bedroom whereas I'm quite shy, and I always thought he was sleeping with other women because I was so insecure about our sex life. But recently its been amazing, in and out of the bedroom. He spends more time here now, and I like having him around to be with at nighttime. My biggest fear is hurting our children. I'm not sure I want a relationship with him yet, but I do want a sexual relationship with him. He has said he is ok with just sex for now but he does want more. My heart is telling me go for it, whereas my head is telling me to remember the pain I suffered when we broke up.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 September 2013):
 I agree either all or NOTHING
stop the FWB... if he wants more and you think he's changed and can be the man you need him to be.. then give it a shot.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 September 2013):
 To provide a good and complete answer to your query, I consulted the "Guys' Book of what a "FWB" is all about".
In it, I learned this: 'IF you can find a girl who is agreeable to being your FWB, then you have got it all... a girl who will put out for you... PLUS one who you do not have to justify, to her, ANY of the rest of your life... regardless of how many OTHER girls you are scoring at the same time...."
So, basically, you are agreeing to become rather like a harlot to him... whilest you are not pinning him down to anything more than having him come by when YOU are feeling horny.. AND he is available (read: Has nothing else to do )....
Great arrangement for him... not-so-hot for you. Are you content with that????
Good luck....
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 September 2013):
 Stop having sex with him, then see if he still wants you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): I posted this question. Yes, he has. Hence why I said he has said he wants more but is willing to wait.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 September 2013):
Has he actually asked you for another chance to be together?
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