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writes:My best friend is constantly putting me down, about my looks.She's quite short, about a size 14 and hasn't been kissed in about 3 years.I'm going to sound big headed here. But I'm 5'7'', size 8/10, and although i'm single i have a couple of interested boys. My mum say's she's just jealous, and Iknow she's onlyjoking, but it's really upsetting me.She's always telling me that I look bad, or that everyone else looks better than me. On one occasion, she said that she was sorry that I didn't look like my other friend.She also is always grabbing at my belly, or my legs, saying I'm fat. etc.Another thing that she does is go on about how I'm not that tall, and how I have short legs.(I have quite a long back, but not exceptionally short legs)What can I say or do to make her stop?please help?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): she aint no friend hunny, i think you should re evaluate your friendship with her. show her the door out of your life.you don't deserve to be put down. x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (14 June 2007):
 She's jealous and not really a freind if she puts you down.
I think you need to tell her how much she is hurting your feelings by saying what she is saying. It's not right for a "friend" to be saying hurtful things. If she genuinely thinks you are wearing something that does make you look odd or something then she should just have a little quiet friendly word, not say that everyone looks better than you.
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reader, Sevenlova  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Some people have to make to make others feel bad to feel good about themselves.PAY HER NO MIND
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reader, Spl-ash +, writes (14 June 2007):
 am gonna sound mean but either you ask her what's wrong with her since you are friends and all or you start giving her a taste of her own medicine... she is just taking her non acceptance of herself out on you... it's goona be worst when you have a boyfriend.
or you can try and make her accept her own self... or find another friend, though best friends are hard to find and they sometimes bitch about you ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Why on earth would you consider someone who does that to you as your "best friend"??Like yourself enough to surround yourself with people who appreciate you and like you for who you are.We are all where we are becasue of choices we make...take control and make your life less stressful!Onwards and Upwards!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Wow, that is a tough one, if it really bothers you and you can't accept that she is saying it out of jealousy and move past it, then I think you need a new best friend....my best friend never said those kinds of things to me, we are now 50, and met when we were 12....
I would first say something to her immediately after she says a negative, stand up, and say to her that you really don't like her cutting you down, and I don't know why you do it, but it needs to stop, and stop now, and then leave...let her contact you, she will know that you are serious, by your tone. You don't have to get into a big discussion why, because she will deny it, make excuses for it and most likely put it back on you, like you are being silly....you need to work this out with her, or move on to a better friend.
Good Luck!
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