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writes:Its been a year now since my bf and I broke up. He cheated on me and shortly after we broke up he was in a relationship with her. We were together for three years. I haven't spoken seen or spoken to him since we broke up. It took me a while to get over the depression but I can't help but wonder if I even still cross his mind or if him and her are still together. I don't know why I find myself constantly thinking about him after so long.would it be a bad idea to contact him just to see how he is doing? I don't know what to do.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (10 October 2012):
 DO NOT contact him. He already crushed you by cheating on you. He has made no attempt to talk to you in a year. And if you contact him then you are the one who still cares and is pining away after all this time. He will know, and it will do nothing to contact him but set you back after the progress you made. It doesn't matter if he is with this girl anymore or not. If he were interested in speaking to you then he would've. Can you imagine how crappy it would feel to call him and hear he's still happily with the woman he cheated on you with...? Save yourself the heartache because there is no positive gain from this at all. It's natural to still be heart broken, even after a year. Have you tried dating anyone else yet? After such a long time away from your ex it is a good time to try moving on. Most likely you feel lonely and are reminiscing about times spent with him. I've been there. But you don't want to be with him anyway, he cheated on you and always remind yourself of that when you are missing him. After dating I eventually found someone serious and I moved on from the past. You should do the same.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 dont even think about it.. If he wants to contact you and check if youre ok then he will,. He is the one who cheated not you.that showed he dont care about you. Dont call him
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): I would contact him and get over your demons. Sometimes we just need them as friends in order to get closure. Dont contact him expecting a relationship as you might get disappointed. If you can handle friendship - I dont see any harm. Good luck. Sometimes the heart over rules what the brain tells us.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 I would advise you not to contact him as he's probably moved on in life, if he was so interested he would have contacted you after all this time, a year is a longtime to wait.
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