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writes:This guy i've met we get along really well as if we've known each other a lot longer than the past couple weeks, we like the same things so we have a fair amount in common. He's really sweet and fun to be around, and good thing is he's funny in such a stupid way, I find I can't stop feeling happy or smiling when i'm around him.Even reading that back I realise how great a guy he is and i've not met one of those in a long time, normally I pick the wrong guy every time or it just does not work out because they're a jerk and screw me over....Problem is, he's VERY tall compared to me! He's a whole foot taller, i'm 5'3, he's 6'3. And even in heels i'm only 5'7 and still I feel much shorter. I just think if this did work out it would be complicated with me always having to have some type of heel on, him always having to bend down to kiss me and me reaching much up to kiss him. Realistically, I don't think it'll work. I mean the height without heels is very noticeable when we're out, it just looks a bit silly and all my friends said I should be with someone of a sensible height and i suppose they're right. I don't know if it bothers him that i'm shorter, it may do? When I met him I had heels on, so I don't think we took much notice of the height, we just happened to click and like each other straight off. It's just a shame because i didn't think anything would have come from when we met and that i'd like him this much, but here we are! I don't know what to do, whether I should realise that my friends are right, nothing can come out of this and know that he should be with a taller girl? What's everyone's opinions, it would be great advice from someone other people I already know..... Reply to this Question
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reader, jjnsna7 +, writes (27 August 2012):
Your concerns are probably more superficial than his. I suspect that he only worries about your mustache.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Your friends sound pretty immature to be honest. You should dump him because he is tall...? Ridiculous. That's probably the dumbest reason to dump a good guy that I have ever heard. Not that you need another example but I am also 5'3 and my husband is 6'2. Barely noticeable. He loves being tall and I love that I am short, and vice versa. Maybe it takes a lot of bad relationships and definitely takes age and maturity but you will find that such a superficial "problem" is not a problem at all.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 August 2012):
Wow! Talk about worrying over nothing. It's not like you're a dwarf and he's 6'3", then yeah, that might be a little weird. My dad is 6'6" and my mom is 5'3", not a big deal at all. Some tall guys like petite women and some like taller women so don't feel insecure about it.
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reader, Jayjay24 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Height shouldn't matter if you really love each other. I'm 5` 7 and my boyfriend is 5` 3. We still love each other the same way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 August 2012):
 total NON issue. Mom was 5'2" Dad 6'2"
I'm 5'2" my last husband was 6'4"
height is a total non issue.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Height is rarely a real issue. Or should I say the least of your worries. If you match in all other aspects, height won't matter.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 I'm 5"3 and was in a long term relationship with a guy who was 6"3 and we had no problems at all, I never felt I had to wear heels all the time and he thought it was cute when I stood on my tiptoes when I kissed him. It honestly isnt a problem bending down to kiss someone or looking up to kiss him etc.
And who cares if people think it looks a bit silly? If he is a great guy and he makes you happy then dont let him go, there are not that many nice guys out there so if you have found one and you clicked then dont let it go over something as superficial as height. Heck I even dated a guy who was 6"6, I couldnt care less what people thought!
Ignore everyone else, their opinions are irrelevant and as long as you are happy that is all that matters. There is no such thing as a 'sensible height', height is about as important as eye colour when it comes to relationships - NOT AT ALL!!
Enjoy your new man and your friends will soon shut up, chances are they are just jealous that you are with a hot guy who makes you happy!
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (24 August 2012):
I think that if you really like the guy and he makes you happy then you should go for it. So what if he's taller? Most of the time guys are taller than girls. (Not in my experience always considering I'm 5'10) and who cares if you have to reach up and kiss him or if it looks weird? (It probably doesn't look as weird as you think it does.) You could fall in love with this guy. Don't you like the idea of having a big strong protector? ^-^
hope I helped a bit, good luck. Xoxoxo
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 This difference in height is of absolutely NO IMPORTANCE as to whether or not you and your guy-friend are compatible.....
Good luck....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Personally I think this is a non-issue. If he makes you smile all the time, why would you want to give that up? My Dad was 6'3" and my Mom was 5"4" and they were married to each until my Mom died at age 68. This is not a problem.
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reader, mpumie  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 This is your happiness and not of anybody. If you love him the continue loving him. I'm dating a guy who is shorter than me and I don't care who says what because its all about me and my happiness.
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