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writes: In march my boyfriend and i broke up because it was too hard being apart after he transfered to another school, but up until then we had a great relationship. The week after we broke up, i found out he was seeing someone else, but only a week after that he told me they weren't really dating and he only felt bad for her and he told me how much he missed me and how much better i was so i continued to sleep with him. But now, i am two months pregnant and i told him and he says he wants to help, but then the girl went out of her way to tell me they are dating even though he denies it and she was really mean to me. I know he is playing both of us, but given the situation i have to see him this weekend because im having an abortion because were both in college and i wish i could have it but i just cant and so we need to talk about money and stuff. but the worst part really is that he called me the other day and i heard her in the background and it really upset and i was crying histerically because this is a really hard time for me and i dont want her knowing about it. So what i would really appreciate advice on is what to do when i see him, because i would like to play it cool but its really hard, and even though i know hes really a jerk and i dont want to get back together, i would still like to be the better person here and maybe one day he'd be upset about the chance he missed. If you could get back to me i would really apreciate it because i just dont know what to do lolthanks
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 I'm currently pregnant myself and completely understand the yoyo emotions that come with pregnancy. You need to really think about if you want this baby or not. Forget the guy whos playing you and think about you. If you have an abortion you have to live with that decision. I had to make the same choice a few months back and it was not easy and in the end decided that I couldnt do it.
You need to stop sleeping with this guy and start sorting you out whether you keep this baby or not because he's being totally unfair and the only person who can put a stop to him is you.
Ignore the girl hes playing along aswell. At some point he will drop he and treat him in the same crappy way he's treating you.
I hope things work out and if you want to chat more than drop me a line and I'll gladly have a chat :)
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (9 June 2007):
 Your hormones are all out of whack due to the pregnancy which is hard enough to deal with, but you are also distraut over the breakup with this callous ass of a guy. You are an emotional wreck right now and understandably so. So forgive yourself if you can be the ice princess, you will regret losing me forever, dream girl that you would like to present yourself as. Just try to remember that you are not losing out on anything, he is. He is the one that missed out on being with a great girl like you. And feel sorry for that poor wench who has him now.
You are letting him off easy by having the abortion. He could be looking at 18 years of child support payments, but instead he has to pay once and it is over. But keeping the baby would mean that you would be tied to this jerk for the next 18 years, too. So I guess you are both getting off easy. But a baby is not a peach pit, there will be regrets and emotional fallout. Just be prepared for this. Having an abortion is a terrible decision to have to make and I am sure you have thought long and hard on this choice. You need to do what is right for you. I wish you all the very best. Someday, when the time (and man!!!) is right, you will have a baby. Good luck, honey!
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