Plenty of emotional intimacy, but no physical
Q. My bf and I are in our early 50s and have been dating for several years. We have hugged but have never held hands or kissed, let alone made love. The first couple of years that we were dating, he had some health issues (including some ...
A. 30 August 2012: I'll respond based on personal experience.....
Two people who have wildly differing feelings/wants/needs and expectations about friendship/love/romance and intimacy CANNOT have a successful "relationship".... since one is always seeking - CRAVING ... (read in full...)
B/f and I have been into swinging and I HATE it!
Q. About 4 - 5 years ago, me and my boyfriend of 6 years decided to finally try swinging after playing around with the idea for a while. I was scared out of my mind that I was actually going to go through with it, but chalked it up to newbie nerves. ...
A. 30 August 2012: Advice?
Put this "boyfriend" and this/HIS(!) lifestyly behind you and go away from him and try to start your adult life all over again... by yourself and on your terms....
Good luck.... sounds like you've worked hard in a "no chance for succe... (read in full...)
2 months away from our wedding and revelations about his past have hurt me. Should I still be getting married?
Q. It is two months before my wedding and I my fiance told me he's been with "like 6 other girls" before me. I had thought there were two which was hard enough because I waited for him. We've been having a hard time sexually and I feel angry an ...
A. 30 August 2012: Whenever EITHER of the people who will be marrying - the bride or the groom - has "second" thoughts as the nuptials approach... I think it is far smarter to delay the wedding until/unless the reason for the second thoughts is reconciled....
Consi... (read in full...)
Tightness of a virgin, truth or myth?
Q. OK, I have often wondered about this. I have never been with a virgin but have always wondered if I am missing out. My wife was VERY inexperienced when we got together. 2 guys a total of 3 times.Not sure she could feel any tighter when we first ...
A. 30 August 2012:
What difference does it make? As far as "rhetorical" questions go, this is one that could stand to NOT be asked again, ever........ (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 30 August 2012: P.S. ANYTHING ELSE that you do will just get you a place back in line for still some more heartache and dispair.
Remember this advice, from Smokey the Bear: "Only YOU can prevent heartache and dispair.."... (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 30 August 2012: You write: "....I don't know what to do, as I do not want to get hurt again.x..."
Here's "what to do"..... IGNORE HIM, for NOW and the-rest-of-your-life.....
Case closed....
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Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 29 August 2012: WOW!!!!! Talk about "happy endings"!!!!!
God bless you.. and may this woman see that she NOW has a terrific friend!!!!
Good luck for the future....... (read in full...)
How can I know if a woman is sexually interested?
Q. hi all, how can we understand that a woman is sexually interested on a man. as frequent guests we used to touch or sometimes stand closer etc. but I tend to feel that this woman has an attraction on me. but this is an intuition. are there indirect...
A. 28 August 2012: I can only tell you what I do to be certaing that a woman is s*xually interested.. That is....
I look right in her eyes. ... and I give her one of my innocent, boyish smiles.... If necessary, I wink at her. Then, to "seal the deal" I sidle ov... (read in full...)
I love him so much. I don't want to play mind games, what does all this mean?
Q. Ok I need help my befriend walked out 2 weeka ago due to stress etc, only now we have started talking anyway he came over to see our kids and stayed a while like he usually does. He was complaining of neck pain so I massaged it for him with oil he ...
A. 28 August 2012: How ironic... Your mouth said, "... it's all or nothing.." and then, your darned BODY cancelled all that out by providing him with s*xual release....
Until/unless you can reconcile THAT incongruity you are subject to him showing up when he wants... (read in full...)
Why do so many women want to try having sex with a big penis if size doesn't matter?
Q. Why do so many women want to try having sex with a big penis (like bigger than they've ever had before) if size doesn't matter? Why did men evolve big penises (length and girth) compared to other primates if size doesn't matter?...
A. 28 August 2012: I've heard it said, that:
"It's not the size of the wand, but the magic of the performer, that puts the rabbit in the hat...."... (read in full...)
We broke up he wants to get back together. What if he comes back changed?
Q. Hi all, just wondered if u cud help. My by has split up with me yet again (we had just got back together) he used to do this all the time but up untill last time hadnt for a year. I have now realised that I am acting like a door mat and so asking ...
A. 28 August 2012: I would focus on this portion of your submittal:
"...(this sounds ridiculous) what if he actually comes back a changed man and I miss out???? ..."
That's such a low risk that you ought to take it.... (Guys DON'T change!!!!!!)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Week after we broke up she was sexually active with a new guy. What does this say about how she cares about me?
Q. My girlfriend and I share a child together, and had plans on becoming married. Later in our relationship I cheated on her by conversing with other females when things weren't going good between us. When we got into an argument and I pushed her and ...
A. 28 August 2012: She cares about your drinking, and would like you to moderate or discontinue it... THAT's sensible, for anybody.
As for s*x.... sounds like she gets horny sometimes, and likes to partake. She just doesn't want that to be with you...
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Is there a time frame for recovering from a broken marriage?
Q. Hey - I'm moving on from a long failed marriage and while I am not interested in any affairs and relationships at the moment I do realise that in time I'll feel the void. Is there an average time it takes to get over things and feel alive again and ...
A. 28 August 2012: While females seem to anguish over "how long" it takes to "get over a failed relationship"..... Most guys can do so ("get over it") in 15 minutes or less. It MIGHT take a little longer if the break-up occurs during the last few laps of a NASCAR ... (read in full...)
My husband lied about his ex for THREE years
Q. I've know my husband all my life. We reconnected about three years ago and have been married for six months. We've had problems in the past about his ex. They were together for seven years but they don't have any children and they weren't married. ...
A. 28 August 2012: You must live in a VERY LARGE metropolitan area if there are TWO "Broomhilda Krushnevskis" living there!!!!
How long do you intend to put up with this guy?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why is it that I always wind up with cheaters? I've never cheated!
Q. hello, i used to write on here a while ago when i used to need someplace to talk about the fact that i was sure my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me (which he was with several people). Anyway i broke up with my ex because i met someone i ...
A. 28 August 2012: I think the first paragraph of your submittal is VERY telling. You write: "...i broke up with my ex because i met someone i really liked from the moment i saw them and it looked like it might go somewhere...."
My thought is that you "sound" ... (read in full...)
How can we break the habit of having sex so much?
Q. Okay, so I've been with this guy for a 1.5 years, and we lost our virginities to each other about 4 months into our relationship. We're both Christians, and have often said we need to stop having sex - it can be up to 3 times in one day, and eve...
A. 27 August 2012: Are you CRAZY???? EVERYBODY dreams of having a "relationship" such as you and "B/F" have!!!!!
No more questions allowed.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I want to ask a girl out that I've never even spoken to before, how do I approach this?
Q. So, at the moment I am researching in a chemical engineering lab at my university over the summer with one of the professors. Going great. Last week or so a girl was working in the lab space close to me on a different project. I reckon she is st...
A. 27 August 2012: I suggest you go up to her in the lab, some day, and say to her: "Excuse me, lovely lady.... but I find you BLISTERIN' HOT... more than the 451 degrees at which paper catches fire.... and I'd like to know and learn more about you. Any chance that ... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 27 August 2012: Frankly, your hubby sounds a little like a JERK to me... and there's no reason for him to bring this subject up... UNLESS he has some ulterior motive.... AND I wouldn't expect that motive to be in your best interest...
RESIST....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a cheapskate with me but can spend the money on himself. I'm sick of it.
Q. My boyfriend is so, so cheap with me. Scenario: We don't usually ever go out to eat anymore. If we do, I'm the one who pays (he insists that I do) because he buys food for his apartment and shares it with me when I come over (even though he's rea...
A. 27 August 2012: How quickly can you dump this guy and find a normal "boyfriend"????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What in the hell is wrong with my brothers and sisters?
Q. I have two sisters and two brothers I am the second oldest I take care of my mom she lives with me so I am her care giver I applied for a job so I will be able to help my mom with bills.They talk about me behind my back but I am here with my mom 24 ...
A. 27 August 2012: Your predicament is typical....
Decide if you're content to leave it as it is... OR.... decide that you want to prevail upon your sibs to give you a little help....
You'll only get to "see" this window one time.... so be sure that you handle ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my BF's ex wife?
Q. I don't really know where to start... I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, we moved in together after a year and I have never been happier in my life. This relationship is the strongest, most fulfilling relationship I have ...
A. 27 August 2012: Sounds to me like you're learning to live your life in the parentheses of your B/F and his -ex.
IF you're content with that.... then let life go on....
IF you find it difficult (and it WILL BECOME INTOLERABLE!!!) then figure that out - NOW -... (read in full...)
Is he being a typical rat?
Q. Hi I have known this guy for quite a few years I fancied him when I was 18 but he was more into my mate, fast forward 9 years I bumped into him in a club he was like you look great do you want a drink etc, gave him my numb he tried to get me to take ...
A. 27 August 2012: The "fallback" position, for ALL such questions, by ALL women - regardless of age/religion/location/economic status/education and any other attribute - is: Guys want girls to put out for them.... period!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is he not into sex because he's aware of what is going on around him?
Q. Hey, silly question. The other day I was having sex with my fiancé and right in the middle of the action he noticed my head was banging against the wall - nothing major, really, I could just feel the wall touching my head... I wasn't hurt or ...
A. 27 August 2012: Should we suppose, also, that if you and he were on the edge of a cliff, and the cliff started to crumble under you, he should continue on rather than move the two of you away from the abyss??????... (read in full...)
Why is my ex telling me when he has days off?
Q. I have contact with an ex after a few years, talk on a regular basis. He dumped me!! my question is, why is he now giving me his work schedule, you know, telling me his days off? I never asked for this and we haven't talked about meeting up, so what ...
A. 27 August 2012: This one's easy!!!....
...Because HE'S holding out hope that you WILL meet up with him,.... AND will provide s*x for him....
Sometimes, we guys are pretty flagrant about our intentions....... (read in full...)
Taking care of my boyfriend's sick mother and he doesn't appreciate it
Q. My boyfriend's mother who lived in new jersey fell really sick,she fell of the stairs,broke her back literally couldn't move,nor eat or go to the toilet..my boyfriend who was in spain at the time could not make it to her at the earlierst so I ...
A. 27 August 2012: First off: Congratulations for being a TERRIFIC FRIEND and caretaker to this woman... You are a Saint....
THEN,... let me apologize on behalf of this "B/F" who is acting like a total a*s... as you describe it....
Finally... consider that YO... (read in full...)
It turns out the girl that my boyfriend hooked up with whilst we were on a break is my sister! We've only just realised this, what next?
Q. When I was 18 I moved from my city to move to newyork to join university I have been here for 5 years now,and I'm done with education and I got a job back home and I decided to move back to my family..I love them way too much to live separately..I ...
A. 27 August 2012: One thing is for sure. There's NO CHANCE that this is a made-up submittal.... 'cuz NOBODY could have imagined this....
Sounds to me like you and your sister and your B/F need to have a marathon gab-session....
Good luck.......... (read in full...)
Husband's comments about my breasts have left me feeling self-conscious. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. My husband has on occasion said some things without thinking them through. Years ago, he told me the space between my breasts was too big and that a cosmetic surgery could fix it. Never thinking there was anything wrong, I became self conscious ...
A. 27 August 2012: "Sounds" to me like your self-consciousness/self image are about as ANY woman might be.... but your hubby is an unthinking/unfeeling idjit!!!
Cripes!!! Remind him that OOODLES of men would be ecstatic to have a warm, loving, and - apparent... (read in full...)
My husband and his family do not believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed after our first night together. Why did I not bleed?
Q. Hola I am from Mexico . Please forgive my English it is second language to me. I am originally from Mexico but live here in the united states. I am 21 years old and recently got married . I was a virgin when I married . I didn't bleed . My husband ...
A. 26 August 2012: Cripes!!!! WHAT business is it of your in-laws whether or not you were virgin or anything "else" when you spent your first night with your new husband??????
Be happy to return to your past and be rid of these idiots!!!!
Good luck..... and vi... (read in full...)
The things he does make me feel unattractive, unsexy and like I'm not good enough. Help!
Q. About a month ago I was laying naked in bed with my boyfriend and my breasts were exposed and I saw him looking towards that direction. I saw that and started teasing him about staring at them and he told me he was used to seeing my body so it's no ...
A. 26 August 2012: Let's "answer" your questions, as you posed them:
How do I cope? Don't bother coping. This immature and unthoughtful guy isn't worth your time....
What do I do? You steel yourself that this "relationship" will go nowhere....
W... (read in full...)
My mom says boyfriend is using me and I'm too good for him. Is she right?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. Like most couples, we have been up and down. But our main issues are his laziness, selfishness, the fact I have to prompt him to do/help me out in life and the way he deals with ...
A. 26 August 2012: The REAL message that is available.... and your Mum seems to detect it.... is that this guy is pretty immature... AND 'way too thrifty (putting a money value on things, as you describe it....).... and she sees this as him NOT being a "giving" guy... ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any good job ideas for me?
Q. im 18 years old and im starting college tomorrow, im excited but also kinda nervous because i dont know im going to do, i always hated school and hated studying but im pushing myself to go to college to make something of my life. I didnt pick my ...
A. 26 August 2012: Going, and completing, four years at college provides prospective future employers with the certainty that you are willing to stick with what is surely a smart decision..
IF you choose to cut short your college time, you will send a clear message,... (read in full...)
Just can't shake this bad love story..
Q. Hi, I don't do this much but I have no one to talk to. Just over a year ago I met a man. I don't believe in love at first sight but I was instantly attached to him. After a few short encounters I got to know him better and found out he was twice my ...
A. 25 August 2012: The only detail that seems to be missing from your submittal is: Were you and he intimate (had s*x) during those "amazing six months?" Your reply?
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't forget about football even while on vacation?
Q. In november my boyfriend and i are travelling around south east asia for a month. he's already informed me that he'll be checking football scores of his local team back home - i thought he'd be having such a great experience with me that he could ...
A. 25 August 2012: Please consider to re-phrase your query like this?...
What's the matter with him taking a few minutes, each Monday and Tuesday, to get the scores from the football scores of the last day or two????
OK? Good luck........ (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 25 August 2012: OP: Do you think we should go to dinner some night? THAT could be our FIRST date....... XO... (read in full...)
I made a sex joke about her mom
Q. Hi agony aunts :) well I'm having more problems with my girlfriend. Last night she was angry with me because I made a sex joke about her mom. We got into a huge argument and she told me I wasn't funny, I take things too far, yada yada. And I wasn't ...
A. 24 August 2012: Please tell us the joke... as that is really a key detail in this matter....... (read in full...)
Why does he care so much if he is a player?
Q. Hi again. Yes, I have yet another question on the same guy. So yesturday me and him were texting and he asks if I had a boyfriend. And when I say yes he replies oh :(. But, he has had lots of girlfriends in the past year (over 12). He told me that ...
A. 24 August 2012: IF he's truly a "player" THEN he's using you....
The only REAL issue you face is whether or not he's a "good" player... such that you come away feeling GOOD that you've been played........ ORrrr, if he's a LOUSY player, and you come out of it fe... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the size of my penis
Q. hi, so im worried about my penis size... im 19 still a virgin, i have recieved oral sex before and im just worried about the size of my penis, its roughly (ive never had it measured by a doctor) 3 inches depending on how warm/cold i am, i might get ...
A. 24 August 2012: GEt in line with the MILLIONS of other guys - like you and me - who obsess over our peenies.....
You can't change the darn thing....so why fret over it????
Good luck....
P.S. I usually get a lady's attention by demonstrating for her ho... (read in full...)
Why did my ex block me when we aren't even friends?
Q. hey i no you guys are probably gonna say why do you care if shes your ex etc...but anyway my ex of about 6 months (we've had no contact at al) blocked me on Facebook.i haven't once in the whole time we've been split up clicked on her page page...
A. 24 August 2012: You ask: "...do any of you no why she would block me?...."
Yes.... SHE's your "ex-" so is DONE with your relationship. YOU should take a note of her and do the same...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Ladies: What does it feel like to not be over a relationship?
Q. What does it feel like to "not be over" a previous relationship for girls? I met someone 4 months ago. We've only met 5, may be 6 times during the first 2 months. Since then just texts and a seldom phone call. At first I thought she had ...
A. 24 August 2012: ALL you really need to "know" is that you are - at best - Number 2... or, more likely, a fallback for when she doesn't have something/someone else to get and keep her attention.....
Aren't you "worth" more than that????
"Fuggedaboute... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who isn't my husband and think its time to walk away from my marriage
Q. I'm in love with someone other than my husband. What should I do?? My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and we have two children. We only dated a few months before I became pregnant with our first child. I don't believe we ever got a ...
A. 24 August 2012: The very first thing that you and Mr Lucky should do is cool your prospective ruinations of your marriages.... and wait 6 months before you (and he) do ANYTHING!!!!
If, on February 25, 2013, you can take a look at this submittal and say to yours... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who isn't my husband and think its time to walk away from my marriage
Q. I'm in love with someone other than my husband. What should I do?? My husband and I have been married for 6.5 years and we have two children. We only dated a few months before I became pregnant with our first child. I don't believe we ever got a ...
A. 24 August 2012: The very firs thing that you and Mr Lucky should do is cool your prospective ruinations of your marriages.... and wait 6 months before you (and he) do ANYTHING!!!!
If, on February 25, 2013, you can take a look at this submittal and say to yourself... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 23 August 2012: In the "four-date" scheme, a guy acts like a GENTLEMAN through the first THREE dates..... and doesn't pressure the lady for s*x.
We (guys) KNOW that you girls EXPECT US to press for you to put out by the third date.... and so, if three dates pa... (read in full...)
Is this the end for me and my BF?
Q. Dear all, Your opinions would be welcome. Things have not been too good with me and my BF of late, and we had a bit of a bad evening about two and a half weeks ago, and I told him that I am not really getting anything out of the relationship etc...
A. 22 August 2012: You and he are in the process of breaking up.....
For HIM, it was something instantaneous.... and he's playing his part...
For YOU, it is something that is lingering, and you disdain of letting go of whatever was going on between the two ... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 22 August 2012: In your follow-up, you write: "He's not your run of the mill grope, shag and run or he surely would have pushed me to have sex with him - and he hasn't."
Have you ever heard of the "four date scheme"?... (read in full...)
Kiss and run! What's up with this younger guy?
Q. Hey. I am SO confused right now. I met Jay on a work training course, he is 13yrs younger than me. We hit it off, all was good until he walked me to my car, we spent over an hour kissing. He followed it up with a text straight away saying 'wow that ...
A. 20 August 2012: It "sounds" to me like you're chasing him... and he's enjoying the pursuit (especially knowing that he can let you catch him any time!).....
Since his feedback is luke-warm, at best....Why would you bother?
Good luck........ (read in full...)
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