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*oboaxe
writes:I met a great girl at a friends party on Saturday. She just flew in from the other side of the country since she is moving here (I'm in LA) and we both had a ton of common interests. She started up the conversation with me, playfully hit my shoulder, asked me a lot about myself, and was generally very chatty and upbeat. I got her number and said goodbye to her later on in the night. Before I even got home she had followed me on twitter and sent a friend request. Last night (Monday) I texted her: Hey! How was the rest of your weekend? And she promptly replied within 3 minutes: Hey! It was swell. Yours? And as I was typing up my response to send in about 5 minutes, she replied again typing "My roommate and I are going on an adventure later to find a bar in the area. lolz. care to join??"And I would've said yes, but I unfortunately had to finish a script due the next day at work, so I replied"Good too! I can't, I have a lot of work tonight. Are you free Wednesday?"She STILL has not replied. It's been over a day and I am at a loss. Do I try texting her again (Wednesday)? Or maybe in a week? Call? Is it a lost cause? Again, she was very lively and nice to me at the party. We're both around the same age. Thank you for any help. I just feel like I need to do something before I give up completely.
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (24 March 2015):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I shot her a random text about 2 weeks later and we ended up going out for a drink.
It was then I realized she liked me as a friend and nothing more.
Thanks for the advice! And I'm all for calling, but in my experience, the girl doesn't answer unless she is your girlfriend.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (23 January 2015):
I think you should just take a step back and wait for her to message you if she is actually interested in you. She could have already changed into the party girl type...would not want to get your hopes up just yet.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 January 2015):
 don't call and text... unless you text to say "I want to call you and ask you something when is a good time?"
if you call and she does not answer leave a message...
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (22 January 2015):
Roboaxe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice everyone! I'll contact her one more time.
I really do want to call her. But nowadays girls almost never ever answer, and I was wondering if I should just text instead.
The alternative is to call and text if she doesn't answer but I don't know if that would brand me as "desperate."
I can't go out tonight either, so I'm planning on contacting her on Sunday. Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2015): Sounds like a real party-girl with a lot of time on her hands.
She expects you to drop what you're doing and show up whenever she invites you out. Take it slow and easy.
Try once more. No answer? Fo-getaboutit!
She's rounding herself up a group of party-people for when she moves to LA. She can be spontaneous, because she apparently doesn't have a job to go to the next day. If you do decide to hangout together, don't be lead around by the nose. Keep your priorities straight, and think for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2015): Yes, text her again today. She was out with her friends and could have became embarrassed when you blew her off for work. Today, I would text a hello, and ask if you can pick her up and take her to a special place. She doesn't have to know, but it can be the bar you go to weekly. I think the element of a date will set the mood here.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 January 2015):
it's possible she has not seen the message.
I would CALL her and ask her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2015): Of course do something: call her or text her, better call and ask her out.
How she didn't reply to you it was not very polite. But people do it all the time. Give it one more try but that's it. If she doesn't reply again then that's it. Don't try anymore.
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