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writes:Sigh* so lately I have been stressing out about what most guys stress out on. My penis size. I am about 4 inches long only and as for girth I'm not really sure but I know it is not that big either. It's been bothering me because everybody makes fun of me and it bugs me even though most of them hasn't even seen it. The fact of me being Asian as well plays a huge role in the embarrassment. It's like I fit the stereo type of Asians being short in height and penis size. Also a lot of things I read online always talks about how it is not on your size but how you use it that counts. Well I have a lot of friends that are girls and all of them says that their ex who had the bigger penis felt better because he was bigger. It really bugs me so when girls ask about my size I usually say "no comment" or lie that it's bigger. Basically what I'm asking is if there is a way I can increase my size without surgery or drugs. Just natural. And how can I move past the size issue. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): You have to learn to laugh at this shit at some point, or it will eat you alive.
It isn't your penis, or how you use it, it is about YOU and how you satisfy your lover...and nobody does that with a penis.
If anyone asks you how big you are, lie and tell them
"Eight inches, or I was,
but I donated half to charity.
but it started getting out of hand and I cut half of it off.
but my ex got half in our divorce.
but I traded it in for something more manageable in the 4 inch range.
but it started arguing with me and I had to cut it down to size.
but Lance Armstrong took half and injected it to win the Tour de France.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): The girls you're talking to are around your age, too (no offense) and at that age, they have no idea what makes for good sex. As long as you're a great lover, there probably won't be any issues for you. A lot of women prefer romance and someone who knows what they're doing in bed to someone with a "big penis". It's like women with smaller breasts (me)... all you need is a hand full!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): I agree with the other posters here. The average size is generally agreed to be somewhere between five and six and a half inches long, so you're pretty close to average. Plus you are age 16-17 so it might grow some more...be patient and don't focus on measuring your exact size. You are well within the normal range! And for some people to be a bit above average, some people have to be a bit below. And tons of those smaller guys have sex.I know it's not fun to hear girls talk about penis size. I'm average size and sometimes feel self-conscious about it especially when penis size comes up in conversation. If you're asked and want to share you can just tell them normal size since that's true. However I think the best thing to do is to develop your confidence. I think if you can develop a strong relationship with someone penis size won't matter...plus you're close to average anyway so there's no doubt you can do what you need to do. Don't focus on how to make it bigger because there isn't really any way to change it. Just appreciate and make the best what you have because really, it's normal size.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 October 2012):
 You're average. What more is there to say? If you know what average means it means: every other guy on the globe has a penis like yours. Sadly, you're no big exception.
As for the Asian stereotype, take it with a laugh. I have a half Thai guy at work, when I asked him where he was from his first comment was that he was half Thai, BUT HE HAD A BIG PENIS. Lol. He just made a joke out of it.
Seriously though, just laugh it away. Those who want to find out if the stereotype is correct or not will just have to wait until they are in a relationship with you to find out, now wont they?
Your female friends are immature and don't know half about what they actually like or don't like. They just repeat the same old clishe thing, because they honestly don't know any better. Ask them if anyone of them have ever managed to bring themselves to an orgasm for example. Those who haven't have no clue how to satisfy themselves, so why would they have a clue about what a man can do to satisfy them? They know squat. So don't worry about what they have to say. You're not in a relationship with them, so their opinion honestly doesn't matter.
You don't want to increase your size, that's ridiculous. You're average, your fine, and your penis is great just the way it is. Trying to make it bigger is stupid.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 October 2012):
 These girls have no clue what they are talking about to be honest...
women don't even really get what sex is all about till they are 35 or so.. but I've only ever met women over that age who understand that... I didn't at 16 I thought sex was great.... ha... little did I know..
now as for what most mature adult women want in a partner in the bedroom...
a talented tongue.
seriously... perfect your oral and your digital skills and when folks say stuff about their ONE penis (which btw is pretty much eventually gonna be a ONE shot deal most nights) you can say that you have only ONE tongue and ONE penis but you have TEN fingers...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): I'm 23 and have just over 5 inches in length, and the same in girth.
This whole topic has been playing on my mind a great deal in the last few months. I guess I've gone to some dark places with it, getting "small penis humiliation" over phone sex lines for example, reading forums where female usernames mock the idea of guys less than 7 inches, reading on adult dating websites how most women on there want "very well endowed or don't contact me". I remember once at work a guy slept around a good deal and the girls began spreading that he had a small dick, they took such glee in it too. I guess in some ways it's one of the few things you can't physically change about yourself that is still fair game to use as a verbal weapon against someone. Interestingly I asked a few girls (models and all) what they geniunely thought about the size issue, even if they offered sph, and they routinely said it doesn't actually matter to them unless it's obscenely large to the extent of looking like it'd damage you, or so small you really can't do anything with it (4 inches isn't close to that small).
3 or below is when it's a serious problem, I'd think, and even then I don't want to write anyone off. I won't lie and say you might never encounter problems with 4 inches. It's on the smaller side of average. Some girls won't be interested because of this. Not even just size queens, but girls you do prefer six inches or so. Those girls that laugh now will grow up and some of them would still snigger if you met them at my age and they saw you naked. There's no point in lying and saying "size doesn't matter" as if it's universal. Sometimes it will.
However... I think they're a minority. Certainly a girlfriend you're close with, generally, won't be too bothered. I know a friend of mine in a loving relationship that's been going on for a long time is apparently underendowed because another friend told me about it.
What you need to do is own it. You don't just have a penis, so it's not like you need to rely on it completely. Be confident. Responsive. Inventive. Thinking of it the other way round, if a girl was loose, I bet she could easily still get me off and I'd still find her deeply attractive if she had everything else going on. I'm not even talking about fitting the model criteria, cos I doubt you or I do, but just presenting yourself well, being a likable guy and true to yourself. Maybe we'd need to work at it a bit more than if she were tight, or I were bigger, but I think it'd work. So best to avoid these topics in public and keep it for someone you trust. And if you ever end up in a situation where a girl who seemed into you changes her mind because of your penis size, whatever. It'll hurt, but just remember there are women out there who won't care, and there will be a lot of them.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (20 October 2012):
 What they are saying is typical of young immature girls. They know very little of what they are actually talking about, it is just the thing to say when you are younger. You brag to friends about all sexual escapades. The first anon poster had it right, you are in the average range. And though it may bother you now, it will all be okay in time. I have been with one guy that was pretty large and the sex never stopped being painful. Everyone else I've been with were the same size roughly, around 5 inches give or take. So you arent a freak and you don't have to worry. When a girl really loves you and you become intimate she won't give 2 shits what your penis size is and that's the truth. Don't get insecure by some immature teenage girls that are obviously promiscuous and bragging. As for drugs to increase size I wouldn't know. What I would reccomend is to never put yourself down over your size, be confident in your abilities. Learn what you are doing with your mouth as well. You won't get any complaints. But no girl likes to hear an insecure guy moan about his small penis size.
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reader, xAx  +, writes (20 October 2012):
 it really does the depend on the person. I've had from 4 to 8 inches and I love 4 inches. for me, it means we can do every position comfortably and he can thrust harder and quicker on me and it doesn't hurt, ever. 8 inch penis really hurts me, we had to go slow for ages before i felt like he could thrust harder. so please ignore those girls, they are just being horrible to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): Guess how long the average penis is? 4-5 inches. Guess how long the average vagina is? 4-5 inches. This is so you both fit toghether. Maybe being labelled as being average isn't what you were hoping for, but wouldn't you rather have comfortable sex with a girl than it be painful for her? Is that what you want? The guy with the worlds longest penis passes out whenever he gets an erection. Is that what you want? I don't know about other people but I always find this think women say about penis size to be rediculous. I have had better sex with my boyfriend now than with any other man I've ever been with. And let me tell you, his isn't the biggest. But the sex is better because I am so much more comfortable with him than I am with anyone else. You need to find the right girl, and when that day comes, she won't care how big it is. As for drugs, there probably aren't, and if they are, then they don't sound too safe to me. If your friends continue to make fun of you, just say something like, "can you make her ***? Well she's probably faking her orgasms then". That'll shut him up.
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