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writes:Hi readers. I met a guy a few weeks ago who works 3 weeks on 1 week off. We finished up going to bed the first night and I didn't expect to hear from him again.He has since contacted me and wants to catch up again. He asked me if I'd like to get something to eat etc. I'm just feeling a bit confused as we have been corresponding via text and all has been okay. I text him and asked him how old he is if he didn't mind me asking as I remember when I first met him I think his mate said he was in his 30's. I'm 43 and don't want to date a man who is in his early 30's as I feel the age difference would be too much for me.My last boyfriend was 10 years younger and it proved to affect our relationship in a negative way. Anyway he hasn't replied and he wanted to catch up with me tomorrow for the first time since I met him 3 weeks ago. I am not happy about this and wonder why he hasn't replied. I feel that I have a right to know, and am not happy that he has ignored my text. I have a history of abusive relationships and don't want to get into another dysfunctional relationship. Is his silence a warning sign of a lack of respect? This isn't sitting right in my gut feeling which I have learnt to trust. What should I do readers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): reads to me this man is seeking out a hot older woman for "booty calls"... if I read this right, you slept with him the first time you went out? You have set the tone for this relationship...if you want him as he likely wants you for occasional hookups I think you will be just fine...if you think this is going to go into a relationship thing, probably not, so either cut it off now or enjoy the casual pace, but as always, be careful and be safe in doing so.
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 If you love him and he loves you age won't matter really opposites attract and that is mostly by the age.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I'll agree with the "gut feeling" advice, but I don't think the age difference should be a primary reason to avoid a relationship. A lack of communication is much more troubling. When people are seriously interested in each other, communication is vital.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Always trust your gut feelings they serve as the best defense to the rest of the body.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2012):
 If the only reason you don't want to date him is his age (and you don't even know it yet) I'm thinking you are punishing him for someone else's issues.
Some folks just are not texters. I personally do NOT think that relationships should be carried on via text. it's for stuff like "on my way" and "running late" or "call me we need to talk" but NOT for IMPORTANT stuff... texts get dropped and you can't be sure the info gets through.
He may NOT have gotten the text especially if you have plans for tomorrow.
How in the world is a man not answering a text an earmark of a dysfunctional relationship?
If you trust your gut and it doesn't feel right, why are you asking about it here?
Personally at 52 I'm madly in love with my 39 yr old fiance. I don't have an issue with age gaps... I have an issue with people...
and once adults are past 30 or so they are pretty well formed....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Go with your "gut feeling"....
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