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writes:I need your help. I have started the process of dating after being widowed. I am now in my mid 40's and dating has changed significantly... I recently met a man online and we have been seeing each other for 2 months now. Things are going relatively well -- but we don't seem to agree on the rules for "bodily functions."He claims his whole family "belches and breaks wind" freely in front of each other and in public places. He wants me to accept this behavior as part of who he is. I believe it's more polite, or better manners to excuse yourself to another room to relieve yourself vs making the other person suffer. SO, WHAT ARE THE DATING RULES FOR FARTING? Reply to this Question
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reader, lisarocksyoursocksoff  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 well ther are the rules of manners? that's all i can think of
i just think that this man and you have been brought up differently, if it bothers you let him know, and see what he says and vice versa he may think you're overreacting.
i think that because it can be a sensitive subject for some people, but if you've already spoken about it then i don't see the harm of speaking about it again and maybe letting him know how much it bothers you?
compromise?
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reader, heyheyhey +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Lol well I think relationship is partly taking other person feelings into account - tell him how you feel and that it makes you uncomfortable in public. He should respect how you feel and try to not do it to make you feel awkard. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): He's not going to change at his age. Accept it, or move on.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (13 June 2007):
 I dont think are strict rules on this. I do agree with you though that it shouldn't be done in public.
talk about it with him about how it makes you feel and see if you can compromise on something.
Good luck
xxxxx
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reader, Beckto +, writes (13 June 2007):
 There are no hard and fast rules. Some people are fine with it, some are not.
If you two have talked about it and find that you don't agree, then try talking about it again to find a compromise. Don't let the subject get giggly, but take it as seriously as your open letter to us. If he starts to make light of it, say something to bring it back.
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reader, rachal +, writes (13 June 2007):
 OMFG! that is so discusting! ifeel terribly for you. the man may be maly and what not, but that is just unexcusable.
i think that if he refuses to quit, and if you asked him a numerous amount of time that he just doesn't have any respect for you. if that were me in that situation i would've left already! now, every once in a whle it's okay, but not every time he decides to eat that bean burrito! good grief! well best wishes to you and your mean green FARTING machine!
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reader, LauraE +, writes (13 June 2007):
I don’t know anyone that thinks it’s OK to belch and fart openly in front of friends and family. But I suspect if his whole family does it, then he has been doing it for a long time and he isn’t going to change. After all, he must have noticed that a lot of people do mind when he does it in public, and it hasn’t stopped him. Before long, you will know whether he takes this “me right, the whole world wrong” attitude to everything else as well. If so, I would leave him to enjoy the aromas on his own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): certain ppl may have medical conditions, like my mom she needs to belch in the mornings because she has some stomach problem and doc suggested it...
when it comes to dates, i duno, its all up to you..at least if u would need to belch or fart u wouldnt feel ashamed of doing it in front of him because he would accept it prlly.
i guess, as long as he treats you well, and makes u feel special 'n great that what really matters.
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reader, love-him +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hia babii, i totaly agree, thats the way ive been braught up (like you.. that its polite to not do it) but if this is the way he has been braught up it will be hard to stop it, even tho it seems hard to believe.. if you have talked to him and he doesnt see a problem with it then you need to either 'get used to it' or find someone more your type.. hope i helped x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): Oh my god, this guy sounds like a real character, I think he thinks his behavior is cute and funny and if you don't find it either, then he is not caring about how you feel....if he is this way on this minor subject, be in for a bumpy ride on the bigger issues!
But to answer your question about what are the dating rules for belching and farting? Not on your life if you want a second and maybe third date! LOL!
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