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writes:Q1, ok so heres the thing my husband and i have been together 2 years and my sex drive has gone down a lot.... he is lucky if i want to have sex once a month. when we first got together it was like 2 or 3 times a day i dont know what happend i give him oral but still not as much as he would like. he gets very frustrated and i feel bad because i feel theres nothing that i can do i dont even want oral from him when he askes to do it to me? sex feels like a chore.Then when we do have sex i cum so fast that we cant really enjoy it. after that im so senitive that i can hardly take him so i ask him to cum as fast as he can. so it last about 30min start to finish. please helpQ2, Ive been in a relationship for a little over a year and a half. and i love him.... but theres this other guy i known for 4 years weve dated on and off a couple times hes in the navy so its long distance. but i can never stop thinking about him no matter what relationship im in or out of he always comes to my mind. I love him and he loves me it just is never the rite time to get involved. we talk still and say will always be there for eachother. i havnt told him about this guy im in a serious relationship with and the guy im with wants to get married.... and i want to marry him as well our life is good not great but good. but my ex still pops up in my mind all the time... i dont want to go to him because i love my bf that i have now but i still have stong feelings for my ex i know what i have now is good and i dont want to screw it up and go back to my ex (who lives in a diff state) to find out it was a lost cause. but i just feel like theres something unresolved between us and i can never let him go... really need advice...thanks for readingMOD NOTE: This OP has posted two questions within a couple of minutes of each other. So I have linked them in to one, so the readers can feel the true context of these posts.
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reader, Vixen Green +, writes (1 May 2009):
 Sounds like a classic case of "the grass is greener on the other side", until you get to the other size. It's easy to fantasize about your ex, since he's not there. He can be any and everything you want him to be and it seems as if you're taking full advantage of this even though you have a man there in the flesh trying to be with you.
No man is perfect, neither are we. You have to find some one with faults you can tolerate and focus on the good and forgive the rest..if it's tolerable. All these things you've built your ex up to be--are probably not the case. You need to let go and get on with your life. Even if it takes a visit out to see your ex and confirm your feelings. You owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to be there 100 percent or let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes there is confusion here. let me explain i have been dating him for almost 2 years and we concider ourselfs married. but were not leglly married.... im not cheating or anything.. sry about the mix up. they stuck theese to ?'s together. they were origonally seprate
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