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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I haven't had my period, but a pregnancy test was negative--help?
Q. I'm really really confused--my boyfriend and I had sex about a month and a half ago with no contraception. I still haven't had my period, so I did a pregnancy test and it said I wasn't. Can you help me? I don't know what it could be....
A. 25 June 2007: Worrying yourself silly makes your period late. It's part of sod's law that one. You can wait a few days and do another test. Or go see your doctor who will test you for free and get a result right away.
I would also see about finding out abou... (read in full...)
He said to her that I like him more than he likes me.
Q. I just started recently dating this guy and its been about two weeks. My best friend is his best friend which I like because I get information. Just last week he told her that he feels that I like him a lot more then he likes me. Which is weird ...
A. 25 June 2007: Ask him what you can do to show your feelings more to him. And tell him what he can do to show his a little more. xxxxxx... (read in full...)
We want to be together for the rest of our lives but we keep arguing due to jealousy.
Q. Hey, I have a problem with my gf, well ex gf. we have been broken up for a few months and recently started talking and trying to sort things out to try and get back together, we both love eachother very much but we dont know if the other can change ...
A. 25 June 2007: Trust is a major part of a relationship and unless you two can gain trust in one another than the relationship will not work. Why not take time away from trying to get back together and just be friends and see if you get the basis of a relationship ... (read in full...)
I think she's gone off me. How can I make us become more close?
Q. i have got a girlfriend and we havnt been going out long . only a few weeks . But i want to see her alot more and we dont seem very close. She was a lot more flirty just a couple of weeks ago but now i seem to think she has gone off me. How can i ...
A. 25 June 2007: Talk to her and ask her where she see's you two going. Also why can't you invite her round your house? Do you go round her? This could be part of the problem?
You are still young and have only been with her a little while. Just chat with her and ... (read in full...)
Reporting back - I fancy my teacher, she seems to feel the same way.
Q. Me again...The one who fancies teacher, teacher feels same. I just dont know how to get her too stop. Today I was with my girlfriend, I was holdin hands with her and flirting so the teacher could get the message but she just walked faster to ca...
A. 25 June 2007: I would tell her to back off. You can report her. Teachers are not supposed to have any other kind of relationship with a student other than a teacher/student working relationship.
You need to tell her to back off whether she will pretend ... (read in full...)
I'm still concerned about how to tell my teacher that I'm sorry for bullying them.
Q. Hello, I am writing again about the teacher I bullied and Im scared to say sorry because it has been so long. Im scared to get in trouble for talking to her though. She may freak out if I approach her. I have lost all my confidence, I onl...
A. 25 June 2007: I would approach her and say you just came to talk to her to apologise for what you did. If she freaks out then walk away, but you may find she will sit and listen to what you have to say. I can't tell you what to say as it has to be you truly ... (read in full...)
I feel sad all the time and I don't have a clue as to why.
Q. i feel sad all the time but i do not know whats wrong with me or why i feel this way,i have no or little self confidence at the moment , i do not ever tell my mum or friends they just assume i am the happiest person in the world but i really am not. ...
A. 25 June 2007: You could be suffering with depression, or it could just be your hormones giving you the teenage blues. Why not talk how you feel through with your doctor who may be able to help. We all have a time in our life when we want to break down and cry ... (read in full...)
All my guy mates end up fancying me and then when I reject them, I lose them as friends!
Q. my love life is such a puddle at the moment so is my life in genereal im in sixthform and at the start of the year i was having an absolute blast i loved every minute of it i was so popular everyone wanted to be my friend i had all the guys falling ...
A. 25 June 2007: This guy has obviously moved on from you because you were with the other lad. If he wants to be mates then be just that. You won't end up hurting if you be a loyal friend to him. All you can do is move on to.... or hold on and hope he realises that ... (read in full...)
I don't want to waken up in the morning and the guy I'm with thinks "oh my god" because I don't have my make up on! Help!
Q. I'm not braggin or anyfin but i do find myself quite attractive...dat is after a WHOLE HOUR in the morning doin my hair and make-up! The fing is, i'm obsessed wiv looking good, as most female teenagers are - in takin care wiv their appearan...
A. 25 June 2007: If the guy truly likes you he wont care about bed-hair and stuff. If he does than he's not worth your time or feelings!
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Is it possible to still be crazy on your spouse even once you've been married a while?
Q. Hi this may sound daft but is it possibly common to have known someone all their lives, been best friends, fell in love and then got married because everyone says at some point this never seems to work out because they haven't had any experience ...
A. 25 June 2007: If you are really happy together does it really matter if other people do it? I don't know anybody personally who has gone on to marry their childhood sweetheart. I suppose it is kind of rare.
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What do you think is going on with him and what should I do?
Q. I need help again! My boyfriend and I broke up two months ago because he's afraid of commitment and he feels like we're not right for each other. I've told him twice now that we cannot contact each other anymore and he says that he respects my ...
A. 25 June 2007: Tell him that you don't want to talk about your birthday or anything with him. You just wanted to ask whatever the personal question was and get your stuff back. I would go round his place when I know him to be in to get my stuff back. Depending on ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend see-saws back and forth between me and another girl--I'm scared I'll lose him to her!
Q. So im really in Love with my boyfriend but our relationship has been a bit rocky....lets face it whos isnt at a teen age. After two months earlier broke it off on acount of work and crazyiness and i felt i wasnt meeting his needs. A month later i ...
A. 25 June 2007: Why give this guy the time of day since he seems to like playing you and this other girl along. I know it hurts but walk away and find someone who isn't going to drop you and pick you up whenever they feel like it. It's not fait for him to play with ... (read in full...)
I cheated before, but now I want to let my boyfriend know I'm his alone!
Q. Dear Cupid, I want to show my boyfriend that I can be a special woman and I want to show him that I am worthy of his love. I had a really bad past when I was younger and then I cheated on him about 6 months ago at a college party. He doesn't tru...
A. 25 June 2007: Having a bad past isn't really much excuse for cheating on your guy. It may have been a reason you felt inclined to do it. All you two can do is give each other time and commitment. You showing him you can be faithful and loving and he IS the one ... (read in full...)
I spent a peaceful night with my friend...now I'm confused about where we stand!
Q. I have a female friend I feel very comfortable with. Last night I was at her house. We lost track of time and I realised I'd probably miss the last transport home. She said I could stay and I said yes. In the morning I felt very contented w...
A. 25 June 2007: See where the feelings go. If you only felt that way when you were in the bed with her I would guess it was just a moment thing. Maybe somewhere deep down there is a part of you that does like her. Just give it time. It'll sort itself out for the ... (read in full...)
I woke up in the middle of the night to find him texting his ex girlfriend!!
Q. My name is Amanda and I just left my husband after 9 1/2 years.I was talking to another man but wasn't having anything sexual with him intill me an my husband split up.I am growing closer to this man.He is going threw alot2,he just left his ...
A. 25 June 2007: It sounds like this guy still has a lot of baggage with his ex and maybe you should give your relationship with him a bit of space. Him texting his ex at 4am is a little annoying and I can see why you are a little suspicious.
Talk to him about ho... (read in full...)
His penis won't stay hard
Q. Why every time we try to have sex his penis won't stay hard?...
A. 25 June 2007: It could be he's incredibly nervous about anything sexual, or there could be a problem there. talk to him about what he thinks is wrong. Drinking and drugs can effect males to the point of not keeping it up.
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She says she is not the type of person that has affairs
Q. Any help would be appreciated. I am in love with my best friend, who is a woman and a lesbian She is in a relationship but is very unhappy. I was recently in a relationship but have broken up. I have known her for 7 years and we are very close. ...
A. 25 June 2007: Tell her how you feel. Even if she won't leave her partner at least it gets it off your chest. After that it's up to her what she does. Tell her that if she decides to leave her partner you'll be there for her.
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We broke up but he won't back off
Q. Hello, im 17 and my ex is 20, we broke up about 2 weeks ago because he was way too immature. ive moved on but he hasnt. hes very bipolar and immature. hes going through my friends and trying to talk to them, he makes it clear he wants me back but ...
A. 25 June 2007: Don't let him make you stop talking to your friends. That's him having some control over your life. All you can do is do what you are doing and hopefully this guy will get bored and back off. Keep telling him you aren't interested, and also get your ... (read in full...)
My friend seems to be being two-faced
Q. Its hard to say but ive been hearing alot about my best mate that i dont want to hear, shes apparently been really two faced to a couple and to me and my bf in similar ways, she tells my bf that hes right and stick to his guns and the same to me ...
A. 25 June 2007: If she has been saying things behind you back then she isn't much of a friend. Talk to her and tell her what she is dong is wrong. If she has a problem with you then to come tell you about it not chat about you behind your back. You and your ... (read in full...)
She's not against the idea of her and me but the fact that it's a long distance relationship.
Q. Right! Met this girl about 7 months ago.... got on really well, very heated and all that. She tells me she was only here (where we were) for the weekend, then she went back. We stayed friends and a week later shes going out with someone where she ...
A. 25 June 2007: I would back off and let this girl come to you. She needs to know she can't play you along with her boyfriend. It sounds a bit like she is messing you around.
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I want a long term relationship, but I hate the pressure--please help!
Q. I always seem to fuck up my relationships with guys because I don't like the pressure--I can't have a long term relatioship and I realy want one, but whenever I find someone I freak out and dump them. I don't know what to do, please help me....
A. 25 June 2007: Why not take some time out from serious relationships and have fun. You are only young and obviously not ready for being in a long term commitment. There is plenty of time. Just live your life and somebody will come come along and sweep you off your ... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm not ready for sex, what should I do?
Q. i am only 13 years old and i am very scared in a way but i love him to death!!!!!! 333 but i think that he really wants to have sex with me :( and im NOT!! ready for SEX!! what do i do????!!!!!!!...
A. 25 June 2007: Tell him you are not ready for sex and won't have sex with him till you are. Do not be pushed in to it by him, even if he uses the crappy excuse of saying you can't love him if you wont do it.
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I'm pregnant and my boyfriend sometimes denies it's his; I think he may be cheating too
Q. I am almost 8 months pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 11 months. He has an ex who says that they are still having sex. One day I seen he had a hickey on his neck and I could still swear that i didn't do. If i did I don't ...
A. 25 June 2007: Get a paternity test to prove to him the child is definetly his. Alo if you don't trust him your relationship could be in serious trouble. Quiz him about the hickey and say you don't remember giving it to him so who did. Don't let this guy play away ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with two different girls
Q. hi i find myself in a .... difficult situation, im in love with two girls lets say girl "A" i love because we get along so well and she's intresting however she is the more recent of the two. girl "j" i have lots in common with we like the ...
A. 25 June 2007: Just be friends with the girls for now and see how your feelings develop. It's not fair on them for you to pick one to be with but be thinking constantly about the other.
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My boyfriend told me I was too big--now I am depressed and uncomfortable with him
Q. Hello, I am 27 years old. I have been through a lot the past year. I left my husband after 10 years. I lost my father, who was my rock. I lost almost everything me and my four kids owned. I have been in a new relationship for about 10 or 11 m...
A. 25 June 2007: Hunni you need to eat. Even if it's only fruit or something. And this guy isn't worth you making yourself ill over. Pardon my language but what a shitty time to say something like that. I can't advise you to leave your partner over this as that is ... (read in full...)
My brother cheated on his wife and now I am afraid to date incase it happens to me
Q. Okay, I have this thing... I am absolutely terrified of men! My older brother cheated on his wife and left his children, and since then I have been paralyzed when it comes to dating. I figure, man that was my brother and I thought I knew him, what ...
A. 25 June 2007: Tell him what has gone on and take things slowly with him. You may find as you get to know him more you will trust him more. If this guy really likes you he'll want to take things slowly and gain your trust.
Suugest going for a coffee or somethin... (read in full...)
My friends don't approve of the fact that I'm in love with my online bf.
Q. I have a bf over the net and I love him but my friends dont think so. I am aware of the dangers he's never asked for a photo or to meet up but i still don't feel comfortable when my friends are teasing me. Please help...
A. 24 June 2007: Ask your friends to back off a little as its hurting your feelings. They are probably worried about where the relationship is going and if this lad is who he says he is that's all.
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My Bf said to my friend that he was using me. I need someone else!
Q. im sooooo confused and i need lots of help with this ok its so hard for me to have a boyfriend these days im 13 and going to 8th grade i get lots of boyfriends but im not a whore last weekend i was going out with this guy and i thought he lov...
A. 24 June 2007: Take some time out for you. You don't HAVE to have a boyfriend you know. Just enjoy the summer and if you meet someone special then great but if not then have fun in the sun. It's thelads loss not yours.
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Could I have caught a disease from unprotected anal sex?
Q. i am really really REALLY worried and i need some help, or just support. straight to the point- i am gay, and the other night i was at my friends house, it was just us there. basically it was very hot, he took his shirt off. we started kissing and ...
A. 24 June 2007: I think you can get sti's from anal, I'm pretty sure infact. You can go to your doctors and get tested to set your mind at ease. I certain you can get aids but unsure of about anything else.
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I'm lusting after two of my tutors!
Q. Hi, i know it wrong .. but it the chemistry is there... im 24 yrs old just finish college goin back next yr to fin my level 3...my tutors i like 2 of them and they r 44 yrs old but for the last 3 yrs we have done nothing but flirted made sexy ...
A. 24 June 2007: If they are tutors they aren't actually supposed to get involved with their students due to them being an adult impression on the mind. I know you are 24 and are very legal but I still think the same applies to these men. Don't uote me on it though ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my two best friends who are dating but I want him
Q. I really, really, really like this boy...it verges on love, of what I know of it!! And even better, I think he likes me, he practically admitted it but neither of us would say the words out straight...anyway, the problem comes in the fact that he's ...
A. 24 June 2007: As Mandy7 says don't act on it. While this guy is with your best friend just continue being his friend. If he really likes you then he'll end it with her but it isn't fair for the pair of you to play around behind her back.
I would walk away and... (read in full...)
Trouble with a woman at work--am I being beastly?
Q. A girl who is very nice and sociable and always tries to help is getting on my nerves. She's always messing around with lots of documents that have to be controlled by me and the other day we had a quarrel. I told her to tell me exactly what ...
A. 24 June 2007: I think you had every right to have a word with her about messing files up or taking more than she is supposed to. In a work place there ahs to be respect between people who work together and people who take the mickey out of that do need it being ... (read in full...)
My mother won't talk to me because she hates my sister's boyfriend!
Q. My sister has been with her boyfriend for about five months now and ever since they have got together there have been family arguments over it because my mother doesn't like him for different reasons. I have stuck by my mother through it all for ...
A. 24 June 2007: Give your mum some time to calm down then go round and chat to her and explain that who your sister's boyfriend is isn't your fault.
My 18 year old sister is dating a right bum at the moment and she's being pulled in to his ways. I gave up fight... (read in full...)
My husband won't take any responsibility for my unhappiness--please help!
Q. I am very unhappy with my husband at this time and I have tried to express how I feel but he keeps saying that 'he is not responsible for my emotions' and that 'he is not responsible for my happiness'. I know it is important in life to find your ...
A. 24 June 2007: Wow that's a toughie.
I thought part of being in a relationship aswell was to try and make the other person happy. It's a tough situation as he may never change his ways and could you live with this for years to come. His mind games are not righ... (read in full...)
We love each other but still aren't together; I'm confused
Q. I loved one boy and he said me that he doesn’t love me. Now after 9 months we are best friends. I find out that I still love him. I didn’t tell him. But 1 week ago he told me that he loves me on a very romantic place and in a very romantic way. We ...
A. 24 June 2007: You need to get this guy to tell you honestly whether he likes you or not. If he continues to play around with your feelings hunni tell him to leave you alone until he makes his mind up. He can't keep telling he loves you, then saying he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 17 years older than I--I worry about how other people see us!
Q. I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? ...
A. 24 June 2007: Do the thoughts of other people really matter if you two are truly happy? I don't think they do. If people want to judge you and this guy on the fact that you have a 17 year age gap between you then they are a little superficial.
Just enjoy wh... (read in full...)
I really like a girl who hates me
Q. I'm 16 and I fancy this girl who is 14 goin on 15 and she hates me so much but I love her and I cant get over her, she knows how I feel as all my freinds asked her out for me even tho I did'nt give them permission. I just got a gym membership so I ...
A. 24 June 2007: Don't change who you are for this girl. I understand the whole thing of impressing a member of the opposite sex and stuff but remember to stay who you are.
Why does this girl hate you? And why do you think going to the gym is going to change h... (read in full...)
Does my best friend love me? I don't know what to do!
Q. I loved one boy and he said me that he doesn’t love me. Now after 9 months we are best friends and I find out that I still love him, but I didn’t tell him. One week ago he told me that he loves me while at a very romantic place and in a very rom...
A. 24 June 2007: You need to get this guy to tell you honestly whether he likes you or not. If he continues to play around with your feelings hunni tell him to leave you alone until he makes his mind up. He can't keep telling he loves you, then saying he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I might be a little bit taller than the guy I like--is this a problem?
Q. I met this guy yesterday and I really like him. I think we may be the same height or I'm just a tiny bit taller. But people always say that it looks stupid when the girl is taller than the boy. I'm really worried that I'll grow even more, and beco...
A. 24 June 2007: Do not listen to what other people say. If you really like this guy and he likes you then a little height difference shouldn't matter. If it bothers him then you may have a problem but if it doesn't don't let what others say get to you!
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My husband "jokingly" puts me down--is he doing this on purpose to hurt me?
Q. My husband, who I love very much, constantly puts me down in a 'jokey' way. He never pays me any compliments and didn't want our baby, he stares at other women all the time and I feel like he is just waiting to get a British passport. However he ...
A. 24 June 2007: Talk to him about it. It may be his sense of humour but if it hurts you there is no reason why you cant ask him to back off a little with the "jokey" put downs. Has he done it in front of other people? How have they reacted? Did they think he was ... (read in full...)
I was a virgin and now he wants to be f*** buddies! I'm so confused, please help!
Q. I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? ...
A. 24 June 2007: He wants the best of both worlds- sex on tap without having to commit to you. If you are looking for a relationship I wouldn't go down the route of having a sex buddy. You are in way being selfish, he is. He's the one that used you to get his leg ... (read in full...)
My brother cheated on his wife and now I am afraid to date incase it happens to me
Q. Okay, I have this thing... I am absolutely terrified of men! My older brother cheated on his wife and left his children, and since then I have been paralyzed when it comes to dating. I figure, man that was my brother and I thought I knew him, what ...
A. 24 June 2007: Try to put that thought out of your mind sweetie or you'll never date & drive yourself nuts. It's harsh because somebody could do it too you, but that's no excuse to not live your life.
When me and my partner first met I was so paranoid because ... (read in full...)
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