Partner is abusive and keeps saying I'm cheating. Why is he suddenly acting this way?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been in this relationship with this man for 9 years, and i really do love him, I have always been faithful to him and been there for him through all the good and bad. I overall consider myself a good woman and a great catch to a man who would truly love me in return. This man doesnt go anywhere but work, so I couldnt figure out why he all of a sudden changed. The onlt people in my life are my kids and him, my familt is very distant people. So I consider him family along with my kids. I guess someone you would love like a husband. Well last month he changed, my kids call and text me all times of night because they need to talk, and when he ask who it is, i tell him and try to show him the phone as i want no secrets between us, he just pushes the phone away and say he doesnt care, but a few days later when wee are talking he start saying, that guys be calling and texting me all night, when it be my kids and i tried to show him he didnt want to see, then i try to defend myself and he doesnt want to hear it, and say i am cheating on him, but when i tell him i tried to show him proof, he says im crazy, so we argue and i tell him that i love him and will never be unfaithful and that i am a good woman, he tells me im not a good woman, i need psychiatric help and i am a liar, and he has been doing this for a month, and all this just builds up insides, so recently he did this over a text from my son, and we argued because he told me i was cheating, i just got tired of him doing this to me and i slammed my phone on the table and told him to go through it, he got up called me violent and crazy, well my problem is was i wrong for slamming the phone down? i am not violent, but just a woman who is tired of being treated this way when i havent done anything. i would never hurt him, and this was the person i wanted to marry, now im just confused with his behavior, and cant understand why he is treating me this way.

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