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41-50,
*lick
writes:I have been seeing this girl for 3 months. Now we are long distance. I suddenly had a job meeting in her city so I took a flight and got suddenly there. Upon leaving I told her I was coming. She said she was busy but she ll try to see me that night, my only night. Got there and she went to the gym rather than see me, so I went out with a friend to dinner. After that she had some evening classes so I said let's meet after. But no she had some stuff to do after. So I told her come over after. She said no she was super tired and needed some sleep. So I said just come over to sleep together. She said no. Told me to stay in town tomorrow so we can meet. But I told her I can't I have to go back to work. I just flew over here don't you fell she should put some more effort?All this for me is a no go. What you think?
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reader, ulick +, writes (16 October 2012):
ulick is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok its over. This is what happened.In the end I extended my stay since the work appointment got rescheduled and so I stayed a night more.We met in the mid afternoon and there was definitely a distance. I was bitter not trying to show it, and she was just distant. We spend couple of hours together but I could feel things where over. Anyway we separated since I had a meeting and we kissed and hugged and said to met up later.So after my meeting I texted her to meet. She said she was really tired but she come to the movie. We went there was no room by I with a lot of effort managed to sneak both of us in. We sat next to each other, I first held her ands but she was alof then, stopped holding it to see if she made any approaches but she did not for half a long terrible movie. I just walked out and left her there.Really, she knew I was really into her but if she did not reciprocate she just had to say it instead of wanting to go long distance. I could not stand it anymore so I walked out.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (16 October 2012):
 I agree with the other posters, she just isn't that into you. She couldn't make any time at all to see you and chose to do other things (the gym? Really?) rather than be with you. I would understand if it were spur of the moment and she had work and school, but then at the very least she would stay the night with you. But she made other plans altogether. This is a girl who is not interested, sorry.
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (16 October 2012):
How was the relationship going? Was she consistent? Was there a plan to see each other anytime soon? Is it a cyber relation? Do you have feelings for each other? Cause it's not normal for a woman who's having a LDR to go to the gym instead of spending the only day and night with her bf!! That's unacceptable!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 October 2012):
 I think she is not that into you
and you should not put forth any more effort.
when my husband and I were LDR (the first year we were a couple) we took every chance we could to be together... even if it was just my crawling into bed to sleep with him....
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