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writes:Things didn't work out after I dated a girl in my class. She says she's crazy about me but chose to go out with another dude. As if she expected me to believe that messed up logic. Forget friendship, I'm not wasting my time siting on her back burner. Problem is my heart starts pounding out of my chest every time I see and it's really aggravating. I feel all this adrenaline shot through my veins and I think to myself "Why? I don't want to care. This is silly."She looks sad when she sees me and that I don't care about. I do care about how my heart goes loco everytime I see her. I keep avoiding her and she keeps poping up everywhere.What can I do. Any mantras I can repeat or something. Maybe garlic and a holy cross? Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 I don't think you are overcome by lust for this girl, just overwhelmed by personal anger and disappointment that things didn't work out the right way for you. I suggest putting that garlic clove down next to the cross as this girl isn't Morticia Addams. Focus on the real issues here. You are feeling bitter by the rejection of this girl - it is almost ok, but the only person you are hurting is you. You are stinging from the experience and we have all been there! The only healer for this problem is TIME and recognising that the problem is you, not this girl. She is just some girl after all, not that important to you and you will meet countless other girls that disappoint in the future along with many who won't. Focus on handling rejection better - you seem half way there to be honest, recognising that she is not worth the hassle and all that. Keep telling yourself you are better than to be treated poorly by this girl and at some stage you will start believing it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): I believe all you can do is give it time. I respect the fact that you are not going to "sit on her back burner." A lot of people on this site get so weakened by their emotions that they do what is not best for them.. what only hurts them worse. I can only encourage to keep this behaviour up and not give in. Give it time.. there is no medication for problems like these.
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reader, Griim  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 It is not that easy to ditch an infatuation. For what its worth just do your best to avoid her at all costs. Make no attempts to contact her and you might just be rid of her invading your head if you leave it long enough. You have to remember that although your head may be thinking logically (consciously), it cannot stop the heart(subconsciously) from feeling what it wants. Time is the only remedy. It is not a quick fix and it will hurt but its the only way.To sum up your remedy with the words of a man much smarter than myself, "Wait and hope". Good luck. I know your pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): was she a vampire? in which case no to the garlic and cross - also if you are in some schools it would be considered offensive to wave a cross around.
Suggest you just think of someone else ? like keeley or similar... when you look at her.
or get your brain thinking of a difficult problem like pi to the millionth place...
Star.x.
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