B/f on dating site saying he was single, we've been dating for 3 years!
Q. Hiya, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have started sharing his email account and he left his laptop here for me to use as mines broke. Basically I went to send a email and I found that he had dating matches so I had a look. It said ...
A. 9 September 2012: I wouldn't bother confronting him..... I'd DUMP him!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I take my relationship further without sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are 15 and we have been going out for almost 10 months and we have done all the snogging and kissing lark. I'm wondering how to take our relationship further without sex. I don't touch his balls at all and he doesn't touch my ...
A. 9 September 2012: You can't .... so don't bother trying....... (read in full...)
Can a man that wants friendship (can't let you go in this way) but keeps making it more like an affair ever really let it be a real relationship
Q. I know I have already figured out what I need to do, but, still have questions about why a man would do what the man I loved did. Two men actually, but will just concentrate on the first for right now. I am a real life soap opera without meaning to ...
A. 8 September 2012: If'n you were my Sister, I would slap you up side your head and say, "STOP having ANYTHING to do with ANY man/men for the moment. DON'T let yourself fall in to the trap of believing that you MUST have a "man friend"..... as if that is some sort of ... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 6 September 2012: OP: I KNOW you want, desperately, for some Aunt(s)/Uncle(s) to give you encouragement for your chasing this character.... But - REALLY - is there any future in it????
Why not just reconcile to yourself that he is a JERK and is NOT WORTH YOUR TIM... (read in full...)
How can I study for an exam and attend a wedding that are both in the same month?
Q. Hey everyone, This is not a love related question but you guys are soo sensible I decided to reach out to you.. I have an important exam in december it literally decided my life,and who I will become..but I think my family they don't seem to ca...
A. 6 September 2012: Unless your sister's wedding is being held someplace that it takes 90 days to get to (Mars comes to mind...) I don't see any conflict here.
You study hard, take the day to attend your sister's wedding and the reception... then, come January,... (read in full...)
How do I handle my posessive boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend lately is driving me crazy, he has gotten so possesive, it scares me.. A little background: it took my bf a really long time to ask me out..he is a very good looking man and has easily could sweep any woman off her fe...
A. 6 September 2012: Let's focus on these: "...is driving me crazy..." and, "...so possesive, it scares me..", and, "...my bf calls me and starts questioning me...", and, finally: "... he didnt like 2 of my friends and asked me to stop talking to them completely!! ."
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I'm feel very insecure thinking that my girlfriend enjoys masturbating more than sex with me.
Q. I have been going out happily with my gf for 9 months. I'm 21. Recently however I have been getting very insecure about our sex and whether it is actually good for her. Sure we do it a lot and sometimes she orgasms, some she doesn't. The problem is ...
A. 5 September 2012: IF I had a nickel for every girl who would rather masturbate than spend intimate time with me..... I would be a VERY rich guy!!!!!... (read in full...)
I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!
Q. Dear all, Please advise. I unfortunatley set up a pattern where I do the majority of the calling to my BF and am now trying to undo it and it not working!! For instance - I saw him last week - all was ok, then I did not hear from him so called hi...
A. 5 September 2012: If I were a very-fast racing greyhound, and there was a cute French poodle who chased me, I would slow down, periodically, to let her "catch" me....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I pack my bags and leave? He has been really depressed about his mom's passing and he is pushing me away
Q. Well I've asked a few question on this site I'm still a bit confused my question is should I pack my bags and leave? My bf is offering nothing to me I love him dearly but as you know he has no compassion no love nothing he has been really depresse...
A. 5 September 2012: All I saw in your submittal was this: "....My bf is offering nothing to me.."
Then I saw this: "....should I go?"
The "answer" quickly appeared. It is "Yes."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I cant get over the fact that my girlfriend wasn't a virgin when we got together and that she lost her virginity to her ugly ex!
Q. Hi.. My problem is that when i start my realation with my gf i wasnt vey serious and she told me that she isnt a virgin... I minded that but i thought iys ok.. But now am getting so close to her and atracted but i feel bad that she is not a ...
A. 5 September 2012: I know just "where you are coming from."
When I first dated the girl I eventually married, I learned that she had been for a cup of coffee with a real ugly classmate of ours. I couldn't understand how she could sip coffee in the presence... (read in full...)
I'm feel very insecure thinking that my girlfriend enjoys masturbating more than sex with me.
Q. I have been going out happily with my gf for 9 months. I'm 21. Recently however I have been getting very insecure about our sex and whether it is actually good for her. Sure we do it a lot and sometimes she orgasms, some she doesn't. The problem is ...
A. 5 September 2012: If you continue to fret over this issue.... I'm sure you can get it to impact your relationship. Is that what you want?
Why not focus on the time(s) that you and your G/F enjoy one-another, and are intimate.... and let yourself be satisfie... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my sister-in-law's rude comments?
Q. How can I deal with my sister-in-law's rude comments? I'm still in my second month of marriage and my husband's mother and brother are living with us currently, because they are repairing their home... It's only a matter of a few weeks until they...
A. 5 September 2012: There are often some people in our lives who it is best for us to ignore (them). Your sister-in-law sounds like on of them....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
Q. Well I am in a little dilemma. I work with this really cool, nice man (he is 32) and I am 42. I know age difference ei. well dilemma is that recently I noticed that he gives me this looks and big smiles often and always compliments me. He usually ...
A. 5 September 2012: There's nothing wrong with fostering a friendship.... forget the age difference....
IF you and he hit it off, then life will continue on...
Good luck.....
P.S. If you DON'T "hit it off" then life will continue on, as well....... (read in full...)
Can masturbation interfere with a relationship?
Q. If a man masturbates 5 or 6 times a day when he is single and then gets in a relationship and almost never wants sex could this be a problem? How? Is it possibly that he maybe masturbated too much? I am just wondering....
A. 5 September 2012: Masturbation can raise havoc upon a relationship.... IF the guy chooses to do it during the time when he should be in bed, satisfying his girlfriend.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
If someone is ready to be pleasured how can they not be ready to give pleasure?
Q. Is something wrong with me? My boyfriend and I (I am a gay man) have been together almost 3 years, we are getting married in November. We live together and have a very open and public relationship. The problem I am having is in the bedroom. Our...
A. 5 September 2012:
... and you're planning to MARRY this guy??? Think about THAT again........ (read in full...)
How much of a deal breaker is penis size?
Q. I've seen a lot of penis anxiety threads based around "reassure me, is insert size normal?" but I'm going to come at it from another (still similar) angle. I'm 23, relatively slim although my guts bigger than it's ever been (people still ac...
A. 4 September 2012: For those of us who are exquisitely endowed... it's no big deal....... (read in full...)
I think my best friend slept with my FWB
Q. I think my best friend slept with my friends with benifits. She brings him up alot. How do I find out ? I slept with him two daya ago thimgs were good...
A. 4 September 2012: "Sounds" to me like your "FWB" is acting just as ANY FWB night act.... I don't understand if there is a "question" in here, somewhere.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?
Q. I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...
A. 4 September 2012: Let me see if am understanding this correctly:
1. You REALLY like guy B, who is a best mate of guy A.
2. You had a one-night stand with guy A.
3. You got a chance to have a SERIES of what sound like "one-night stands" with buy B... BU... (read in full...)
What options do I have? I love him very much I do not find our love life very satisfying.
Q. My BF prefers oral and anal to intercourse. I prefer intercourse to oral and anal. Despite my repeated requests to have him "cum" inside me during intercourse using a condom it still has not happened. When he does make love to me (which does n...
A. 4 September 2012:
I'm curious as to your definition of "love" (as in, "... I love him very much...").... since he doesn't exhibit much of the behaviour that someone who is IN LOVE with someone else, shows.....
I think your B/F is a self-centered child... and... (read in full...)
Was I just a customer to them? Unrequitted friendships? Do I go back or let them go?
Q. i'm going to try and make this as short as possible. ok, so here's the deal I met a group of people during an abusive relationship, and they were really nice and supportive and helped me whenever i needed it. Four years later my friend died (su...
A. 4 September 2012: From the description of what has happened, it sounds as if you get your validation and strokes from those around you... to the exclusion of providing strokes to and by YOURSELF.....
IF that's so... then you are destined to a future wherein ... (read in full...)
Why does my Ex talk about coming home, but he can't make his own mind up to do so?
Q. I talked to my ex today for a long time . We laughed about old and new events in our lives even though we live so far apart we still have feeling for one another.We went our own way I moved and he stayed. So now he is giving little hints on coming ...
A. 4 September 2012: IN your header, it sez that your age is 36 - 40YO.
The guy who you describe in your submittal sounds to be about age 11-13 YO.... so HE IS 'WAY TOO YOUNG FOR YOU!!!!
Find a guy who is closer to your age!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He has also been going to his ex girlfriends house.. Is it something I did? Do I say something?
Q. I have been seeing this guy who's my friend's brother. He is a lot older than me and when we started seeing each other i said i wasnt interested because he had a girlfriend but he reassured me they werent together he told me he really liked me...
A. 4 September 2012: Here's what you say to him:
"Congratulations, ASSHOLE!!!! You got to bed me because I was too darn young and naive to see just what you were doing..... Thank you, for showing me just how flagrantly you guys can be jerks, looking to take advantag... (read in full...)
How do I cancel the date I have planned now I am exclusive with my partner, but still keep this other man as a friend in case this one doesn't work out?
Q. I have been single for about 14 months, dating casually here and there, I've been seeing a guy that I've known for years the last couple of months casually and also been seeing and texting other people. (as he has as well)This guy and I have ...
A. 4 September 2012: The header of your submittal sez that you are female. ARE YOU SURE????? .... cuz the behaviour/intentions that you spelled out is strictly "man-like".... wherein we (men) try to keep a couple of girls "on the hook," constantly, so that we never ... (read in full...)
Advice on choice of condom needed.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We have always used Trojan Her Pleasure condoms, but the condom has never been able to roll down to the base of his penis. Earlier this week we bought Trojan Magnum condoms due to them being sold out of ...
A. 4 September 2012: I can identify with you and your B/F. It is very difficult for some of us guys to find condos that are large enough for our uber-grand equipment!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a younger man, I look much younger than I am but worry about what people think. Advice?
Q. In need of some advice. I am 32 female and have been recently seeing a lovely wonderful man, but his only 23 and I'm not sure we can carry on because of age difference. I look about 22 and he looks about 28, so he looks older, but I constantly...
A. 3 September 2012: Forget any age difference between the two of you. Then, go back through your submittal and see if all (else) is OK for the two of you... If "yes," then GO FOR IT!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
If it were just him he would probably be perfect, but his family oppose us living together and his house mate dislikes me. With all these problems is it worth sticking around?
Q. So I'm at a point where I don't know if I should be sticking around in my relationship, or if I should strike out on my own. I've been seeing this very sweet, very handsome guy for about two years now, and although I would definitely say that we are ...
A. 3 September 2012: How does your B/F feel about the contents of this letter?
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't invite me for icecream!
Q. recently my bf has moved to my city and our 3years of long distance has ended.we love each other and we were meeting frequently last week.today he went to mall without telling me.he didnt invite me though he knew that next week its not possible to ...
A. 2 September 2012: IF this guy knew that you crave vanilla ice cream... AND if he went and had some ice cream without inviting you to come along.... I think it's pretty easy to recognize that HE IS A DOG!!!!.... and you'll be better off without him...... (read in full...)
He likes me but doesn't love me but wants to be intimate!
Q. I'm madly in love with a guy for more than a year now and he says he likes me but doesn't love me. i don't know what to make of it. Does it mean he only wants to sleep with me ? cos he often tells me he wants us to get intimate....
A. 2 September 2012: You ask: "Does it mean he only wants to sleep with me ?"
Yes....... (read in full...)
Does it bother women if men like their scent?
Q. I just would like to know is it really gross and disgussing to women if a guy whom they are in a relationship or friends with bennefits with loves their wetness and scent down there during the women sexual arousal?as well as smelling their panties ...
A. 2 September 2012: I'd think it was far more peculiar if they DIDN'T........ (read in full...)
Which man likes me the most and why?
Q. Guy 1 I've known this guy for over two years. The second time I met him I asked him out for a drink. He then smiled, looked at me and said that he'd love to but shortly after that I started going out with someone else who is now my fiance so I d...
A. 2 September 2012: Are we to understand that you would like our responses so that you can decide which one of these characters you should THROW YOURSELF AT?????
For Heaven's sake, woman, make up your OWN mind about how to live YOUR life!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: You ask: "...how can I possibly forgive him for this?"
Well... you can't. He's revealed himself as quite a man-whore... and YOU - continuing to indulge him - are, approximately, enabling him in that/those pursuits....
WHAT were you thinkin... (read in full...)
He offered me sex instead of a relationship!
Q. Should I be insulted that a guy Ive liked for a while has asked me to be his FWB or 'fuck buddy'? He says he doesnt want a relationship but wants to be more than friends. Im shocked and dont know what to say! Im 29 and hes 28, Im looking for a ...
A. 2 September 2012: Here's what you can say:
"You know, (his name here), your suggestion to be FWBs is just about THE MOST insulting message that I've ever received. It, basically, "tells" me that you think that I am nothing more than a convenient, and soft, wa... (read in full...)
Is it me? Why do I keep on attracting the type of men who are abusive, drink and do drugs?
Q. Yes I am looking for a decent well kept man that doesn't drink, do drugs ,and does believe in hitting women . I don't understand why do I attract these type of men if they aren't doing one then it's both or all three. I am so tired of this cycle.I ...
A. 1 September 2012: I believe that I see it, almost universally, that women who inquire "Where are all the "good" men?" define themselves at the partner/mate of a man.... and NOT as a woman who is herself, first. Consequently, rather than viewing men as "dessert" ... ... (read in full...)
My marriage lacks a sex life so I have a friend with boundaries. How do I be happy with my husband?
Q. I am a happily married woman (20+ years). Hubby is great, we get along, we have grown children, built a nice life, etc. We work great together, have some of the same hobbies, and almost always agree. He is sweet and nice and we are happy together. I ...
A. 1 September 2012: When two people make a life together.... and they have some, one, aspect of life, that is mis-matched.... it's not surprising that one (you!) seek to have that craving sated.... (I've "been there" and it was the demise of a "relationship" that had ... (read in full...)
We've been together three years but things aren't moving forward
Q. We get on great but my boyfriend says he can't take time off this year (or last year) as he needs to work on his hobby car which he has completely stripped down and spent a few thousand on. All his spare time and money are dedicated to his hobby. ...
A. 1 September 2012:
What you have described is an inside-out, upside-down arrangement.... wherein HE is married to his car... and YOU are his hobby...
He isn't likely to want to change that... so you are in the unenviable position of having to decide if you must ... (read in full...)
My online affair is becoming too real
Q. I am a married man who has been having an online romance with a married woman I have never met for over a year now. This is problem enough, I suppose. However, what makes it worse is that the relationship is becoming more and more real. My lover ta...
A. 1 September 2012: I suggest you consider this phrase from your submittal:
"...yet I agonize over her as if she was a "real woman" (which she of course is)."
YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW - for sure - if "SHE" IS a real woman!!!! There are all manner of posers on web/ma... (read in full...)
I feel like he has chewed up my heart and has thrown it into the trash!
Q. Hello all. I have a good guy friend. He has a girlfriend. But this has not stopped him from flirting with me and leading me on. He has treated me like a girlfriend. I continued to hold on because I thought, probably foolishly, that one day he ...
A. 31 August 2012: EVERY GUY wants to have a "spare" girlfriend... It's like having a spare tire in your car.... After all, what does one DO when the original goes flat?????
YOU, lucky girl, have put yourself in to the position of "spare" G/F.... AND have done a c... (read in full...)
Can we help determine the sex of a baby by the position we have sex in?
Q. Ok guys . I hope you can help me. My husband wants a little girl. Right know we have 3 boys. My mother in law and her sisters told me to do all the work in bed. My husband should just lay there while im on top. Is that true? Apparently according to ...
A. 31 August 2012: The position in which coitus takes place has no impact on the sex of the resulting offspring.....
You CAN assure yourself of a male/son by having your man wear his BOOTS when he does the deed to you....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012:
She's probably concerned that you'll notice that you have a "down there".... AND that you might TOUCH yourself "down there...."
Can't you just wear a nighty or something for when she sees you, then remove the darn thing once you're under the co... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seeing the first girl he slept with?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 1 year. He has recently started playing tennis with the first girl he ever slept with (they never dated, it was a one night thing). Its been making me quite uncomfortable, they've played a few times this week....
A. 30 August 2012: You're OK until they get to "love- 69"!!!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Plenty of emotional intimacy, but no physical
Q. My bf and I are in our early 50s and have been dating for several years. We have hugged but have never held hands or kissed, let alone made love. The first couple of years that we were dating, he had some health issues (including some ...
A. 30 August 2012: I'll respond based on personal experience.....
Two people who have wildly differing feelings/wants/needs and expectations about friendship/love/romance and intimacy CANNOT have a successful "relationship".... since one is always seeking - CRAVING ... (read in full...)
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