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writes:Hi,I have been dating this guy for almost 1 1/2 month and known him for alsmot 3 months. We started dating after we slept together, after a party where we both were a bit drunk. Anyhow, I know he has a busy schedule with work, studies and training so we only see each other once a week but that is only because we are on the same soccer team - so we don't really talk. Which means that I can't really get to know him any better. The other players from the soccer team keep teasing us by saying that we are in a relationship - the hard part is that I'm falling for him so I do want a relationship at some point soon - but he needs to know me better before he even wants to concider it ... but as I said - he is so busy all the time, so I don't really get to see him one-on-one that much. And somehow I keep getting the feeling that he is not trying very hard to use some of the spare time he has on me because he keeps making plans with other people. I'm frustrated and I really dont know what to think . Is he just playing with me? what should i do to make him more open and enthusiatic about us and seeing me, so that I'm not the one that keeps asking him out? Or push him away because I'm trying so hard ...I really hope that with some fresh eyes, and some advice might help me see things in a new light
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (19 November 2012):
 Being drunk does not make you truthful. It only lowers your inhibitions and makes you looser when you talk. I've lied whilst drunk and been lied to whilst drunk. It is not a truth serum. That saying is just that, a saying. Children lie all the time too. Sageoldguy gave good advice, I am just responding to your follow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess you are right.Does it even change anything if I told you that in his drunken haze told me this while we had an honest conversation (or at least i was):He will never hurt me, at least not consciously.He has missed someone that could "move" his insides.And that he so fare like all the sides of me that he has seen.Aren't we always saying that the truth we hear comes from drunks and children? or should I just take it as another hole of bull he is giving me?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 November 2012):
 The crux of your submittal is found in this: "...I do want a relationship at some point soon - but he needs to know me better before he even wants to concider it ... but as I said - he is so busy all the time, so I don't really get to see him one-on-one that much...."
Please understand that HE has now experienced the primary thing that he needed to experience. He got you to bed, that fateful night when you and he "met."
Since then, he has had little motive to do anything else to "woo" you....
Tragedy is that you have interpreted that tryst as the "beginning of a relationship" (my quotes) whilest he has interpreted it as a great evening that requires no follow-up...
Good luck....
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