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How are you supposed to keep a strong connection when you only see someone twice a week and no calls in between?
Q. Me and my guy have been seeing each other for 6 weeks now and we are great together but I have one complaint! He doesnt call me much at all I have noticed the last couple of weeks. He will call when I am supposed to come over and maybe a couple ...
A. 19 March 2008: To further clarify our situation here goes. We have known each other for over a year and a half and been great friends since. We are in a relationship exclusive to only him and I as well. Yes I need and want him in my life too. I just do not get him ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance of a serious committed relationship in our future??
Q. I have been enjoying my time with my new guy and now insecurities are slowly coming up here and there with me. We do work together and have been warned heavily by our employer last year to not get involved or face consequences. I am going to a int...
A. 12 March 2008: You are right on alot here! I think he wants to be my only reference since I am been told form my bosses they wouldnt let me leave since I am not easily replacable. I was voted one of the best employees in 2007 and I am highly respected there just I ... (read in full...)
We are losing touch...is it because he has me and is too comfortable??
Q. I have been seeing my guy now for alomst a month and we have worked and known each other for over a year almost 2 years now. He used to call me nightly if not daily and thats because our schedules conflict with his band (his hobby) my kids, or our ...
A. 9 March 2008: UPDATE: Well I went to his house as usual on Thursday night like always. We always had our Thursdays together in the last month. Surprises all over that night!! He told me right away we need to "step it up" I asked do what? He said that we need to ... (read in full...)
Do you think he sees us as serious too??
Q. I was with a man I like so much and he invited me over and hopefully we are going to be going out as boyfriend/girlfriend soon! We had a lot of fun and I am so into him as he is into me I know well.We talked alot and he mentioned how "nuts" it would ...
A. 23 February 2008: Aww thanks to you both on great advice! I am taking one day at a time and after being his friend for over a year and a half I waited to see what could be happening now. I beleive that its worth the wait and I said that to him last night as he smiled ... (read in full...)
I never expected him to miss all of us this much.
Q. Well I didnt get the job I so wanted and I am now 'stuck' at my old job once again! UGH! I have no clue why as I wasnt told why I didnt get that job, just that they hired someone else and will see if that person works out or not.My ex and I have now ...
A. 4 February 2008: Thanks alot for the kind advice and we did have a long 12 year sometime rocky marriage but not bad till we got to GA and his mother got in the middle and controlled him to no end there.She is the major influence on our marriage ending only.She ... (read in full...)
Why can't he accept it's over? He's doing my head in!
Q. So me and my ex have been talking ALOT over the last few days and its him calling me all day on Monday and when he wasn't calling he was texting me! Drove me nuts as I didn't get anything done but him calling sooo much.Almost every second of my day ...
A. 24 January 2008: Thanks to all of you on here! I am getting a car from GA as I could NOT pass this car up though! Its a 2000 Dodge Intrepid it has 42000 miles on it and the Carfax report on it is CLEAN.My ex had found it and I spoke all day yesterday with the ... (read in full...)
We had a hilarious fun night but now he won't call back, why??
Q. I recently went our to meet other coworkers on a night out for all of us.I met a cute guy that knew one of my coworkers.He ended up buying all my drinks and we talked for over 3 hours that night.He was the one that approached me and we had a ...
A. 19 November 2007: So I texted him last nite and he replied and we texted back and forth for almost an half hour this morning and he said he would call me laters and was excited to hear from me ..saying COOL and hey how are yas? That he didnt have my cell and said in ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get us back in a relationship?
Q. I probabaly know the answers here but need some validation from others as well. I was seeing a member of management at my job at the beginning of this year. Well, the people at our work started huge allegations about him and I so we stopped immediat...
A. 8 November 2007: UPDATE!! Ok, so I have decided to let fate take its course and make me more happy in other areas of my life and today I was bumming around on myspace looking at my closest ex coworkers page and her and I talk ALOT on there and on the phone!! Well, ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get us back in a relationship?
Q. I probabaly know the answers here but need some validation from others as well. I was seeing a member of management at my job at the beginning of this year. Well, the people at our work started huge allegations about him and I so we stopped immediat...
A. 5 November 2007: I had a dinner out with him and our dept for a contest win back 4 months ago. The dinner he bought 7 of us to treat us for the win in our dept.Great eats and nice conversation between me and the other coworkers and occasionally him too.Afterwards ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get us back in a relationship?
Q. I probabaly know the answers here but need some validation from others as well. I was seeing a member of management at my job at the beginning of this year. Well, the people at our work started huge allegations about him and I so we stopped immediat...
A. 30 October 2007: I know now that his job is in fact in trouble as our work has not hit budget since Feb of this year and he is 2nd in line there.That does explain alot to me now as I learned this. He has been under major stress there and I think why he is laying low ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get us back in a relationship?
Q. I probabaly know the answers here but need some validation from others as well. I was seeing a member of management at my job at the beginning of this year. Well, the people at our work started huge allegations about him and I so we stopped immediat...
A. 29 October 2007: On a upadte of sorts I have a hard time with this as I see him more and more aorund me and asking about my kids and protecting me alot yesterday at work. I am confused in why he is doing this so on myspace I messaged him just a note.All I said was ... (read in full...)
My daughter is acting out to be with my ex and I don't know if I should trust him.
Q. Well an update here for my problems with my ex husband that some of you know about. Its been almost 3 months since my divorce and I thought after going through all the drama with my ex, me and my daughters would and could be fine on our own. That...
A. 18 September 2007: Well alot of people here where me and my chidren reside have came over to talk to my oldest about her need to want to be with a man that has nothing to do with our lives here.My ex.She has the void of loss after the divorce and wants back what we ... (read in full...)
My daughter is acting out to be with my ex and I don't know if I should trust him.
Q. Well an update here for my problems with my ex husband that some of you know about. Its been almost 3 months since my divorce and I thought after going through all the drama with my ex, me and my daughters would and could be fine on our own. That...
A. 17 September 2007: Thanks for all the advice and I know it may to late to change what she has been taught by my ex as he raised her with me for almost her whole life.He is a control freak and uses manipulation ALOT.She has learned this behavior from him to the point ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to wait while he gets over his committment issues? And if he does decide he wants to commit, how will I forgive him for lying? How can he earn my trust back?
Q. My boyfriend has been lying to me about where he has been going out, does that mean he's cheating too? How do I get passed the lies and trust him again? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I'm 31, he's 28. I recently found o...
A. 6 September 2007: Well I have had a moment a lot like this one that you are dealing with. I hope my honesty and bluntness can help here! Well for starters, I know that younger guys do not want commitment. They are still trying the field or think they are not ready to ... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 29 August 2007: Be warned please..I see red flags on her part here! Sorry if I am being to blunt but its the only way to say this all.Sounds like she is keeping a hold of you on a "what if" basis. Not a good idea..noone should be put on the "shelf".True love doesnt ... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: I was married a long time. I had an affair with an ex after being with my husband for 9 years. I was looking for attention, something my husband didn't give me at all. Our marriage was falling apart and I was so unhappy. I tried to do things with my ... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 27 August 2007: I was in a situation like this a few years ago. Even though this may not be your case this is what happened to mine.I was in a serious but causual relationship that was passionate and awesome! We dated and did EVERYTHING together for a year. Then he ... (read in full...)
Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 22 August 2007: I am sorry you are in this situation! I am also in a situation alot like this myself. More complicated in my situation but there is no easy answer to any hot cold feelings in any situation.Only two things I can think of is hold on and wait and see ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 11 August 2007: Well I did get my answers and I was dang right on all of the red flags!! He was using me to fill in his life as he has noone there in GA.I even called one of his family memebers to tell his aunt there in GA, what he was doing to me and our girls up ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 10 August 2007: Well all I stayed up super late last nite and talked with one of my girlfriends online..I think we have came to the conclusion that my ex is feeling immense guilt about kicking me and our daughters out of his life.Why he is being so needy with me ... (read in full...)
When he was supposed to move in, he moved on instead and told me to forget about him!
Q. I was with this guy 7 months,it was just sex really in the beginning,then a relationship did form and we got on really well,we was going to move in together but he got cold feet,he has never been married before and is in his 40s.anyway things were ...
A. 9 August 2007: Ouch is all I could feel for you hun!! I know of many guys like this and its red flags everywhere!! Afraid of committment and obviously he has issues beyond repair.He would be theonly one to notice he hurts alot of women and that isnt right! To get ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 8 August 2007: I value yes all of your wise advice here truly!! That yes, it is the years I spent with him with alot of great and not so great memories is pulling me back and forth.I dont truly think of the memories much as what he is doing now.I have forgiven the ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 7 August 2007: Well yet another update of sorts here.Not alot has changed really..ugh..I did not have any contact with my ex on last sat. I refused all calls and blocked him on my yahoo messenger.Sunday he started calling alot and finally I answered and was ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 4 August 2007: Well last nite I have made up my mind and also found out online that my ex is just using me to hold too till he finds the "one" he called it.I thought something wasnt right and now I have my answers on this not good guy!That he has many issues and ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 3 August 2007: Well an update of sorts here on this situation.Alot is happening as far as my life thats good like my raise at work and possibly me getting a new car as my car is dying slowly.My ex has been very supportive and talking to me alot since his return to ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 30 July 2007: Its been 2 days and my ex is now on his way back to GA. He just left this morning. He and i let our youngest sleep in some as she didnt see him leave to upset her.She is fine and excited to be back home ..saying that she is glad he is gone.That ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 28 July 2007: I have told him I miss OUR family and yeah he took his side and said "its too late for us" after our divorce date.
Now he is at the moment on his long trip up here (11 hour trip)to bring our daughter back home and he is staying at my house fo... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my husband who I'm seperated from, how can I get over him?
Q. hi there i am new to this my question is how do i get over my husband. we have been together for 19 years and have 2 girls. We seperated last september and he has been seeing someone for the past 8-10 weeks. He has caused problems during our ...
A. 27 July 2007: Take time to heal! Try to keep yourself busy with you children anddo stuff that makes you happy :)I know the pain that you are feeling as I faced a divorce after 12 years of marriage and two daughters as well.My job, my friends and family helped a ... (read in full...)
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