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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 21 June 2007: Hang in there and see what he says next time he gets in touch. You've apologised and held out an olive branch. Its up to him now to grab hold of it.
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I want to adopt a baby
Q. help please: trying for a baby for ages but looking to adopt. help us if you can. hi im 20 will be 21 in october me and my partner who i have been with nearly 5 years have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years we are looking to adopt ...
A. 19 June 2007: Good luck!
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He'd rather look at porn than have real sex with me
Q. I don't know what to do anymore? I am 26 years old i have been with my husband 8 years (married for 2) He has a had a problem with porn, internet, movies, magizines. He would be on the computer for hours at night or when I was at work, but hardly...
A. 19 June 2007: I understand the unattractive feelings that porn can leave you with. My partner before he met me hadn't had a serious girlfriend for a few years, so had turned to porn to get himself off. I've never really been big in to porn, Ive never really taken ... (read in full...)
I get bored with him as soon as I get the guy I want
Q. i have a problem as u may tell. I will say i really like a boy and then one of my mates will tell him then he will ask me out but then after a week or two i get really bored and i dont want to go out no more. I just want a relationship with someone ...
A. 19 June 2007: How about taking a break from "dating" guys and have lots of guy friends. You are still very young and have all the time in the world to tie yourself down with one guy. For now have fun and enjoy being a teenager!
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Should I leave my mean partner for his sweet blind friend?
Q. I need help. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 18mths now and well it has been a up and down relationship. There are times when I have done nothing wrong and get shouted at which then leads to an arguement and something in the house being ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you are sure you don't want to be with your partner then end it. There is no point in forcing yourself to be unhappy. You need to do that for you, and you alone. After that see how you feel about the blind friend. He may be independant and may ... (read in full...)
How to write a good Dear Cupid question
Q. When asking for advice from complete strangers, here are a few tips to keep in mind. 1) Know your audience - We're here to give advice, and as much as we'd like to tell you what to do, we really can't. We're messed up people, too. :) Take everythi...
A. 19 June 2007: Really good tips there. Have saved to my computer incase I need to refer to it in future :D
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Tried to start a family for 8 months without succeeding. What should we do?
Q. my boyfriend and i are trying to have a baby. weve been trying for about 8 months now and it still hasnt worked. what could help or what should i do?...
A. 19 June 2007: Some people try and conceive for years and years, and at your age your body may still be getting ready for the future babies. If you are both serious about the decision to have children why not go to your local family planning clinic and see if they ... (read in full...)
The pregnancy scare has left me feeling broody! Help!
Q. in the last month iv had unprotected sex with my bf of a few yrs, we never discussed it, we just ran out of condoms and he went to stop and i said its ok, as we were already very into it. it was stupid but it happened agian 4 or 5 times during my ...
A. 19 June 2007: How about taling things through with your boyfriend. I've had broody/maternal feelings since my late teens and just sort of coped with them. I was lucky my mum had a child when I was 16 so I could fuss over her. Then last year my sister had a ... (read in full...)
I dont know who the father of my child is so I am alone and scared
Q. I really need some help with my problem. Im a 22 year old girl and have just found out I am pregnant. The thing is, I dont know who the father is as I had 2 flings whilst on holiday last month. I know this is quite disgusting so please dont judge ...
A. 19 June 2007: Being a single mum can be scary. I don't know from personal experience but my mum was a single mum for a long time. Many women handle it.
The family disowning you thing- most families never react as bad as you think they will. When I told my ... (read in full...)
I want to adopt a baby
Q. help please: trying for a baby for ages but looking to adopt. help us if you can. hi im 20 will be 21 in october me and my partner who i have been with nearly 5 years have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years we are looking to adopt ...
A. 19 June 2007: Why not try looking up adoption agencies on the internet, and adoption support groups so you can chat to someone about what's going on.
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I am suspicious of her even though I am the one that cheated
Q. I'm 22 and my girlfriend of 3 years just recently told me she has been talking to some guy on the phone. The thing is it started about 5 days after we ran into an ex of mine that made a huge scene and said she's still with me. Then about a week ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you weren't together does it really matter if they had sex or not? My partner and I went through a really tought time about 18 months ago and we split up. He went and had a one night stand with a woman and it did hurt me a lot but there was ... (read in full...)
He is leaving for a year. Should we break up now or later?
Q. My boyfriend is going travelling for a year and he's leaving in 5 months. We will have been together for just over a year by the time he goes. In this time I have grown to like him a lot. I am dreading him going and I realise how hard it is g...
A. 19 June 2007: Why can't you stay together while he's away? As someone who's had a long distance relationship the last 3 years I don't see why it has to end. Ok if he's going travelling around the world or something than I could probably see your point.
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How can I get my girl to be the sex kitten she used to be?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now, I absolutly adore her. We've went through our points of no sex and points where we've had sex like crazy. It was a point where she was very aggressive about wanting sex now she isn't as agressive. ...
A. 19 June 2007: If it's definetly because she's not sure whether you want it or not then drop suttle hints to her. I can also tell when my partner is frustrated as he starts talking about sex all the time.
My sex drive has dropped a lot recently as I'm pregnant... (read in full...)
She said not to get my hopes up b/c she just recently split w/ someone - how should I take this?
Q. Hi. I recently met this girl in a club, she was all over me. This is the time I only ever ask girls for their numbers. Anyway I asked her for her number, and she said you're messing. I did want her number so after convincing her I wasn't lying I...
A. 18 June 2007: The woman has been hurt by a boyfriend not that long ago and she's told you not to get your hopes up, probably meaning don't expect too much too soon. Least she has for warned you.
Meet up with her and see how it goes. You may find she realises... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on this lad but he's just gone and got himself a girlfriend.
Q. I have a massive crush on some lad in my form and hes my best mate and were always goofing around but Recently he got a girlfriend and Im really jealous and I cant take it soo Im not talking to either of them. But his girlfriend found out that I ...
A. 18 June 2007: I agree with marieclaire- it sounds like the lad was leading you along a bit to see how far you would go. I think it's grossly unfair, and as much as it hurts I think you should try and move on like he has done with his girlfriend.
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My ex is tired of his live-in girlfriend - am I a fool if I were to get involved with him again?
Q. I was wondering how much of a fool I am to get involved with my ex husband. He left me for a 19 year old girl and they have a baby together. As I stated we are divorced now and he is living with his girlfriend but she is moving out soon. He is ...
A. 18 June 2007: Do you believe in second chances? Has this guy changed from what he was like last time?
Also have you forgiven him for what he's done. If you were to give things a go then moving on from the past will be a big thing. I see no harm in you giving t... (read in full...)
Can a person be provoked to a point that they physically abuse someone else?
Q. Can a person be provoked to a point that they physically abuse someone else? I have been wondering about this if just the abuser can say that provocation led them to do it. What you think?...
A. 18 June 2007: You can provoke somebody to hit you I suppose by winding them up but I don't think someone can claim they abused somebody because the person provoked them.
That is an interesting question and I'm sure people have used that excuse before. ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to expect next from my girlfriend during sex!
Q. i'm 28 and had few girl friends. 6 mnths ago i met a girl and we seemed to click. we went out often and soon started having sex. then i agreed for her to dress me as a girl each time we had sex - i thought it was great. then i had to wear her ...
A. 18 June 2007: I live by the motto of trying anything once and if you don't like it you don't have to do it again! :)
Glad I could help
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My boyfriend can't get hard for our first time due to stress.
Q. my boyfriend is sooo consumed by stress, and its our first time having sex the very fist for me, but becuase of the stress its hard to get it uuhh hard lol what can i do to help calm the stress???...
A. 18 June 2007: I agree with jabey.... be understanding and not pressure him. If the problem still persists then maybe suggest he see a doctor for help with stress. Or like Jabey says avoid intercourse for now and stick to oral fun.
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I don't know what to expect next from my girlfriend during sex!
Q. i'm 28 and had few girl friends. 6 mnths ago i met a girl and we seemed to click. we went out often and soon started having sex. then i agreed for her to dress me as a girl each time we had sex - i thought it was great. then i had to wear her ...
A. 18 June 2007: If it is making you uncomfortable than sit down and chat with her. She cannot force you to do anything you dont want to. Explain to her you enjoy the dressing up while you are with her or are at home but aren't sure you want to go futher with it.
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He abuses me all the time, especially when I don't respond to the names he calls me. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
Q. I fell for one of my close friends a while ago and he realised this and forced me to admit it to him (which i did). Before he knew for sure, we used to joke and have fun. Since then so much has changed and he abuses me all the time. I'm not sure ...
A. 18 June 2007: You have done nothing wrong hunni. Take that in and believe it. He's just using that as an excuse for what he does so he doesn't have to admit to what he does. You know what he is doing is wrong. You need to put it to him that he changes or you're ... (read in full...)
I want to start a conversation with this guy I like on Myspace, how do I start it off?
Q. All my life I've been attracted to slim/slender men. Well, then I met this guy named Alan. His height is 6'2, and he's not chubby at all, just has a little bit extra baggage. He plays volleyball and basketball in school. I don't understand, I am...
A. 18 June 2007: How about going over and saying How about we have a chat away from myspace, and see what he says. Kind of like an icebreaker there. After that you may find that the chatter just flows from you both.
Good luck
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We both want to kiss eachother but we're both to scared to make the first move!
Q. There is a guy I like. He is friends with a friend of mine. He has been known to get around a bit in the past but apparently around me he is shy and nervous. He wants to kiss me, I want to kiss him but neither of us can make the first move. His ...
A. 18 June 2007: Give it time yes, but if there is an opportunity for you to lean in and kiss him then go for it!
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19 and got prenant, my boyfriend was so excited... I miscarried but now I'm pregnant again he hates the idea! (+ my mom has kicked me out)
Q. I am having a hard time right now and I really don't know where to turn. I an 19 years old and was with my boyfriend for a little over a year when I found out I was pregnant. He already has a 4 year old son and I thought from the start he wouldn't ...
A. 18 June 2007: I'm not condoning what your boyfriend has done but I can see maybe where his feelings have come from. He may have not gotten over your misscarriage and yet months later you say you are pregnant again. The fear you are going through over the baby ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 18 June 2007: Ouch.
I'm really sorry its so tough for you.
I can understand you being nervous about ringing him, but living with the emotions you are at the moment are hurting you to. Isn't it better to know for sure than not know at all?
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Over the last couple of weeks I've started to see girls in a different way and I think I'm turning lesbian
Q. Over the last couple of weeks I've started to see girls in a different way and I think I'm turning lesbian, I'm scared to tell anyone how I feel because am scared how they will react has anyone got advice for me x x x x x...
A. 16 June 2007: At a young age your hormones are raging and things can become confused and mixed up. I went through the thinking I was a lesbian phase and I still now find some woman attractive and have had sexual encounters with women in the past. Is there a ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell me? Is he going to be back?
Q. I ended the relationship with a much younger man. It was a long distance relationship and we both travelled to see one another. He told me frequently that he was moving to where i live and seemed sincere. I then sent an sms to say that this move ...
A. 16 June 2007: Give him some time. You've let him know where he can find you. He may just be a little scared about moving to where you live. I know my partner was before he bite the bullet and decided to move in with me. If you don't hear from him then he ... (read in full...)
She wants time out to see who she wants to be with...
Q. i am madly in love with a girl, she has a boyfriend but doesn't know who she loves more. She took a week away from us both to try and figure out who she wants to be with more. her parents are a little nuts and said a while back that we can no ...
A. 16 June 2007: Give the situation time, and don't annoy her parents as that will not help in the long run. If her parents see you are willing to follow their rules when it comes to their daughter then their feelings may change.
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My girlfriend got a year long job in he states and now tells me she wants to stay there!
Q. hi, iv been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years. about 6 months ago, she got a year long job in the states, and she wanted so badly to go and i was happy for her to do it. we have been in contact all the while, i trust her completely and have been ...
A. 16 June 2007: I agree with AskEve. Head out there and see her and see what life would be like over there.
I found out I was pregnant a few months back and my partner and I decided to move in together. We live 80 odd miles apart, ok nothing quite like moving t... (read in full...)
Do you think I have any hope of her falling back in love with me?
Q. I've been married for 6 years and we have 2 kids together but my wife says shes changed and wants different things from life and isnt in love with me anymore. I moved out last week to give her some space and I've told her i'm willing to change and ...
A. 16 June 2007: People change all the way through out their lives. I believe we continue growing up right until we die as we are always learning new things.
I don't think you should "change" who you are in hope for your wife to fall back in love with you. If ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...
A. 16 June 2007: This sounds like a serious thing to you so I would suggest talking to her about it as soon as you can, if that means when you fly out then do it then.
I'm very much against cheating aswell. If nothing else has happened since then maybe she has ... (read in full...)
He is hanging out with the wrong crowd and is shoving his new girlfriend in my face about how much prettier she is than me
Q. ok well i had another question i asked a little while ago and i have another problem with the same people which is bad...well i have strong feelings for the guy i am with now but my ex that i am still in love with but i know i dont need to be with ...
A. 16 June 2007: If it's ok with your exs family then see them when your ex isn't there. I would also tell you ex to get out of your face. It's unfair how he is throwing his new girlfriend in your face to hurt you.
Jealousy is a normal human feeling and I have e... (read in full...)
Does sperm taste good? Should I give him oral?
Q. my boyfriend likes me to give him oral sex, and he wants me to swallow. Some of my friends that have done that sais it tastes awfull. In a way i kinda want to know what it tastes like but then again i dont.. i dont know what i should do??...
A. 16 June 2007: See how you feel about it in yourself. If the idea really grosses you out then don't swallow. It's down to personal preference whether you swallow or not. If you dont want to ask him to wear a condom.
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Does sperm live when it's thrown out of the window?!
Q. me and my gf had sex in the car and I threw the condom out the window and it went into the bush on the side of the road, is there anyway that sperm can survive? or be traced after a freezing night? It's a silly queston and I just wanted to know and...
A. 16 June 2007: I don't think the sperm will survive long but yes if found by police they can get DNA from the condom.... (read in full...)
My husband has sent women...photos of his genetalia!
Q. My husband has gone away for a few days and I decided to be nosy and looked at his e-mail account. I found a couple of e-mails that he has sent to women thanking them for the photos of their naked bodies they have sent him and for one of them he has ...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you should approah him as it has clearly upset you. I found a photo on my partner's phone of another woman's bits and I went bellistic at him. Mainly because of my hormones as Im pregnant. After I'd finished shouting me and him sat down and ... (read in full...)
I know we're going to break up b/c the distance is too much to handle! Should I not go see him next month?
Q. Hi, I don't know if anyone can really help me with this but i'm not sure where else to turn. My problem is that my boyfriend lives half a world away. We've been together for a year, through what I've found to be a very hard long distance ...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you have kind of answered your own questions there. If you don't see either of you leaving your families and you don't feel you can wait then you should end it. I dont think you should do it over the phone. Maybe talking to him about how you ... (read in full...)
My life just seems to be going from bad to worse...
Q. Please help I dont know what to do. My life just seems to be going from bad to worse...im stuck in a dead end job, despite having 4 a levels a gnvq and 12 gcse's, i have about 3 real friends, the rest who i call friends are just friends from work ...
A. 15 June 2007: Firstly I would seriously think about ending it with your boyfriend, not only for that fact that you said you are unhappy with him but for the fact you have cheated on him twice.
I agree with Dr Pete that we all have a depressing time at some poi... (read in full...)
Should I insist on meeting his friends and family to see where I actually stand or just accept the situation as it is
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over two years now and we see one and other about four times a week with him stopping over every weekend at my place. In between that he very rarely phones or texts me and if I send him a text he will either ignore it ...
A. 15 June 2007: I wouldn't go as far as to say he's married but I agree with the part where you should look in to his background as it sounds like there is something he isn't telling you.
I would insist on seeing his family and see what he says.
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Can personality overule physical attraction?
Q. Can personality overule physical attraction? If you are attracted only emotionally and personality wise to a person, is this enough to build a relationship?...
A. 15 June 2007: I think it can, but not if how the person looks repulses you. I was attracted to my partners personality first as we spoke a lot over wap and over the phone but didn't swap pictures for a long time. I wasn't swept away with my partner's looks when ... (read in full...)
We're trying for another baby, how do we make sure it's going to be a girl?
Q. hi this is gona sound daft but i have a 14 month old daughter and my husband and i are trying for another baby but we both would like another girl for the simple reason that we only have a 2 bedroom house and everything weve ever bought is pink!! ...
A. 15 June 2007: It's down to the males sperm whether it is a boy or a girl. So pray for a little girl sperm to beat a little boy sperm. I don't think there is a way you can guarentee a baby girl. I found out on Tuesday I'm having a girl after everybody saying I was ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee pregnant?
Q. Ok, the other day, my fiance and i made love with each other. It was first time for both and she had some blood coming out of her vagina during the intercourse, which we both know is normal the first time. However, i didn't come and stopped for the ...
A. 15 June 2007: Some tests take less than 3 weeks to tell if you are pregnant or not! I know someone who found out within a week.
I'd suggest she go see a doctor and he can tell her what's going on.
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Marriage-she wants this, in her future..but am not sure I do...advice?
Q. Dear friends there. I'm 19 and I have a girlfriend, we're madly in love, it's now 1 and a half years. The problem is that she's 2 years older than me, and so in 3-4 years she would marry. By that time i will be too young and actually do not want...
A. 15 June 2007: You are only a 19 year old lad and I'm not suprised marriage is the last thing on your mind. You need to talk to your girlfriend and explain how you feel about marriage. maybe later on you will wnat to marry but you cant see it happening in the time ... (read in full...)
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