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I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 23 June 2007: Talk to her over the phone or over instant messenger.
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 21 June 2007: Tell her you like her. Ok it does risk loosing her but you will look back and ask yourself what if???
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Marriage-she wants this, in her future..but am not sure I do...advice?
Q. Dear friends there. I'm 19 and I have a girlfriend, we're madly in love, it's now 1 and a half years. The problem is that she's 2 years older than me, and so in 3-4 years she would marry. By that time i will be too young and actually do not want...
A. 15 June 2007: You are only a 19 year old lad and I'm not suprised marriage is the last thing on your mind. You need to talk to your girlfriend and explain how you feel about marriage. maybe later on you will wnat to marry but you cant see it happening in the time ... (read in full...)
Talked to this guy for a year online, now I can meet someone else..what should I do?
Q. i have a bit of an online problem. I have been talking to two lads (never met either of them) i am very close to both of them and the 1st one luke we have been talking for about a year now and we are very very close we talk on the phone and were ...
A. 15 June 2007: If you and the 2nd guy start a relationship than shouldn't you be honest with the first and tell him you are meeting another guy and something might happen. You could wait to see how it goes with the guy your meeting.
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I like this guy and I think he likes me, but I'm not ready for sex yet!
Q. hiya i just start going out with this guy 2 days ago, we went out a year ago but he ended it after just two days. we didnt talk for along time and then we became really close we chatted eveyday on the phone he would call me i would call him etc we ...
A. 15 June 2007: Tell him that you aren't ready for sex. he should respect your wishes, and if he doesn't he isn't worth your time sweetie!
After only 4 days of dating in total he's told you he loves you?! hmmmmm...... Maybe he oisn't lying but he may be saying i... (read in full...)
How can I make myself feel good?
Q. I needed some advice, I try to make myself feel good by buying new clothes, makeup etc. but I just feel that nothing ever looks good on me, I become fussy over the clothes and often just return them. I'm a size 10, but I just don't think I look good ...
A. 15 June 2007: It called low self confidence hunni and everybody has something about themselves they hate.
I atopped eating through my teens and lost a lot of weight because I wanted to be a size zero like all the celebs. I did myself more harm then good and... (read in full...)
Do I want this guy back because I don't like being single? Any advice?
Q. dear cupid, i dont no where to start.I was in a serious relationship with a boy from school it was only going on 6 months we were always on and off,but i loved hi.I went on a school trip,abroad,and broke up with him for another guy..!! it was so u...
A. 15 June 2007: Sit down and chat with him about how you feel and how you would like to show him more affection. At your age 13-15 I wouldn't tie everything in to this one guy.
Maybe you should take some time out for you. Stay single over the summer, and have... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel or is she just making me her "pass the time guy" until she finds someone she really likes?
Q. This is the deal. My ex and I broke up a year and a half ago. She told me that she wanted to have space but was willing to be my friend, which I thought was insane. Anyway, I didn't speak with her for about a while. She text me out of the blue ...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you should tell her how you feel and ask her what she wants as its not fair to either of you or the other girl the situation that is playing out. If she says she doesn't want to be with you then she has to back off with the hugging and ... (read in full...)
Help..I resent his young sons and I am being selfish! I want this man all to myself!
Q. i love the man im am living with but feel very insecure with his relationship with his two son's who live with their mam and stay with us every other weekend,i think he puts them on a pedistol too much and get defensive when i say negative things ...
A. 15 June 2007: I don't think you are being selfish wanting this man to yourself as I think that is a very human emotion, but I think you realise that you can't have him all to yourself. This guy sees his kids every other weekend and him putting them up on a ... (read in full...)
Contact was great..in the beginning. Now he hardly messages me! What can I do/
Q. Hey guys! I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now..and in the beginning it was brilliant! He'd message me all the time and talk about me to all of his freinds! even work ppl (yes we work together but in total different departments and...
A. 15 June 2007: There are many many reasns why things could have changed between you and you'll drive yourself crazy thinking about it all. Ok, so he couldnt meet up to chat this weekend. Text him and ask to meet up next week sometime as you would like a chat.
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My Nan seems to love winding us all up... worried one day I'll say something hurtful!
Q. Ok this is more of a rant so I will apologise now. I just got off the phone with my Nan, my Dad's mum. She seems to love winding us all up. I know she only does it because she cares but I'm scared one day I'll say something hurtful to her. ...
A. 14 June 2007: Thank you very much for your responses. Now Ive calmed down I feel quite stupid for getting all worked up. I have taken in to account what each of you have said and will try and remember it all the next time she starts.
Thank you!
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If a women wears a ring on her ring finger does that always mean she is taken ?
Q. If a woman has a ring on the ring finger of her left hand is she necessarily engaged or married, regardless of the style of ring (apart from something obviously temporary, like a Hula Hoop or something out of a cracker)?...
A. 14 June 2007: I am wearing a ring my dad got me for my 21st on my left hand on my ring finger at the moment as due to being pregnant my fingers have swelled slightly and it no longer fits my right hand.
But its the only time I have ever worn a ring on that fin... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can boost my self esteem again after having my daughter ?
Q. I have a beautiful 12 month daughter and a wonderful husband which happens to be in Iraq right now. Since i had my daughter my self-esteem has been terrible. I went from 95lbs to 210lbs. I have now gotten down to 128 but as much weight as i have ...
A. 14 June 2007: How about dressing up for your husband rather than getting completely naked?
I had an eating disorder in my teens and am scared I will fall back in to old habits. It's hard work some days but I used to see a psychologist once a week and she was ... (read in full...)
My friend puts down my looks. How do I get her to stop?
Q. My best friend is constantly putting me down, about my looks. She's quite short, about a size 14 and hasn't been kissed in about 3 years. I'm going to sound big headed here. But I'm 5'7'', size 8/10, and although i'm single i have a couple of inte...
A. 14 June 2007: She's jealous and not really a freind if she puts you down.
I think you need to tell her how much she is hurting your feelings by saying what she is saying. It's not right for a "friend" to be saying hurtful things. If she genuinely thinks y... (read in full...)
He's depressed! How do I apologise and get him back?
Q. hi what am i to do??? he is so depressed and is pretty much staying indoors or working only not seeing his mates or anybody.... yet i want him back... i apologise.... how do i convince him i mean it??...
A. 14 June 2007: Is this an ex boyfriend?
How about write him a letter to explain how you feel and give him time to forgive, if he ever will.
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Oh how I wish he could be sweet like before and make me feel wanted
Q. I know that people change over time. So,my boyfriend changed over the years. At first, he was so romantic -he wouldn't buy stuff, but, only write lil sticky love notes saying something sweet. He would leave notes like this under the pillow or ...
A. 14 June 2007: My oartner stopped buying me flowers and cards a little while back and said it was because he felt that he didn't need to do it anymore. I told him that I liked getting them and they made me feel special, and since Ive found out I'm pregnant he's ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me but still uses me as a security blanket
Q. hey... i recently got the dear jon letter from my ex... i love her but everytime i try and walk away and move on ...she starts smsing and calling me like crazy...what should i do..? is there hope?...
A. 14 June 2007: Ask her what she wants in the future. If its not the same thing as you then she should back off and give you some space so you can move on with your life and get over her.
There may be some hope there, but then again there might not so don't ge... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend wants to end it but doesn't have the balls to say so
Q. Me and my boyfriends sex life have been a bit awkward lately, for diffrent reasons which i think can be over come. But when he was dropping me home on sunday, after a sex session gone wrong, he got a call from a work mate and he pulled in to phone ...
A. 14 June 2007: He doesn't like you playing with his phone anymore, and will get mad if you accuse him of something going on?!
I think you need to ask this guy if there is someone else and if goes bellistic and strays away from the question I think you have you... (read in full...)
How do two women have sex?
Q. Hi! My friends laugh at me and I don't know who else to ask... I just discoverd that my older sister has a girlfriend (well, I was wondering before, it is not a shock) and they will somehow get married to eachother. I don't mind, but it just mak...
A. 14 June 2007: How about you sit down on a one on one basis with your sister and ask her. I don't feel right as a stranger telling you how things like that work. Or maybe have the converstaion with your mum. I'm sure if you explain that 2 women having sex confuses ... (read in full...)
I like him, he likes me, so why aren't we together?
Q. dear cupid, i just found out that my best guy friend, also my crush for two years, likes me. he already knows that i like him, so why is he not making a move? when we first became friends he asked me for my number. i gave it to him, and he calle...
A. 14 June 2007: Calling him once will not make you a stalker. If he doesnt pick up just leave a cheery message asking if he wants to hang out sometime.
Lads at 15 are odd to us girls, and they probably think the same of us. Its all hormones and stuff and he may h... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting over him
Q. dear cupid My best guy friend Tanner always used to grab my butt, or side. he never tried to make me do something that i didn't want to do. he'd putt his arms around me and pull me close to him. i loved the way he made me feel loved and prot...
A. 14 June 2007: Does it matter to you that this guy may be "ugly" as your parents call it?!
I don't think it does.
I think you should talk to this guy and see how he feels about you, and what he wants from the relationship you two have. If it is only frien... (read in full...)
Concerned what his family will think when they find out I'm dating their son...he's 14..I'm 17! Any views?
Q. I'm 17 and just started going out a few with one of my friend's brothers - Who is 14. He hasn't told anyone as far as I know, and I've just told two very close friends, (neither his sister) but it's not really because we're ashamed of each ...
A. 14 June 2007: Maybe you should both sit down with his mum and chat how you both feel through, especially the waiting for sex bit. His mum may worry about you being a few years older then him but I think thats normal for a loving parent.
When I was 15 I dated ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight? Everything I try is just not working!
Q. i am 18, i have been on a diet for about 3 months now! i eat under a 1000 calories a day! run about an hour each day and do light weights, sit up etc..(well not eveyday i do miss a few) but i dont seem to have lost any weight!!..i realy would like ...
A. 14 June 2007: I'm the opposite of this issue. I think I'm too skinny. I never ate peoperly through my teens and lost a lot of weight plus all of my curves and my body became very unattractive. Being pregnant I'm obviously putting weight on.
I went to see my d... (read in full...)
Do teen girls like 'beefy' boys?
Q. Do you think there are any teenage girls that find beefy teenagers a turn on ? ...
A. 14 June 2007: There most possibly is somewhere......
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Do I stick around as his friend or let go??
Q. hi.... I currently have a friend who lives quite far away, i met him through my friend (he's a relative). We met a couple of years ago, then last december started talking online and on the phone a lot. We talked for hours at a time, most conversa...
A. 14 June 2007: That's a toughie.
I'm trying to think what I would do if your situation. I would probably chat to the guy first to say look if you want to be with me the drugs have to stop and see what he says. If you really dont want drugs in your life then you... (read in full...)
Is my hang-up on older guys just a phase??
Q. I have never really talked about guys as much as i have until now. I've worked at a family business since I was 10 years old. I take care of the customers and tend the store just about every day of my life. And I'm wondering if thats affectin...
A. 14 June 2007: I think its perfectly normal. When I was like 12 I had a major crush on a couple of the members of Take That lol.
Where you have grown up a lot for your age by working since you were ten, the lads your own age may seem a little immature to you s... (read in full...)
Hooked up sex-wise with a guy on myspace... but it turns out he is married and has kids (his wife called me)!!!
Q. OKK, please dont label me as a homewrecker or a slut.. I recently got out of the army and i met this guy on myspace, i know pathetic, but he seemed really nice. In fact, he is better than nice, i think hes perfect(besides the whole cheating thing) ...
A. 14 June 2007: It is hard, but keep your chin up
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How can I get him to stop being such a mamas boy and grow up and realize he has a family?
Q. my ex would spend his money on other things instead of getting us a place for our family and would listen to everything his mother said how can I get him to stop being such a mamas boy and grow up and realize he has a family.....
A. 13 June 2007: Do you mean while you were together?
My partner is a little bit of a mummy's boy, which isnt a bad thing and I would never try to change that and to be honest I dont think I could!
If the guy hasn't realised he has a family and responsibili... (read in full...)
We f*ck, we s*ag, we s*rew each other senseless... but we don't "make love" - is there something wrong with me?
Q. I think i have a problem. My husband and i were discussing our sex life and he said that we have NEVER "made love". Come to think of it...i have never been able to make love to anyone? Is there something wrong with me? i Love having sex- don't get ...
A. 13 June 2007: Just because you like it rough doesn't mean that isn't making love. I vary how I like it. Seen as I'm pregnant right now and my sex drive is low I do like the calmer sex rather than the throw each other round the room sex.
I make love with my ... (read in full...)
He's been having a sex-text relationship with an old work friend!
Q. i feel betrayed as i found out my parnter had been having a sexual text relationship with an old work friend that lasted a few months,i discovered this only a month ago however this relationship started last october few weeks after our sons ...
A. 13 June 2007: I found a photo on my boyfriend's phone a few weeks ago of a "friend's" girly bits (I never know what to call it lol). I felt angry, betrayed and very, very sick. The fact I am carrying his child also played BIG TIME!
I had gone through his phon... (read in full...)
No kissing, no hugs and no sex since she got pregnant 4 years ago. She says she still wants a relationship, but...
Q. been goin out with my gf for 6 years now.had baby boy 4 years ago.since than(and duringshe just doesn't want it 9 months of pregnancy)there has been no sex in our relationship.she just doesn't want.not just sex,no kissing or hugs.this as you can ...
A. 13 June 2007: I can understand the no sex whilst pregnant as I'm currently pregnant myself and my sex drive has taken a dive. Is she suffering from postnatal depression at all?
My sister had a baby last September and her sex life dropped to the point where we... (read in full...)
I'm too wet and not tight enough (he says) and it takes him forever to cum... what are we doing wrong?
Q. dear cupid..i don't understand when me and my husband have sex he takes too long to reach his orgasm he says it's because my vigina is not tight i have so much discharge when having sex that i hardly feel anything because of my problem he doesn't ...
A. 13 June 2007: Why not visit your doctor. I have no medical qualifications to explain why its like that. I'm pregnant at the moment and am going through the complete opposite, I'm too tight and not wet enough and have planned to see my gp.
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Do you think we might get back together... and how could I make it happen?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for three years when out of he blue this summer he says he's not feeling the relationship like he used to since August. It was sudden to me because there were no changes in the relation ship but he says he loves me ...
A. 13 June 2007: I dont think he is coming back to you. Your there for sex while he can go off and lead the single life. I know that sounds harsh, and maybe I'm wrong.
Take the sex away from him and say that if he wants that part of you then it comes with being in... (read in full...)
I care about him but don't love him... how can I let him down gently?
Q. I am involved with a man whom I have had a child with. I care about him but do not love him. I am concerned about hurting him if I tell him I would like to be friends but I don't want a future with him. How can I end this without feeling ...
A. 13 June 2007: I dont think there is a way of ending it that doesnt leave you feeling guilty but if you are sure you really dont want to be with him then you should end it.
Sit down with him and chat the situation through and explain why you feel the way you ... (read in full...)
What are the dating rules for belching and farting?
Q. I need your help. I have started the process of dating after being widowed. I am now in my mid 40's and dating has changed significantly... I recently met a man online and we have been seeing each other for 2 months now. Things are going...
A. 13 June 2007: I dont think are strict rules on this. I do agree with you though that it shouldn't be done in public.
talk about it with him about how it makes you feel and see if you can compromise on something.
Good luck
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He says he loves me, he wants to marry me but--he needs time to think about us! What is going on with him?
Q. my boyfriend tells me he loves me and knows I am the girl he wants to marry, we have been together for over 2 1/2 yrs but then he tells me he needs time to think about stuff, but yet doesn't want to break up...this has happened more than once, I am ...
A. 13 June 2007: You need to tell him how you are feeling and ask him to stop talking in riddles because you dont know where you stand.
Surely if he knows he wants to marry you there cant be anything to think about?
Good luck
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 13 June 2007: Explain to her that you do like her, and not play games, but tell her that your friendship you have with her is important to you and you dont want to loose her as a friend. You just had to be honest about your feelings.
Good luck
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We slept together..so how do I find out, if he wants to take this further?
Q. I've had a crush on one of my best friends brother and he also had a crush on me for the last year. About a month ago we slept togheter, and he told me he had fallen in love with me. Both of us carry a lot of hurt for different reseans due to ...
A. 13 June 2007: Talk to him. Explain how you feel and ask how he feels. If there is a lot of hurt between you then maybe you both need time to work through that, but that doesnt mean you cant be together.
Don't worry about the guys sister. You cant blame he... (read in full...)
Hooked up sex-wise with a guy on myspace... but it turns out he is married and has kids (his wife called me)!!!
Q. OKK, please dont label me as a homewrecker or a slut.. I recently got out of the army and i met this guy on myspace, i know pathetic, but he seemed really nice. In fact, he is better than nice, i think hes perfect(besides the whole cheating thing) ...
A. 13 June 2007: He cant have the best of both worlds. It's not fair on you, the wife or the kids. The fact he lied about being divorced and the amount of kids he has shows I think that he has no interest in leaving her. Also if the wife hasn't chucked him out and ... (read in full...)
I'm 46 and have got together with my highschool sweetheart... but worry he's not the same man he was 25 years ago!
Q. I am 46 years old and in the process of having my marriage annulled. I met my high school boyfriend after our 25th reunion. His marriage is he claims on the rocks. We have been inseparable since 3 months ago. I had asked him where our ...
A. 13 June 2007: Give him time and see. Some people do leave their husbands/wives for other people where as others string the other lady along. Just be careful of your emotions.
If you start to feel that he's maybe taking you for a ride then cut ties and tell him... (read in full...)
I'm falling for girl who I became friends with, How do I move it from friendship to a relationship?
Q. I'm falling for girl who I became friends with, How do I move it from friendship to a relationship? Im 17 and have I do have a really clear understanding of love. I took a girl to homecoming this year and it was not to great. We were both immatu...
A. 13 June 2007: I dont know your financial situation but how about inviting her to dinner somewhere.
Maybe when you ask her say Would you like to come out on a date with me rather than just asking her to hang or something.
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I'm pregnant but I have to see the ex bf, about making arrangements for the abortion. How should I handle this?
Q. In march my boyfriend and i broke up because it was too hard being apart after he transfered to another school, but up until then we had a great relationship. The week after we broke up, i found out he was seeing someone else, but only a week after ...
A. 13 June 2007: I'm currently pregnant myself and completely understand the yoyo emotions that come with pregnancy. You need to really think about if you want this baby or not. Forget the guy whos playing you and think about you. If you have an abortion you have to ... (read in full...)
I'm 30 years old and still a virgin, is this normal?
Q. I'm 30 years old but still a virgin. Is this normal? Ive never had a girlfriend. I'm not ugly just very shy. Its more out of circumstance than not been "lucky" ie i work weekdays and look after my gran on the weekend. Will i ever get...
A. 12 June 2007: I cant comment on it being 'normal' as I dont think there is such a thing. For what ever reason you have not indulged in sex before now but if you seriously want to then you need to maybe make some time to go out and play.
Just be careful ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for girl who I became friends with, How do I move it from friendship to a relationship?
Q. I'm falling for girl who I became friends with, How do I move it from friendship to a relationship? Im 17 and have I do have a really clear understanding of love. I took a girl to homecoming this year and it was not to great. We were both immatu...
A. 12 June 2007: Try flirting with her and see if she returns it. Maybe tell her how you feel and ask her out to the cinema or whatever.
Good luck
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