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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I'm confused about my new friend's behaviour
Q. Hello I have a doubt about a friend of mine, he acts very cheery and nice when we're with other people but when we're alone or something, I just have to keep the conversation going if I wanna talk and he behaves a bit strange, he starts reading ...
A. 27 June 2007: Your welcome. I'm glad things are working out. xxxxxx... (read in full...)
My brother cheated on his wife and now I am afraid to date incase it happens to me
Q. Okay, I have this thing... I am absolutely terrified of men! My older brother cheated on his wife and left his children, and since then I have been paralyzed when it comes to dating. I figure, man that was my brother and I thought I knew him, what ...
A. 25 June 2007: Tell him what has gone on and take things slowly with him. You may find as you get to know him more you will trust him more. If this guy really likes you he'll want to take things slowly and gain your trust.
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I was a virgin and now he wants to be f*** buddies! I'm so confused, please help!
Q. I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? ...
A. 24 June 2007: He wants the best of both worlds- sex on tap without having to commit to you. If you are looking for a relationship I wouldn't go down the route of having a sex buddy. You are in way being selfish, he is. He's the one that used you to get his leg ... (read in full...)
We agreed to try for a baby--now he wants me to get rid of it!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years we are also living together. We both agreed to try for a baby--then last week when I found out I was pregnant I told him and he was so disappointed and told me to get rid of it. I was so confused...
A. 24 June 2007: I agree with DV1. What a complete s**thead. I think I would have killed my guy if he had asked me to choose between him and my child. It seems he was all mouth and things were ok while you were chatting about it but now its actually happening and ... (read in full...)
My ex left me with a lame excuse--now I need to get over him. Help!
Q. Hi, I need advice on how to get over my ex boyfriend, Jamie. He was my first love and two days ago he told me we 'lived too far apart' (he goes to school in my town but lives about a half hour away) and we could still be friends. It was actually the ...
A. 24 June 2007: It sounds like he was using the distance thing as an excuse so he could dump you to get with this other girl rather then tell you the truth. Its harsh but unfortunetly it comes with dating. This guy isn't worth your time or your pain hunni. If he ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of getting my heart broken!
Q. Boy trouble! I really like this boy and I think he likes me to, but I don't want my heart to be broken again. If you were in this situation what would you do? Please help! ...
A. 24 June 2007: I would drop hints that you like him. Maybe get a friend to drop bigger hints that you may like him and wants to know if he likes you. Or you could ask him yourself.
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My fiance told me he doesn't trust me
Q. I am getting married very soon but just today he told me that he doen't believes anything i say to him. An he also asked if i thought that our relationship was going to go futher? does he sound like he doesn't want to marry me?...
A. 24 June 2007: He may have wedding jitters. But if he really is being truthful about not trusting you I would suggest not getting married just yet and trying to sort this out. Trust is a major factor in a relationship, and can destroy one if it isn't there. Ask ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband about my risque past?
Q. Ok im a 20 year old female and im married and today me and my husband were talkin about how many sex partners weve had over the years and what not, and i told him that ive been with 12 men but that was a lie. you see me and him starting dating when ...
A. 24 June 2007: You can keep the number of partners you've had secret. I was abused from when I was 9 years old until I was 16 and I went completely off the rails from the age of about 13 until I was around 18. Drugs, Alcohol and sex. That's what I thought life ... (read in full...)
Anti-depressants have killed my sex drive but he's very sexual; I'm afraid we're going to break up
Q. Hello Cupid, I'm a newbie here but I have some relationship problems. My guy loves me very much we've been together for 6 years now in July. We are the point where we are ready to give up and split and I don't want that to happen. He does love me ...
A. 24 June 2007: If you wat to talk and get a lot of things off your chest may I suggest counselling. It workied wonders for me. Chatting to someone who didn't know me otr my family or anything that had happened. Talking to someone like that really helped.
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Should I believe his act?
Q. My daughter's father is now wanting to give his right as her father unless I give him back Joint Custody, in which it will not happen. His verbal abuse, negative comments, etc, is what I am not going to put up with anymore. He'll cry over the phone ...
A. 24 June 2007: He could be up to something. It sounds like he's using emotional blackmail to get what he wants- joint custody. Keep putting your foot down and hopefully he'll see that his abuse isn't going to work with you anymore and he should try acting like a ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he wants to end it?
Q. what are some sighns to tell if my boyfriend wants to breakup with me?...
A. 24 June 2007: Suddenly turning "cold towards you", not talking to you, hugging you etc. If you think he's going to end it with you hunni chat to him and find out. Don't let him play you around, if that is what he is doing.
Good Luck!
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My brother cheated on his wife and now I am afraid to date incase it happens to me
Q. Okay, I have this thing... I am absolutely terrified of men! My older brother cheated on his wife and left his children, and since then I have been paralyzed when it comes to dating. I figure, man that was my brother and I thought I knew him, what ...
A. 24 June 2007: Try to put that thought out of your mind sweetie or you'll never date & drive yourself nuts. It's harsh because somebody could do it too you, but that's no excuse to not live your life.
When me and my partner first met I was so paranoid because ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my new friend's behaviour
Q. Hello I have a doubt about a friend of mine, he acts very cheery and nice when we're with other people but when we're alone or something, I just have to keep the conversation going if I wanna talk and he behaves a bit strange, he starts reading ...
A. 24 June 2007: Maybe this guy doesn't do the whole getting involved with someone at work thing. Talk with him and get him to explain what he means better so you are less confused. If this guy wants to be friends then go along that line.
Good Luck!
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I'm so embarassed by what he might have seen in my drawer!
Q. my boyfriend came to my house the other day. we were sat at the computer and there is a stack of drawers next to it. my boyfriend opened a drawer and i was fine with him doing that as it just had my make-up in. he was staring into the drawer for ...
A. 24 June 2007: As flowergirl said if your boyfriend hasn't said anything and isn't acting weird then I wouldn't worry about it. Just make sure next time that there isn't anything incriminating before he comes round. We all do things that embarass us at some point ... (read in full...)
Me and my bf want to have sex but we have nowhere to do it! Any help?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 years have been talking about taking our relationship to the next level, we don't want sex we want to make love but there is no where for us to do it. I refuse to do this special first for us both outside. And ...
A. 24 June 2007: If that is how you really want it to happen then you both wait for an empty house, however long it takes. Or save up and book a night in a hotel as there won't be any chance of anybody walking in there :D
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How do I give him oral sex?
Q. hi all can anyone help me on how to give a blow job to my boyfriend ?...
A. 24 June 2007: Ask your guy what he likes. Its one of those things that you learn as you do it. As you get down to it listen for your guys breathing, moaning and watch his body as they are give away signs for what you are doing right and for things he doesn't like ... (read in full...)
We split up a year ago and now he lives a long distance away. I miss him. Should I write to him?
Q. i split with my ex boyfriend nearly a year ago and we live far apart from eachother and we aint spoke since,i still miss him and i am sill in love with him and i am dying to get in touch with him just to see how he is. do you think i should write to ...
A. 23 June 2007: I think you should write to him. Even if you don't get him you can talk to him through letters and keep in touch.
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I am in love and am obsessed with my teacher! What can I do?
Q. I am in love with my teacher he is 26 years old and has a girlfriend but no kids i am 13 so he is only twice my age i have never felt this way about anybody before, i know what car he drives and even his regestration plate lol and im not obsessed ...
A. 23 June 2007: All you can do here is ride out the waves. Not only is he too old for you but he is a teacher. Crushes on teachers is all part of growing up, especially when boys your own age seem so immature. You wont feel the pain forever. Until then just ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about how to pleasure him. Any advice?
Q. Hi i have a question for guys and maybe some girls can give me answers as well. Well i have a boyfriend and i'm in love with him and so is he. I'm 13 and he's 15 and we been together for 7 months. Well to give me pleasure he fingers me and licks me ...
A. 23 June 2007: A hand job is you playing around and stroking him with your hands. The best way to find out what he likes is by talking to him about it. Or when you go to do it listen to his breathing and moaning. You should be able to tell if you do something good ... (read in full...)
What does a orgasm feel like?
Q. Hi this is a question for girls only cuz i don't think guys can answer this question. Anyways i'm 13 and i have a boyfriend who's 15. And yesterday he was finger banging me but it wasn't the first time. But yesterday was different he got me ...
A. 23 June 2007: I suppose some females feel like they have to pee when they orgasm. Physically your body tenses up as you get close, especially your vaginal muscles and the relax as you release the orgasm. You should feel a sudden surge of pleasure.
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I want him back and I miss him. Any advice?
Q. Me and my ex split up a little bit ago because he got told some stuff that wasnt true and i asked him out again but he said he didnt want 2 hurt me again. I stil love him but dont have the guts to say anything. He has recently stopped going to my ...
A. 23 June 2007: Tell this guy how you are feeling. If he feels the same way you can work something out. If he doesn't at least the you can walk away and move on!
Good Luck!
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We're both unsure how to act with each other; we're behaving like silly schoolkids!
Q. After being single for many years, and close to giving up on relationships for good, I finally came across the perfect guy. The problem is that neither of us seem to know what to do next; we have both had bad relationships in the past. Whenever we ...
A. 23 June 2007: Try to relax a little bit and enjoy the time you have with this guy and hopefully he'll follow suit.
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I hear rumours about him which he denies but he's really flirtatious
Q. I have this new boyfriend and hes the ex of one of my good friends and i keep hearing bad things about him and he denys all of it. he seems relly sweet and i think we could of been fine if all my friends and his friends didnt get involved. I really ...
A. 23 June 2007: You will never find out for 100% if these rumours are true or not. It's about having faith and trust in your guy. If you really feel that he is lying and the rumours are true then I would end the relationship. There is nothing wrong with having a ... (read in full...)
He is always looking at me and smiling. Does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy at my college and I have been told that he likes me, he keeps looking at me and trying to catch my eye and when he is talking to me and my friends he focuses on me, he also smiles constantly when looking and talking to me. D...
A. 23 June 2007: You should so tell him how you feel or you could look back and regret not doing it. He may be too shy or something to ask you out so may be very thankful you do it :D
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My girlfriend has been sending dirty texts to my work mate! What should I do?
Q. my girlfiend of 16 years who i have 2 children with, the first 13 years old and 7 years old has been texting dirty texts to one of her ex workmates. she had his number under a friends name on her mobile. he asked her to call him after she was ...
A. 23 June 2007: Explain to your girlfriend how you see dirty texts as not a laughing matter. The fact she can do this shows she has no loyalty or respect for you which after 16 years there should be lots of it. Ask her why she did is? Like was it because she feels ... (read in full...)
He seemed keen but after a misunderstanding, he's ignoring me
Q. On the 9th of june this year me and my friend kinda started holding hands together meanwhile i was goin out with his best m8 who i liked quite abit but not as much as this guy. That night he texted me and sed that if things dont work out tween me...
A. 23 June 2007: Give the guy some time to get his head around things. If he really likes you he'll come back and if he doesn't then he isn't worth your time.
Put your self in his shoes- he'd had a girl sitting on his lap and she came to you saying he had been... (read in full...)
I bumped into an ex of mine and now I can't get him off my mind! Help!
Q. I bumped into an ex-boyfriend a couple of days ago and I can't get him out of my head, I just want to see him again. However, I'm in a serious six year relationship with a wonderful and caring person who I do love. I just don't understand why I'm ...
A. 23 June 2007: I would try and get him out of your head. Six years is a long time to be with your guy and if you truly love him then chasing your ex wouldn't be fair. It is hard when you see an ex.
I've been with my guy 3ish years and we are very happy. After co... (read in full...)
Is the CD she sent me a hint?
Q. Hi. I like a Canadian girl who is Jewish, too. I am Mexican. She came to my country once, for work, and we had a very good time together. I think she was flirty to me, to some point, and we have been corresponding ever since she left. This...
A. 23 June 2007: I think that could be quite a big hint. Let her know how you feel before she thinks you didn't get the hint!
Good luck!
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Is it possible to be so much in love yet be too much alike?
Q. I live with the love of my life!However... we are are so much alike in so many ways at times we look at each other and its like staring in a personality mirror. We can both finish each others thoughts... Say things to each other and understand one ...
A. 23 June 2007: Me and my guy end up in fits of giggles while arguing because we blow up over nothing and are both so damn stubborn that its so stupid.
I wouldn't worry about the fact you seem so alike if you are both trulty happy in the relationship. If this ... (read in full...)
He lied to me about his age, now I can't trust him.
Q. Hey, This is my first question. Around 9 months ago i met a guy, and since then we've been getting on soo well and i seriously think i could love him. The only problem is, im only 16 and he was what i thought to be 20. I only found out this ...
A. 23 June 2007: I would drop this man and quickly. The fact that he's interested in a 16 year old girl is a little odd but the fact he LIED and told you he was 20! I find that quite gross. The fact you now don't trust him either is a sure sign that this will not go ... (read in full...)
I hate porn and no guy I am with is going to look at it!
Q. Are there an men who would be satisfied with one female sexualy? Is this too much to ask? I mean not be interested in porn etc...I ask this because I am considering whether to start dating again..Frankly Im very against porn for political and ...
A. 23 June 2007: I would suggest you find a guy who doesn't watch porn then. I am pretty sure not ALL men watch porn and some don't mind giving it up for their partner.
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 23 June 2007: Talk to her over the phone or over instant messenger.
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Should I ask my ex if he wants to give it another go? I don't want to think "what if" for the rest of my life!
Q. I was with a guy last year for 4 months. We actually loved each other or so i thought we did. Then he ended it because he was bored. I was really heartbroken. When he ended it he was really horrible to me and called me a cheap slag and said to me th...
A. 22 June 2007: I would walk away from him and live your life. He was horrible and harsh to you and dumped you because he was "bored". How do you know he wont get "bored" again! You may still care about the lad, but why run the risk of getting hurt all over ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm too young to have sex with him
Q. hiya im 14 years old i have a boy friend, I trust him with all my heart He Asked me the other day " do i want sex ? " I sed " I dont know i sed ill tel u wen im ready to " but i think i am but im ready to but im scared that i am to young .. wh...
A. 22 June 2007: As Artemesian said, if there is any doubt in your mind then you aren't ready. You shouldn't have sex until your are totally sure it's what you want and who you want to do it with.
Good luck!
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How should I tell my parents I'm bisexual and have a girlfriend?
Q. How do I tell my parents that I am Bisexual? In the past two years, I have been experiencing feels towards, not only guys, but girls too. Now I may only be 14, but I know my feelings. but I don't know how to tell my mom and dad. they have always s...
A. 22 June 2007: Have been in exactly the same shoes as you sweetie and I didn't tell my parents. To this day I don't think my dad knows but my mum does and she doesn't really like to talk about it but that's her. She doesn't understand the whole concept of being ... (read in full...)
We've gotten too serious! I want to break up but don't know how.
Q. I've been going out with this boy and we have gotten too serious. I want to break up with him, but I haven't got a reason. What can I do? Please help xxx...
A. 22 June 2007: The fact that the relationship is making you uncomfortable is enough of a reason to end it sweetie. I wouldn't just dump the guy without an explanation. Talk to him about how the relationship is too heavy and you don't want that at your age or ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell anyone!
Q. hi i am 16 and really scared. my bf just dumped me and i think i am pregnant. i dont know what to do because my dad and mum will kill me as we are catholic so i cant get rid of it either. he was 19 by he way and i am soo scared. the only other ...
A. 22 June 2007: Am glad everything worked out :)
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My mum says he likes me; I'm starting to like him too but I'm shy
Q. well i go to a resturant, but lately my mother had told me that this teenager guy, the same age as me 17, has been staring at me, and getting all happy just to see me; since my mother told me that, I kinda started noticing, but he has never tried to ...
A. 22 June 2007: I would swallow your fear and start talking to the guy. You may find that once you both get over the initial nerves you both have a nice chat. Also if you don't and this guy disappears would you look back and ask yourself what if?!
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I say I love him but I actually don't
Q. okay, so here's the skinny. at the begining of my relationship, i said " dont say you love me unless you mean it" and my boyfriend said, "okay". so then he says he loves me after like what? 2 weeks. and i really thought that i felt it too. but now ...
A. 22 June 2007: At your age I wouldn't expect you to feel like you "love" your boyfriend. Explain this to your partner and stop telling him that you do as it is a little misleading. Explain the "forever" business is a little to heavy for you and you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Is going on holiday with him so soon after meeting a good idea?
Q. i have met a nice guy a few weeks ago and we talked about going away..i am in travel and have the contacts so i booked and arranged everything.he said that he would book and arrange the next holiday. when i mentioned this to my mum she started ...
A. 22 June 2007: I agree with deejuliet this guy may be using you. Not only to get a good deal on a holiday but for other things. Do you know enough about this guy to go away with him? I don't think so. I think you should put off going away with this guy until you ... (read in full...)
We're young but I think it's love; should we try a relationship?
Q. me and one of my brothers friend got so close to haveing sex we r both in relationships but we cant help how we feel 4 each other; we r only 14 but i think it is love i need help we have always been close but recently when i met my current boyfriend ...
A. 22 June 2007: Neither of you should get any closer until you both have ended things with your current partners. If you really want to be with this guy end it with your boyfriend.
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I want commitment but he doesn't due to his past relationship. What should I do?
Q. Theres this completely gorgeous guy I know who has a great personality and charm, (lets call him Z) who apparently likes me. He's told our mutual friend that he misses me n that he thinks im gorgeous and so on. I really like him too. There are a few ...
A. 22 June 2007: Sit down and chat to this guy and explain that you like him but for it to go anywhere you need commitment, not to be played like with the women he's with now. I don't think that'll be setting yourself up at all.
Good luck!
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Does this boy with a girlfriend fancy me?
Q. Hi i really like this boy but he has a gf i am in all his lessons and he always stares at me and smiles and we really get on and i don't wanna hurt my friend is he trying tell me sumthing plz help ...
A. 22 June 2007: He might be but while he's with his girlfriend you should just be his friend. If he continues to stare at you have a quiet word and ask why.
Good Luck!
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 21 June 2007: Tell her you like her. Ok it does risk loosing her but you will look back and ask yourself what if???
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I think I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell anyone!
Q. hi i am 16 and really scared. my bf just dumped me and i think i am pregnant. i dont know what to do because my dad and mum will kill me as we are catholic so i cant get rid of it either. he was 19 by he way and i am soo scared. the only other ...
A. 20 June 2007: I completely agree with Dv1- get yourself to your doctor or local family planning clinic and get yourself tested so you can find out for sure.
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I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 13 June 2007: Explain to her that you do like her, and not play games, but tell her that your friendship you have with her is important to you and you dont want to loose her as a friend. You just had to be honest about your feelings.
Good luck
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