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writes:My wife suddenly walked out on me 4 years ago without notice. She had her reasons and I was relieved after a year without her anger and her insanity after feeling incredibly hurt by her.My daughters think she's nuts and lived with me until 1 married and 1 went off to college. We still get together for our daughters birthdays ect.We have become sort of friends after the dust settled. I still do things to help her out. Last night she called me asking me to take her out for a drink. She wanted to go to this tavern where I meet up with friends on occaision. So we went and a longtime friend of her family was there. I sat next to another woman I know with my wife on the other side chatting with her friend. When we left the pub the car ride home was a blast from the past, how I ignored her all night, how all I did was talk to the woman next to me, she been just a friend. Then it went onto why our marriage failed how I never took her out which is a lie or showed any interest in her love of football. She was mad because I knew about the football games, I just happen to wath the games with my family on Thanksgiving day. She came over this morning wanting to know why I didn't speak to her at the bar and how all of a sudden I know about football since she loved the games but I didn't. I don't understand this woman who walked out on me,cheated on me multiple times treated me like crap for years, blames me for everything that went wrong in her life and then admits she was jealous of the woman I was talking to. I'm now thinking she is in fact very jealous of me. I have a lot going on for me now,I'm finacially secure for the first time since I married her wasteful spending cheating ass, I have plenty of women interested in me and I'm not dating any of them. I just wonder if she's thinking about or wants to come back to me. Why else would she care? She's not having much luck with the men, but who wants a psycho, she can't seem to keep any friends long. I'm not asking her to come home. I did ask her a few years back and she said she couldn't trust me, words from a cheater to a guy who did love her and never ever cheated on her. So my question really is "Do you think she wants to come back"? or is this more of her drama queen nonsense? I have a history with this woman, I still love her. I was married to her for 26 years and knew her 5 years before we married and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. Like I said I'm not going to ask her to come home again,if she asked me I'm not sure it would be any good now, but I would consider it.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 RUN AWAY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Honestly? If you can't even go out for a drink with this woman without it resulting in a fight, I seriously would not bother to ask her about getting together again! It's ok to love her for the woman she once was AND for giving you two beautiful children. That doesn't mean you have to relive a bad marriage again.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 After reading your submittal, only one question comes to my mind: Why would you consider spending ANY time with this woman??????
Good luck....
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (25 November 2012):
She either still has feelings for you, or she feels threatened by the fact that you’re getting on with life because she’d rather you weren’t moving on with your life following the breakup, and that there wasn’t interest from other women. Whatever way, it sounds like she still displays all the behaviours that were ultimately so destructive last time around so it would be highly unlikely to work out between you both anyway. To be honest it probably isn’t worth the hornets’ nest that might be stirred up if you asked her about this, best to perhaps put a bit of distance between you. Keep things civil for your family if you can but you don’t have to take her out or help out with things. Perhaps she’s grown a bit too comfortable with the idea that you’re not with her, but aren’t going to be with anyone else either. Perhaps you should get on with your life and leave her to hers a bit more.
I wish you all the very best.
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