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writes:i feel betrayed as i found out my parnter had been having a sexual text relationship with an old work friend that lasted a few months,i discovered this only a month ago however this relationship started last october few weeks after our sons birthday. i also found out that he was visiting sites on his mobile that showed half naked women with tits etc hanging out. we are together actually engaged but i cant shake the feeling off hurt we have spoken about the whole scenario quite a bit, i have forgiven but i feel down, unattractive, and can't trust 100% am i being stupid and just forget the past even though i have forgiven, after all we are engaged! i know there are people going thru much worst but i can't help how i feel sorry to go on
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Just a few words:
Infidelity can occur physically AND emotionally. If he's engaging in sexual texting with another person, then I consider that infidelity, and I would treat it as such.
Good luck with that one.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (13 June 2007):
 I found a photo on my boyfriend's phone a few weeks ago of a "friend's" girly bits (I never know what to call it lol). I felt angry, betrayed and very, very sick. The fact I am carrying his child also played BIG TIME!
I had gone through his phone to transfer some photos to mine and my boyfriend was asleep in bed. I threw the phone at him and began to pack my stuff.
I felt betrayed and very hurt and most of all now I feel stupid. I forgave my partner as it was just the one photo and he says she sent it without him knowing she was sending it. I constantly want to check his phone now but I know that isn't a sane thing to do.
What I'm doing is giving it time. During the argument after I found the pic, and then the calm conversation after I told my partner I find anything like that again or hear it was something more than he'll be kicked to the curb as I cant stand cheating.
I still feel really low about myself, especially with the pregnancy and the stupidity feeling makes me feel worse. Also I cant shake the thought of him betraying me even though I do trust him.
Chat to your partner about how you feel. I do when I get down or the feeling of stupidity returns. If you want to chat more than drop me a message :)
xxxxxx
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