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writes:i have a bit of a problem with a mate. I was with my new boyf and i was holding hands with him walking down a road. In one of the passing cars one of my friends who saw me. He hasnt talked to me since and storms past me whenever he sees me. I've asked him what was bothering him and one of his friends told me that he saw me with my boyf who looked like somebody he didnt like. I told my friend that it was somebody different (and it was) but he told me to f*** off. Why is he so angry with me for going out with somebody? He has a girlfriend so why cant i have a boyf? he didnt mention anything about liking me before all of this anyway. Is he jealous and how can i stay friends with him?What is bothering him? help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much! im just going to let him calm down and if he wants to, i'll let him explain himself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): he is clearly jealous and feels threatened by your new boyfriend. Perhaps he has hidden feelings for you? Give him time. If he cares about you at all, he will come around.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (1 May 2009):
 Some people subconsciously like/ are possessive of other. He might not realize that he wants you in a way for himself, all he knows is that he feels threatened by this guy.
Let him cool down. He will hopefully realize what an ass he has been. You did absolutely nothing wrong, so there isn't any point in you worrying any more about the situation. nothing about it is your fault. For whatever reason he doesn't like the one boy, it seems to have thrown him for a loop that he thought he saw you with him.
In the meantime, let your friends do that talking to him, you just stand back and let him come around.
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reader, malvern +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Yes, he's jealous. He clearly sees you as his special friend and obviously like you very much. It upsets him to see you with somebody else. It's quite possible that he prefers you to his own girlfriend. You either have to have a talk with him or you keep out of his way whenever you are with your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks but why would he keep me as an option? thats horrible! and why is it my fault that somebody else likes me? he won't talk to me or acknowledge i'm there! we were fine until tuesday. there have been no rumours. several people have asked him why he doesnt like me and he answers the same thing 'I saw her with a boy and i thought it was so and so who i hate!'thanks ur great, but could u help even more?!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (30 April 2009):
Sounds like he does like you a bit, or at least likes the idea of having you available as an option if he ever broke up with his GF.
Also, if he is a really good friend, he might be a little jealous that now there is a new boy coming into the group.
At the same time, really try to talk to him or his GF to see whats going on. Maybe he's mad about something else, like a rumor got started and he thinks you did it. It could all jsut be a complete misunderstanding.
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