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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Why does my LDR boyfriend talk to strangers about his fetishes?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I find it strange that he talks openly about his fetishes with people, especially strangers. Yesterday he mentioned something about a girl he met online offering to buy him a shirt related ...
A. 5 February 2015: he may just have lousy boundaries. I think your idea of saying to him "how would you feel if I was texting my sexual desires to some guy I met online?" and see what he says.... (read in full...)
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A. 5 February 2015: He sent you a message that said: "sick yesterday, i love you, and will message you when i get out of bed".
well the fact that he sent it on xbox confuses me, why wouldn't he just call you or text you? why do you guys use x box to communicate?... (read in full...)
Why does my LDR boyfriend talk to strangers about his fetishes?
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A. 5 February 2015: ok... wait... is he being sexual with these people or just talking to them about what interests him and they are friends offering to send stuff as friends?
there is a big difference between him being sexual with others and just being more o... (read in full...)
First partners and oral sex?
Q. When you dated your first boyfriend, did you give him oral sex?...
A. 4 February 2015: My very first "boyfriend" NO
my first SERIOUS boyfriend (we dated 2.5 years as teens) yes. but not right away and NEVER when it was asked for or demanded. usually AFTER I was satisfied...
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He's my Best friend's brother and 3-4 years younger than me (I'm 19) and I'm falling for him. How can I get over him?
Q. Hi I am in a dilemma. A while back my friend had a birthday party, which we all had alcohol. I had just a bit too much and started hanging all over my friend's brother, crying into his shoulder. It ended with us almost making out, but she w...
A. 4 February 2015: 3-4 years difference is NOT bad once everyone is past 21...
until then there are huge emotional and mental differences and they can NOT be ignored.
I like the idea of visiting away from your friend's home and if he won't back off (after you ... (read in full...)
Why does my LDR boyfriend talk to strangers about his fetishes?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I find it strange that he talks openly about his fetishes with people, especially strangers. Yesterday he mentioned something about a girl he met online offering to buy him a shirt related ...
A. 4 February 2015: The anonymity of the internet makes many people brave.
there are many sites where you can go and create a profile that can't be traced back to you and talk of your fetishes with other people who understand.
Have you ever met this boyfriend y... (read in full...)
Fighting over contact... Who's wrong?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 4.5 years. We've been bickering over how long we go without contact. Such as, I haven't heard from him since 3pm yesterday. That's currently over 24 hours. This, to him, is okay and not a problem in any way. This, ...
A. 4 February 2015: Does he know how you feel about contact? Have you told him "I like daily contact in some form" if so... what did he say? IF not, well then you really don't have a right to be upset with him.
Sounds to me like you "stalk him" online... he... (read in full...)
I found out he lied about having a girlfriend, does that mean he isn't serious about her?
Q. Hi Agony people! I met this guy the other day and he seemed nice and chatty. He told me he was a year younger than he actually is too. I asked him on the qt unknownst to him if he had a girlfriend and he sad no. I thought he was geniune and a really ...
A. 4 February 2015: Multiple questions from you about this....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-guy-serious-about-his-girlfriend-or.html
you say "i'm not interested in him now" but you are expending a LOT of psychic energy on this... perhaps you ... (read in full...)
Is he the Roof Police?
Q. I rented this flat, however, the landlady lives abroad so the only contact person is her cousin, who is a nice chap and all. Everything was going great until the weather conditions, rain, sleet, snow, hail you name it began... I've been having ...
A. 4 February 2015: OH you are on the top... yes that explains it.. it's possible the roof has a leak that has not yet gotten to YOUR ceiling as there is probably space between your ceiling and the roof.
It sounds like it might be legitimate and that the cousin w... (read in full...)
My OCD makes it near impossible to date. How do I deal with this with a new person I might date?
Q. I'm a 37 year old man. Haven't dated in about 15 years. I don't get asked out, likely because I'm not physically attractive (been told this multiple times). I have OCD. Actually a subset of this (~20%) which results in obsessive, obtrusive thoughts ...
A. 4 February 2015: IF the SSRI you are currently on is not working then I suggest you discuss it with your psych to see if switching to another medication would help.
Does your OCD spill over into other parts of your life or is it JUST about your love life?
... (read in full...)
My husband wears his stinky socks, and wears them and wears them and wears them!
Q. My husband wears his thermal underwear for 3 or more days in a row and after wearing them all day, will also wear them to bed. He will also wear his stinky socks and take them off and leave them by the bed and put them back on in the morning. I ...
A. 4 February 2015: If your issue is not with his thermals but just with his feet... then every night when he takes his socks off... just pick them up replace them with a fresh pair and put the stinky pair in the wash.
This does not solve the long term problem... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman and I'm very confused and afraid
Q. HUSBAND LEFT ME TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN Married for 16 Years to a man I thought was my prince charming. We are both drinkers in fact he didn't drink when we first met I did. We were both married but we both got divorced and remarried before t...
A. 3 February 2015: OP, if he has gone to rehab and is doing AA then even if you don't make any changes your relationship with him will change dramatically. Since you are not to make any drastic changes for one year into your recovery, it may take time to see it but ... (read in full...)
Affair, sex, drugs, lies ... I've got the lot!
Q. So I have been having an affair for the past 8 months ( yes I know I'm the biggest idiot / careless / reckless / selfish person Ass hole in the world) and yes I am asking for help from people who will judge me and make comment Althoe the ...
A. 3 February 2015: build a taller fence and go to AA/NA meetings for your alcohol and drugs and Al-anon or Coda for your addiction to each other.
that's my advice. Hope it helps. ... (read in full...)
Can people really change when they realise what they have lost?
Q. Hello cupids. My problem is simple and has happened hundreds of times - my boyfriend of 4.5 years refused to give me a proper commitment or answers about the future, and eventually I got together enough courage and told him I was leaving. Fast...
A. 3 February 2015: If you don't want to waste time with him, it's been 4.5 years.
He has to put his money where his mouth is.
that means he shows up on bended knee with a ring and a date to get married.
IF he can't make the commitment now to set the da... (read in full...)
I can't stand him but I still need him for some things. Should I break things off?
Q. I am currently in a reaionship which is due to be a year this february. I do not and can never like him. We women date for two reasons, either for love or because we need something from the guy. Yes I needed something from the guy and i know he ...
A. 3 February 2015: “We women date for two reasons, either for love or because we need something from the guy”
NO YOU do that OP… do NOT speak for ALL women. How utterly offensive.
How can you consider it a relationship when you don’t like the guy and kno... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman and I'm very confused and afraid
Q. HUSBAND LEFT ME TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN Married for 16 Years to a man I thought was my prince charming. We are both drinkers in fact he didn't drink when we first met I did. We were both married but we both got divorced and remarried before t...
A. 3 February 2015: Dear Valentine 59,
I feel your confusing and your pain. My husband is completing his first 28 days of alcohol rehab as we type. Being clean and sober is a gift to himself and to our marriage. I told him he had to make a choice; me or the al... (read in full...)
Acne, a genetic skin condition and scars from an accident. How can I overcome by body insecurities that are ruining my life?
Q. I am very happy I found this site. I am very insecure with my body to the point to where I sometimes just look in the mirror and cry. I have been in 2 relationships. Both of them ended basically because of my body insecurities/iss...
A. 3 February 2015: HALF the fun of a new lover is laying in bed after making love doing the "where'd this scar come from" game.
there is a great scene in the movie "working girl" with Harrison Ford. He has a huge scar on his chin and they often incorporate ... (read in full...)
Is he the Roof Police?
Q. I rented this flat, however, the landlady lives abroad so the only contact person is her cousin, who is a nice chap and all. Everything was going great until the weather conditions, rain, sleet, snow, hail you name it began... I've been having ...
A. 3 February 2015: have you asked him why a new roof requires so much maintenance?
maybe your terrace is the only easy access to the roof?
if you are concerned can you ask your landlord via email?... (read in full...)
My husband wears his stinky socks, and wears them and wears them and wears them!
Q. My husband wears his thermal underwear for 3 or more days in a row and after wearing them all day, will also wear them to bed. He will also wear his stinky socks and take them off and leave them by the bed and put them back on in the morning. I ...
A. 3 February 2015: Does he know why you are on the couch?
have you talked to him about his hygiene?
Has his hygiene always been sub-par?
do you do the laundry?
is he bathing every 3 days?
need more answers before I can comment
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't have sex because she's so embarrassed of her body!
Q. My girlfriend was around 400 pounds at one point. When her and I got together she was about 200 pounds and still is. I love her a whole lot and have been together for almost 3 years. She has discussed with me how much she wants to make love with me ...
A. 3 February 2015: I get her feelings. I used to be 300 pounds at 5'2" I got down to 135 and needed plastic surgery to repair the skin. Before that I was horrified at my sagging everything.
I wore short nighties with under wires for the bra
I wore CA... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his spoiled child and the psychotic ex. Am I even ready for what I'm getting into?
Q. Should I break up with my boyfriend because he has a child? We're bo in our late twenties, and he had a child with his ex 7 years ago. He absolutely adores his child, and he's a great father, but unfortunately, due to difficult circumstances he...
A. 3 February 2015: You have every right to be somewhat selfish as this is NOT your child.
You never have to love a stepchild but it helps. I loved my step daughter like my own child. Even though her dad and I are not together if she called me today I would be... (read in full...)
My wife's day is filled with pills, potions and quackery!
Q. Until a couple of years ago we were the average happy middle aged couple but then things began to turn for the worse. My wifes day is now spent worrying unrealistically about her health. She imagines every spot, pimple or ache is serious and needs ...
A. 3 February 2015: I suggest that you find a counselor for YOU. That you focus on making yourself healthy and happy and learn how to deal with her by using loving detachment.
YOU cannot fix her. YOUR job is to take care of yourself 100% and do what you need to ... (read in full...)
Guys and sex with some they don't like (or even despise) and the intimacy of that sex!
Q. Is it possible for a 24-26 year-old guy (who gets horny pretty frequently and easily) to get it up and have casual sex with someone he doesn't like, nor finds attractive, AND most importantly someone he finds extremely annoying? If he doesn't ...
A. 3 February 2015: There is an old saying "women need a REASON to have sex, Men just need a PLACE"
I too wonder WHY you are asking.
Some couples in open relationships have sex with people and it means nothing... some have rules that say "no kissing" some ... (read in full...)
Would a man stay with a woman for nearly 4 years if he didn't love her?
Q. If your were scared of commitment, would you be with someone for nearly four years. but not live with her. Get close and then pull away again and then repeat. Despite illness on both sides, the rows maybe a couple days of calming down but...
A. 3 February 2015: OP, I'm sorry I'm late to the question but I have to respond.
Would he stay if he didn't love you... yes.
would he commit to live with you and marry you... maybe
is it going to get any better in terms of commitment from him
probably n... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has went no contact should I pay for his car insurance?
Q. For a while now I've thought may bf of 4th has been seeing somebody else, he wworks away and I don't really see him anymore, we spoke on the phone or via txt most days,anyway 2weeks ago was the last I spoke to hihim, we spoke about him coming bk ...
A. 30 January 2015: do not pay his car insurance why were you paying it in the first place??
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Husband wants oral sex 2-3 times a week but sex only once a month?
Q. I have been married for for 3 years together for 13. I've been haveing this issue with him for 2 1/2 years. He wants oral sex about 2-3x per week, but no sex. We have sex once every 6months only if I intiate it. I have spoken to him about it ...
A. 29 January 2015: When my husband and I first got serious we were very sexual and I started the "sunday morning is for blow jobs" rule. this meant that I would WAKE him with said activity. He did NOT have to ask.....
time goes on, life gets busy and comfortable ... (read in full...)
Is my 61-year-old husband fooling around inside the health club? Or am I just paranoid?
Q. My 61 year-old-husband has a health club membership to use the sauna/shower/steam room. He does not go there to exercise. He is there a few times a week to shower after work before coming home. Is there cause for me to be concerned?? Is it p...
A. 27 January 2015: Well OP you are not being Judged. You are just being shown WHY you don't trust your spouse. He's not trustworthy and you know this for a fact.
I doubt that anything we say or do will help.
You say you have a 6th sense about him but yet yo... (read in full...)
Is my 61-year-old husband fooling around inside the health club? Or am I just paranoid?
Q. My 61 year-old-husband has a health club membership to use the sauna/shower/steam room. He does not go there to exercise. He is there a few times a week to shower after work before coming home. Is there cause for me to be concerned?? Is it p...
A. 26 January 2015: OH OP.... "he cheated on his last wife with me"
yeah well Karma's a bitch....
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not passionate or sexual
Q. I love my boyfriend of 43 but he has an incredibly low sex drive. He says he just doesn't think about it much. He's definitely not gay or sexually frustrated or confused. He doesn't like lingerie or porn and is not visual with women and doesn't ...
A. 26 January 2015: You can't fix mismatched sex drives.
either get his permission to take a lover and stay with him or let him go and find someone you are better suited to.... (read in full...)
I can't give girlfriend a vaginal orgasm and it upsets me!
Q. hi, my girlfriend of 8 months has had 15 previous 'lovers' compared to my 2, and she slipped up to day when we were talking about orgasms, she said she has had a vaginal orgasm but not with me, i can make her orgasm through the clitoris no problem ...
A. 26 January 2015: TECHNICALLY ALL orgasms are clitoral. it's just that the rubbing internally of the vaginal walls stimulates the clitoris.
she's orgasmic with you. that's all that matters.
... (read in full...)
Is my 61-year-old husband fooling around inside the health club? Or am I just paranoid?
Q. My 61 year-old-husband has a health club membership to use the sauna/shower/steam room. He does not go there to exercise. He is there a few times a week to shower after work before coming home. Is there cause for me to be concerned?? Is it p...
A. 26 January 2015: I used to belong to a lovely club that had a sauna, a steam room, and a whirlpool.
while I did take classes, I used the above mentioned items also. they were in the woman's locker room and nowhere near any men.
what makes you not tr... (read in full...)
Is marriage really as bad as it looks?
Q. I've noticed that when married people talk about marriage, they rarely sound happy. It's usually described as hard work, a battle, or a series of ups and downs. It's a land of expanding waistlines, pointless arguments, sweatpants, crying babies, and ...
A. 26 January 2015: When I met my now husband his words were "marriage is stupid I'm never getting married" OK fine with me I've been married and I don't need to get married... (in fact unless you are having children I can see never getting married at all)
NOT... (read in full...)
Its a very delicate subject ......
Q. I have a problem with my mother in law who likes to sit on my husbands lap for photos - not every time but just when she feels like it that is what she does. She just gets up off a chair and sits on their lap and this seems 'normal' to them but not ...
A. 24 January 2015: FWIW I would not allow my sons to sit on my lap
I would not sit on my daddy's lap past puberty.
I think it's a personal comfort level for folks.
as almost everyone here has said... it does not and would not bother them. I might not b... (read in full...)
Marriage woes after 2nd baby
Q. Dear People, I would like some advice on some marriage problems I am facing, which have peaked since having my 2nd baby, 3 weeks ago. I am recovering from a brutal c-section - my second - and still in immense pain. Husbamd is generally a goo...
A. 23 January 2015: not only are you struggling with the loss of your mom (I am sorry for that) i lost my mom at age 35. Men do not get it and women who did not lose their mom early (before menopause in my opinion) don't get that.
you are full of post baby hor... (read in full...)
I told him no contact and I blocked him, but he got mad. Should I unblock him to send him one last message?
Q. I started No Contact on Sunday so that I could start healing from my ex (of 10 months). Before cutting him off, I sent a one liner email saying "I wish you the best." Then blocked him on Facebook and erased him from my messenger contact list. ...
A. 23 January 2015: I like to wait sometimes to see what other folks say.
in this case everyone has said exactly what I was thinking
my first thought was... NO you owe him NOTHING
my second thought was "wait does he KNOW why you are going NC? if not yes he... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 23 January 2015: ok so MONEY is not a problem NOW
now you say she's crossing boundaries.... which boundaries is she crossing in her own home?... (read in full...)
He was in a FWB a few years ago with an older woman. How can I get over my disgust at what he did in the past?
Q. My 27-year-old boyfriend went through a really rough time in his life a few years ago, which led him to make a huge mistake. He let this woman (10-15 years older than him) to throw herself at him and spend money on him just so that she could have ...
A. 22 January 2015: OP based on your follow up i suggest you RUN far and fast.
not only do you have RJ with this guy the entire family (based on your take of the conversation with his mom) has boundary issues.
This will clearly not end well. The family ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend lied about being married, should I keep dating him? He only sees his wife once a year
Q. Started dating a guy in the army back in June, it was more casual than anything else. Then the last few months it got more serious and I could tell me was falling in love with me. When I first went to his place I asked him if he was married as there ...
A. 22 January 2015: does WANTING to continue to see him make you a bad person?
no it makes you human
does actually continuing to see him present other issues..
yes... I suggest if you WANT to continue being his little something something on the side ... (read in full...)
First she flirted a lot. Now she's not replying. What should I do? Try to contact her asap this week, or wait until next week?
Q. I met a great girl at a friends party on Saturday. She just flew in from the other side of the country since she is moving here (I'm in LA) and we both had a ton of common interests. She started up the conversation with me, playfully hit my ...
A. 22 January 2015: don't call and text... unless you text to say "I want to call you and ask you something when is a good time?"
if you call and she does not answer leave a message...
... (read in full...)
He was in a FWB a few years ago with an older woman. How can I get over my disgust at what he did in the past?
Q. My 27-year-old boyfriend went through a really rough time in his life a few years ago, which led him to make a huge mistake. He let this woman (10-15 years older than him) to throw herself at him and spend money on him just so that she could have ...
A. 21 January 2015: "according to my boyfriend"
is there someone else in his family you could get the truth from... all you are getting is his spin on his POV to make him look like "the good guy"
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ruining our relationship with video games. How do I get him to stop?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7months, and we are in a long distance relationship. We see each other for 2 weeks a month, so we get to see each other as much as we can. Things were going fine, but he is very addicted to video games, and he's 27 ...
A. 21 January 2015: my husband and I met gaming (in real life playing board games) he also plays on an MMO and we were LDR for the first year we were dating.
It was not till close to the end of the LDR part that he started gaming on "my time" (i.e weekends when we ... (read in full...)
Would a memorial tattoo put off a future partner?
Q. Me and my ex mutually agreed that it wasn't working as a couple because we had been friends for over a decade before dating and that felt more like us than the time we'd spent trying to be a couple. After breaking up, we found out she was pregnant ...
A. 21 January 2015: well if all you want to know is if a person will be put off by a tattoo you have then it will be totally dependent on the person.
My current husband would not marry me till I covered a tattoo that i had that represented something and someone ... (read in full...)
She has changed but I love her and don't want to throw 2 years down the drainpipe!
Q. Here goes, I’ve been with her for 2 years, everything was great, she started uni 6 months into our relationship (i’ve always worked full time), her starting uni never bothered us, we worked through it, didn’t argue and we were good… In September s...
A. 21 January 2015: you guys are over you are just both going to drag it out till one of you meets someone who fits better than what you two have now.
She doesn't love you... she's cheating on you.
she is breaking up with you so she can have sex with other ... (read in full...)
Where to Now? And how to stop this jealousy too?
Q. I wrote in a few months ago about an argument between me and my boyfriend. I had gone on his phone as he had been hiding it everytime he got a message which made me doubt what he was upto. I know I shouldn't have but I needed to know as it was ...
A. 21 January 2015: IF he is taking his phone with him everywhere and is not letting you see it, then you not trust him with your past history is justified.
He tried to kiss your BEST friend for goodness sake? and you forgave him that... good for you.
but ... (read in full...)
My in-laws are difficult to live with
Q. I've been living with my in laws because of financial reasons. My mother in law put heaps of pressure on us despite being in a bad financial position. I had lost my job and got no redundancy. But she said don't worry about it. Then didn't help. Yet ...
A. 21 January 2015: how is letting you live in their home NOT helping you out?
what do you do to help out around the house?
are you living with them RENT free? that's more than enough help.
If you can't afford to move out and you are not happy with ... (read in full...)
First she flirted a lot. Now she's not replying. What should I do? Try to contact her asap this week, or wait until next week?
Q. I met a great girl at a friends party on Saturday. She just flew in from the other side of the country since she is moving here (I'm in LA) and we both had a ton of common interests. She started up the conversation with me, playfully hit my ...
A. 21 January 2015: it's possible she has not seen the message.
I would CALL her and ask her out.... (read in full...)
He was in a FWB a few years ago with an older woman. How can I get over my disgust at what he did in the past?
Q. My 27-year-old boyfriend went through a really rough time in his life a few years ago, which led him to make a huge mistake. He let this woman (10-15 years older than him) to throw herself at him and spend money on him just so that she could have ...
A. 21 January 2015: OH WOW. AuntyBimBim makes great points (as usual)
WHAT bugs you, the fact that he had a FWB by choice or the fact that she was "an older woman"
You ASSUME she was "desperate" You make it sound like he was FORCED against his WILL to engage i... (read in full...)
Would a memorial tattoo put off a future partner?
Q. Me and my ex mutually agreed that it wasn't working as a couple because we had been friends for over a decade before dating and that felt more like us than the time we'd spent trying to be a couple. After breaking up, we found out she was pregnant ...
A. 20 January 2015: If my ex wanted the SAME tattoo that's on HIM totally.
I would NOT be involved in his decision or his acquiring said TATTOO.
IF he got the same tattoo that would be on him and not an issue for me but I would NOT in any way shape or form ha... (read in full...)
Would a memorial tattoo put off a future partner?
Q. Me and my ex mutually agreed that it wasn't working as a couple because we had been friends for over a decade before dating and that felt more like us than the time we'd spent trying to be a couple. After breaking up, we found out she was pregnant ...
A. 20 January 2015: I have two children with my ex. they were 3 and 5 when we split up. they are 28 and 30 now...
when we did things together after the divorce we did them FOR THE CHILDREN NOT FOR US.
this tattoo is NOT FOR YOUR CHILD it's for YOU and t... (read in full...)
Would a memorial tattoo put off a future partner?
Q. Me and my ex mutually agreed that it wasn't working as a couple because we had been friends for over a decade before dating and that felt more like us than the time we'd spent trying to be a couple. After breaking up, we found out she was pregnant ...
A. 20 January 2015: I had a tattoo on my thigh when I met my husband. It represented my past. I had it covered over with a new tattoo at his request.
I don't like the cover up and while the old tattoo meant something to me the new one just annoys me.
You d... (read in full...)
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