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anonymous
writes:I am so confused. Last week a guy at my work who I have liked for a long time bumped into me on a night out, he bought me a couple of drinks and invited me and my friends to come along with him for the rest of the night. While I am at the toilets he confides in my friend telling her that he liked me and later he confesses his feelings to me, that he had liked me for ages and was surprised I had not noticed as I was the only person he spoke to at work and so on.As I have been led on by guys before I was a little wary and told him that I liked him too but I would talk to him about it when we were both sober.A week passes and he does not turn up to work. When he finally came in, he apologised for his drunken behaviour. I asked him if he was sorry about what he said or what he did and he said he was sorry about both.My friends think that I might have made him feel rejected on the night out and that he was just trying to save face and that I was not clear enough when I asked him what he was sorry for. I really don't know what to think.Do you think he said these things when he was drunk because they were true or just because he wasn't thinking straight?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): It could be either. I'm inclined to think that the drink gave him the courage to say what he was really thinking, but on the other hand you may have seemed rather more attractive once he'd got his beer goggles on. I don't mean that in any disparaging way so please don't take it as such.
I'd say to start this conversation all over again with him, but approach it slightly differently. Take him to one side and right at the start tell him you've liked him for some time, and you were happy to hear that he liked you (even if he was in a drunken state), but you wanted to double-check that what he said when he was drunk, was what he really meant once he was sober with the goggles removed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Some people say that the "truth comes out when your drunk"
but sometimes they maybe say it when there drunk as an easy access into having sex. a mean dnt get me wrong if you like him talk to him properly and discuss what went on that night. then maybe he will come to terms and then you too will be happy together xx
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