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I love listening to people and offering advice. What qualifies me is not much more than me having experienced much in my life and being a mother. I don't know everything bordering on knowing nothing. What I do know is that you can take an outsiders opinions and make a better judgment sometimes. I have been in a relationship for about a yr and a half. |
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What to do when I am sure my fiance is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend, the love of his life
Q. Okay, here it goes. I live with my fiancé and we each have our own computers and cell phones and don't share our passwords and have a level of privacy. He told me when we got serious that he didn't want me to have contact with my ex-boyfrien...
A. 5 June 2014: Omg...I agree with wise owl ... How did you stretch this supposed sticky note frm 2 yrs ago into cheating and how convienient to run out of sticky notes..either u have a gut suspicion that caused u to snoop or u are not trusting. U do sound jealous ... (read in full...)
How can I calm my fears before I see the Doctor for my appointment with Dr in 2 weeks time?
Q. Ok so I know everyone on here is going to tell me to see my Dr- I will do in 2 weeks time as that was the soonest appointment but in the mean time I just wanted some advice/ reassurance. I found 2 small pea size lumps on 1 side of my neck -at 1st ...
A. 3 June 2014: Well I can't say I can calm your fears but I can tell you I too had a lump in the back of my neck and it wasn't too big I sorta ignored it thinking it was a knot as I am always stressed then it started to grow... A lot I freaked out went to dr and ... (read in full...)
Do you think a girl that sleeps with every boyfriend is a whore?
Q. Hi!! The other day I was talking to my mom, and somehow she ended up telling me how she thinks that a girl that sleeps with all of her boyfriends is a whore. She didn't say strangers, or guys you have only known for a week or so, she meant real rel...
A. 12 November 2012: Im a 44 yr old woman, and NO I dont think a woman is a slut for sleeping with all of her boyfriends...
and jeezzzzz while so much about evolution is true...today women dont NEED to rely on men for security and men dont have to hunt, but boy they... (read in full...)
I would like to hear from other adult children of bitterly divorced parents
Q. My parents got divorced when I was 10. I feel like I'm only now (10+ years later) just getting over it and all the intentional hurt my mom caused me afterwards because of her hate for my dad and my likeness to him. Did anyone else have parents who...
A. 11 November 2012: This isn't an answer but a question to you, this question has me intrigued..what did your mom, and or parents do exactly do to cause you these awful feelings? and why are you just dealing with it now, is it your on your own, your age? my reasons for ... (read in full...)
If you can relate then please let me know. I am in love with my sister in law
Q. I am in love with my sister in law. I know that this is wrong but I am struggling against my feelings every day. I also know that nothing could ever happen between us. The devastation that that would bring to our families is too great. So why am...
A. 11 November 2012: WOW, usually i would just be upset with someone who was looking outside their marriage, but i found myself drawn to your dilemma.
First my question to you is why did you marry your wife if she wasn't the true love of your life? and then proc... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend's husband and I don't want it to end
Q. Last few months my best friend's husband and I have been sleeping together, last night he tells me he loves her and wants to break it off with me, I got mad and told him I don't want to end our relationship. What do I do? how do I keep him from ...
A. 8 November 2012: How can you call yourself a best friend?
more like the enemy.
Don't hurt her or yourself anymore...get an available man
don't let the cat out of the bag or if you do, move on and forget your so called friend..you will destroy her trust in "fr... (read in full...)
Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this ...
A. 4 November 2012: Was there a spark and now none?
My bf of 1.5 yrs broke up with me after 6 mo cause he wasnt "feeling it".
Then after 2 wks called me crying that he made a mistake that he was worried that I felt more than he did, us girls feel emotiona... (read in full...)
I'm married and have only slept with 2 women. Its bothering me. Is it midlife crisis?
Q. OK, heres my story. I know I dwell on things sometimes and often wonder why, but I am hoping for some good advice on this. Up until the age of 17 I was very insecure/backward. I never had a date until then. About the time I came out of my shell, I ...
A. 4 November 2012: Let me offer another idea a well,
first let me say sounds like your very happy in this relationship and I applaud you for never cheating or wanting too.
Maybe you are wanting to be a little bit more adventurous in the bedroom? if that's so maybe... (read in full...)
Husband made weird comment about 2 co-workers who have cheated. They are going on a business trip together. Should I worry?
Q. I need some advice on why my husband with say some things he said before leaving for a busines trip. He has a job that requires him to travel from time to time. He woke up this morning and was reading some work emails and he said he hated the idea...
A. 4 November 2012: I wont be popular here, but I am sorry I disagree with the rest of the Aunts on this one.
If your words are exactly how it went down in my personal experience when a man preempts something like that its almost like he's telling you something is g... (read in full...)
My wife has been keeping secrets from me. What did she do in Vegas?
Q. My wife and I were in Venice sitting on a hotel balcony overlooking the Grand Canal. We were joined by 2 girls in their mid 20s and a boy about the same age. Conversation let to what our favorite city was. When my wife's turn came she stated h...
A. 29 October 2012: I disagree with the other women who have answered sorry, omitting information is LYING, LYING to me equals serious deception when you should be transparent especially in a marriage. My mind immediately went to ":shes cheating" but I agree dont ... (read in full...)
The Ex factor. How do I stop becoming obsessed with my partner's ex girlfriends and ex-wife?
Q. I am doing my usual self-destructive stuff that is driving my new boyfriend away. Right now I feel sick to the stomach that I am at this again. Nearly every relationship I have become obsessed with their ex girlfriend/wife. Currently I am ...
A. 18 October 2012: I understand your position,
I too have been crazy with this girl that is after my man or that's what I heard and he sees her every Tuesday night as she is on his dart team.
I wish I had some news for us on how to deal with our insecuri... (read in full...)
B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?
Q. Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what ...
A. 17 October 2012: Yes at anonymous male, he told me about his unfaithfulness way before we got together. .and at anonymous female: I love the point that what shes doing means shes not closer to him its not working because she had to inform me of this..nice!... (read in full...)
If I say anything now it would destroy him? I do have a past from a LONG time ago. But is it best left unsaid?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. When we first got to know each other we spoke about our past a little and he wanted to see what kind of person I was. I knew where he stood with his past and he has only had sexual relations...
A. 17 October 2012: Leave the past there, sounds like you are truthful and loyal and this is all that matters from today forward, little indiscretions meant NOTHING to you, your relationship was new you handled it how you thought you should, as long as you stay true ... (read in full...)
B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?
Q. Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what ...
A. 17 October 2012: and yes if you see my old questions I certainly have trust issues that HE imposed upon me by lying to me about his whereabouts when i caught him at her house for "coffee" he swears they are just dart friends and it was just coffee but why lie then? ... (read in full...)
B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?
Q. Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what ...
A. 17 October 2012: Thanks Edddie85.. I did meet her twice once at darts after this "lie" because he wanted me to meet her and at the wake last month where she was obviously trying to get me upset by saying to me she was talking and texting him all week and kept repe... (read in full...)
B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?
Q. Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what ...
A. 17 October 2012: Lol sageoldguy1465...THANKS for making me LAUGH thank you you ade my night..but honestlyI cant take up darts because she is on the MENS team and if i do that then he will know my antics..plus i suck at darts plus the scummy places they play..no ... (read in full...)
I cant even find a decent guy for sex! Am I just unlucky, or is this the way its going to be now I'm getting older?
Q. I m in my early 40swith a grown child. I own a small business for many years now and did well for myself. I m not rich by any means, but deffinitely independent. All I m missing is love in my life. I m in good shape, considered to be above aver...
A. 16 October 2012: hmmm no I dont believe its your age...I agree with justaguy71..if you think you wont find someone..you wont..positive affirmations. Im in the same age pool and found an abundance of men, maybe i didnt like alot of them or vice versa but there is ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...
A. 5 October 2012: After you response OP I have to say I lost ALL sympathy for you..
you ASKED US would we suggest honoring your vows.
I already answered that with a personal resounding YES
but YOU clearly VIOLATED the VOWS and clearly DO NOT want this relati... (read in full...)
Since he was diagnosed with bipolar he's started flirting with other women online. How should I react to this?
Q. I'm a 23 year-old woman in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of two years. I'd recently been in a vacation in the month of May and post the vacation am really petrified to observe certain discreet behavioural changes in him. He was diagnose...
A. 3 October 2012: why do you want justification for something you deep down believe is wrong, your trying to see some good out of a very disrespectful position, no one, ill or not, treats the person they supposedly love with the lack of respect you have indicat... (read in full...)
I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...
A. 3 October 2012: Wow, what a tough situation, i am so sorry for your pain. Does your wife know you cheated, maybe she doesnt realize the extent of your pain,or how dire it is?
I am divorced and its by far the worst on the kids,
us adults we trade in our family f... (read in full...)
Since he was diagnosed with bipolar he's started flirting with other women online. How should I react to this?
Q. I'm a 23 year-old woman in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of two years. I'd recently been in a vacation in the month of May and post the vacation am really petrified to observe certain discreet behavioural changes in him. He was diagnose...
A. 3 October 2012: My EX-Husband is bipolar...is an awful decision maker, didnt have to leave him, he finally left with someone else....lesson learned..mentally ill people will take you on a roller coaster ride and if have children..YOU NEVER GET OFF THAT AWFUL GUT ... (read in full...)
Threesomes and the mess that comes with it... is this slutty behaviour?
Q. I am dating this girl who is without a doubt the greatest person I have ever met, however, I recently inquired about her having a threesome with two guys, mostly because I made a joke about us having a threesome with some random 10/10 I saw, then ...
A. 28 September 2012: Would it be slutty of you to have two girls at the same time? If not to you, then the answer is NO for her too, If you think its morally wrong for you then YES, then it is slutty... but I think men have double standards and quite honestly I a... (read in full...)
Struggling to forget the threesome she had in the past....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now and we are still and I hope will always be together. I actually am wanting to marry her some day. In the beginning through general conversion we found out something about each other such ...
A. 28 September 2012: Well my answer and advice is always, never ask a question if you don't want or cant handle the answer..It's in the past and if you are in love and this she is right for you and she as a young adult now realizes that cheating is not an option then ... (read in full...)
The wedding is planned, I have even ordered my dress but I'm becoming more and more insecure in my relationship because of my boyfriend's actions
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some advice. I am 30 and engaged. We are supposed to be getting married mid next year. My fiancée and I have been together for nine years. However for the past year I have been feeling less and less secure in the relation...
A. 28 September 2012: OH MY!
All the Aunts have said it all,
I am sorry, but how many clues do you need to smell a skunk?
He has his cake and can eat it too marrying someone who cant see the fire behind all the smoke.
How in the world did you accept all these... (read in full...)
Fiance's world revolves around his 16 year old daughter with asperger's
Q. Hi This is quite hard for me. My fiances daughter is nearly 16 and she has aspergers. I'm finding this very hard to cope with. Its like she's 10 always something wrong with her and when there is my partner has to drop everything and run for her,its ...
A. 23 September 2012: I agree with the others,
I have a teenage daughter with aspergers and other issues and SHE always comes first, sorry you seem unable or a bit immature in this reagard you with as many kids as you have should understand, plus HE or the child didn... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom has just died, would it be wrong of me to ask him to delete this girl from Facebook now?
Q. OK extension of a previous question or ongoing issue sorry so long, My BF broke up with me last Nov for 13 days started talking and befriending a new girl but they never made it on a date due to a death in her family, but he said he never really ...
A. 23 September 2012: Thank you all, tomorrow is the wake and Monday the funeral, we have been running non stop with preparations, I am oh so very tired..I do realize this exhaustion has brought up a lot of anxiety and insecurities in me..wow its so much easier to see ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom has just died, would it be wrong of me to ask him to delete this girl from Facebook now?
Q. OK extension of a previous question or ongoing issue sorry so long, My BF broke up with me last Nov for 13 days started talking and befriending a new girl but they never made it on a date due to a death in her family, but he said he never really ...
A. 21 September 2012: WOW, I am so honored to have such responses to my very real issue, all of you keeping me on track and well footed. I would spend more time thanking each of you individually but I have been planning a funeral all day(and its my birthday) I just want ... (read in full...)
7 year itch. Why would she leave without even talking to me and telling me what was wrong?
Q. I am still a little confused about why my wife left me. She says she left because I was having an affair with a friend of mine, which I wasn't and she knew this, we have been together for 7 years, always have been able to talk, but in the last few...
A. 18 September 2012: I am so sorry your going thru this.
My first gut reaction is she has met someone else and just left and really treated you and the marriage disrespectfully while not even talking to you or giving you the respect of a reason, what a wimp.
Ther... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems involving facebook. What should I do?
Q. It seems facebook is the source of all of our issues :/ I'm really insecure about myself and always end up comparing myself to other girls and my boyfriend and I have talked about this. We live together and he treats me so well, but we do have i...
A. 18 September 2012: Ok I have to agree with the anonymous male 1000% you lack self esteem too clingy and dont respect or love yourself, and you probably WILL find a way to be hurt and disagree with what we are both saying, Ive been in your shoes as a young 20 ... (read in full...)
My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.
Q. I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the ...
A. 18 September 2012: Depending what state you live in you can get affordable child care when its for work and or apply for welfare I know in NY they have a back to work program they train for jobs and assist in finding jobs as well as get your kids in childcare its a ... (read in full...)
My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.
Q. I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the ...
A. 17 September 2012: I agree 10000000% with Tisha...dont be an ostrich with your head in the sand...why would you stay in such a disrespectful situation you deserve more your kids deserve more..You dont have a marriage...sorry, so no do what Tisha says, Im divorced for ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend. I want a bit more but not a relationship, I don't know how to tell him without scaring him off. What do I do?
Q. I just got out an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago and I cant separate my feelings from sex. Ive always considered myself to have a high sex drive, but majority of the time I was in relationships, so I didnt have to have casual sex but I have ...
A. 15 September 2012: Yea my advice is...LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND ALONE!...imagine it IS my boyfriend..missy i would kick your ass then his. go find yourself a fwb until he is single and available for a fwb without a girlfriend...jeeeeeezzzzz Good luck.... (read in full...)
Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?
Q. This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...
A. 8 September 2012: I agree it depends on the age bracket..me in my forties , as long as he wanted sex and was intrested in having a great time for both it wouldnt bother me one bit, as oppossed to an ex boyfriend who had ed and never wanted sex or to even satisfy ... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 7 September 2012: He hasnt made you exclusive ..so he is online still searching for the "one" Im sorry if that hurts ..Ive been there myself..its not worth getting nutty over date ALOT be picky on who YOU want and WHO is YOUR ONE and that would mean behaving how your ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years with no talk of the future, is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Does anyone think it's normal to be in an exclusive dating relationship with a man for 2 years and still not know where the relationship is headed? We are both middle aged, own homes, spend 5 days a week together going back and ...
A. 6 September 2012: The more important question is are YOU happy with this? obviously not, so maybe he IS comfortable and this is ALL he wants..what is your move?
Can you deal with this forever ?
will you wait and hope for change?
If he wont talk about it and... (read in full...)
When a man treats his woman well: When did it become okay to commit or marry but then show no interest in a sex life with your man?
Q. I am talking about women in serious relationships who act like their man has no right to expect a decent sex life from them. Before you jump on me with the claws out, please listen to what I am saying and what I am not. I am not saying anyth...
A. 23 August 2012: And my question would flip that why is it that everytime I am in a serious relationship or married suddenly the sex goes down the drain?( I have posted about this very problem in the past),
I admit most of my male friends have complained about this... (read in full...)
My 40 year old boyfriend still lives with his mother
Q. My BF is 40 and lives with his mom how do i get him to move foward with our relationship and move out from her?...
A. 14 August 2012: Not alot of information to go on, today things are tough many live at home, dont know if there is other reasons beside financial that would keep him home. I am over 40 and moved back home isnt a problem for my BF also recently he moved back home ... (read in full...)
Preferably guys' opinions- Friendship between guys and girls, What do you think?
Q. I know a lot of experts on dearcupid.org think men normally don't befriend girls unless they want something more from the girls - either sex or romance. So what do you guys think about this?Do you agree that a lot of the time, guys and girls b...
A. 14 August 2012: I have mostly male platonic friendships for a million years...with that said I need to point out that most women have difficulty being friends with men because either the male fancies them or vice versa, but I feel that it DEPENDS on the girl in ... (read in full...)
Three months and he treats me well. But do you think his relationship with his ex could be a stumbling block?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He's good to me, treats me well. I just have some concerns about his relationship with his ex. He works for her, plays sports with her, they have children together, and he's at her place a lot....
A. 13 August 2012: You seem like a reasonable woman...how can he be over someone who is still in his life? If hes bringing her up that much he may not realize it but subconsciously he is still involved with her.
I understand being friends with an ex as I am one,... (read in full...)
Facebook messages have him convinced I'm cheating
Q. My boyfriend got into my facebook account and saw messages off other guys. I didn't reply to them but I also didn't tell them to go away or delete the people off my friends list. A few weeks after tha he asked to c my phone but my inbox and outbox ...
A. 10 August 2012: I agree with everyone here but I would like to add.... anyone this controlling and jealous..may be hiding his own secrets and projecting..hmmm just a thought either way..dump him controlling men can sometimes become even more abusive..be careful. ... (read in full...)
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