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writes:The married man i have been seeing for the last 7yrs we are both in our sixties,is suddenly telling me he can't do without me, misses me terribly,and that i'm more than just a friend i am a very special part of his life and he doesn't want to loose me.he contacts me 3 or 4 times a day and sees me whenever he can,he has a very demanding public life.I have tried to end it a million times and he says please don't do this to me.i need you, but i love him,and yes i know that's wrong to feel that way.what i don't get is why all of a sudden he is telling me all this stuff.He has never once told me he is in love with me so what's with all this stuff he is saying now?i'm a little confused with things. any suggestions,other than telling me to cut ties with him,which i can't do anyway.is he falling in love or is he just stringing me along,even though he knows he doesn't have to do that as he is very aware of my feelings for him. thanks for any insight to this.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 When a single (or, married) woman is spending time with a MARRIED MAN all common-sense assessment about what is going on "between" them is out the window.... Affairs have a life - and rules - of their own...
His new plaints of love for you... very likely come from his detecting that YOU are getting sick and tired of the "stringing me along" thing. After all... 7 years is a LONG time to hold out that a married man is (or is going to be) in love with you... in the "real" sense....
IF you and he are intimate, then HE has everything that HE wants.... and the only price he pays is the crumbs that he scatters for you to use to fuel your belief that he actually gives a darn about you...
The sooner you cut off this "relationship" the sooner you will be able to get on with your life and actually HAVE "a life".....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): I'm sorry I know you are telling us not to tell you to cut ties but that is the right thing to do! how you can possibley live with yourself knowing you are with someones husband is beyond me! I am a 20 year old girl, and I live with my boyfriend and if he was cheating on me it would kill me! This man is obviously a liar, he probs tells his wife he loves her all the time, yet goes out and sleeps with you? He is saying he loves you so he can continue to keep you for his own selfish needs! find someone who is not taken! to be in a cheating relationship, never works out for anyone so just end it now! it is obvious that he will never leave his wife for you as it's already been 7 years. I dont want to be nasty or anything, I am saying this for your own good! I can't stand cheating.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (24 August 2012):
 You know him better than we do and if you can't tell then we won't be able to either. I can understand being skeptical though since you already know he's capable of stringing people along.
Is it love he fels? Maybe. It's more likely he has grown fond of you and come to rely on having you around. That he would express such sentiments and so freqienty tells me he is feeling rather vulnerable right now, whatever the cause. It could be some instability in his home life, his career or something else, maybe even just a phase.
Tread carefully.
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