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writes:I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater...I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom after a few drinks before bed)To see that he is cheating with new lady..(who I like, but don't know well) I have old passwords...how do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 August 2012):
 He's history and he's not worth the trouble. Better that you do something really nice for you.
So what might suit your situation?
A good quality ring that you choose?
A holiday In a Villa in Lago di Garda or similar
A cruise?
Do something really good for you that
only benefits you and provides you with good memories.
He will eventually come unstuck and when he comes to you for support to get him out of another pickle - well you just will not know him. And you will just move on in your life.
Your success is the best revenge
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2012):
 why do you want to tell them? to make them stop so you can have him... they won't and you can't.
to make them stop and not get hurt, they won't stop and will get hurt...
to hurt them... they won't believe you...
they won't care... it will be different with them...
why are you even caring about an EX?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Are you hacking into your ex's email accounts with his passwords? That's wrong, no matter what he's done.
I think you should forget about him and move on.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 I'd love to learn about how you had this "accidental" find...
Otherwise.... why not just let him be gone???? What purpose do you expect to serve by haunting around HIS life? How about just getting on with YOUR'S (life)????
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2012):
 What are your motivations for telling?
Are you after revenge or worried for their safety?
The likelihood of them believing you is slim. The likelihood of him not finding out it was you is even slimmer. Because all in all if you are going to "out" a cheater you have to show concrete proof which mean you have to show your hand.
I understand that you may not want someone else to go through what you went through, but honey, you can't police every single person lacking morals.
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reader, Leykis101 +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Professional Liars and Cheaters are under contract, you cannot interfere with this, it isn't possible, just as u can not interfere with professional police officers, or firefighters, they are doing their jobs, and you should not interfere with them, why would you even consider it? it is not easy to become a pro Liar, and a pro cheater? that is many many hours of practice and training, so I really do not see a practical answer to your question,I think you should just let it go, and leave it to the professionals, you will not be able to alter the outcome, so just move on, OK, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): However you tell them, its always going to come back to you.
When they pull him up about it, he'll want to know who's told these women this, so they'll need to back up their own words and provide a solid source of information to him. Otherwise they'll look like the stupid ones, and he'll just excuse his way out of it.
If he is like you say, then its only a matter of time before they find out for themselves. So just sit back a wait for the fireworks.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (24 August 2012):
 You could go ahead and tell them but I doubt they will take much notice. Women tend to get love blindness when they meet someone new and will probably just assume (with his help) that you are the Psycho jealous ex. I'd let them discover his hidden agendas for themselves whilst you happily hold your head high and move on with grace and dignity.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 August 2012):
 Not your problem. Let them figure it out. In my opinion, you should just move on.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (24 August 2012):
 As he is, as you say, a professional liar and cheater, I wouldn't worry about it and just let it go - it's his job, after all - he's being paid for it!
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