Ladies: questions about sex on the first date.
Q. I would like to know two quick things about women ************************************ 1) how often do women have sex on the first date, If you have had sex on the first date... 2) what does it take for you to have sex on the first date?...
A. 17 December 2012: Damn, tennis star.... I hope you don't like me... and would like to "seal the deal" some time!!!!
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When are hugs from another woman mean more than a hug
Q. how to tell when a hug from another woman means more than a hug ...
A. 17 December 2012: When she reaches around and squeezes my buttocks, at the same time that she sticks her tongue in my ear..... I interpret that as more than an innocent "how do you do" hug.... You may use this a one of your guidelines....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What can I do about the bad attitude they keep telling me I have?
Q. Dear cupids, its so hard for me to keep a relationship. Before I started dating I hated men because of my father and dating hasn't changed a lot especially when they ask for help like money sometimes. I feel they want to use me because I am from a ...
A. 17 December 2012: Sounds to me like you suffer from "Poor little rich girl" syndrome. Unfortunately, the only way for you to address this issue IS for you to seek counselling (which you tell us that you eschew)..... so you face an enigma.... i.e.
Either, you get ... (read in full...)
Ladies: questions about sex on the first date.
Q. I would like to know two quick things about women ************************************ 1) how often do women have sex on the first date, If you have had sex on the first date... 2) what does it take for you to have sex on the first date?...
A. 17 December 2012: You are in luck... because I can give you a certain answer to your query....
IF a woman is a tart, or strumpet, she will readily have s*x on a first date..... IF she is a "lady" then there is NO CHANCE that she will put out on a first date....... (read in full...)
Should I force myself to get married to feel like I amount to something?
Q. I am 21 years old and never had a relationship. My grandmother is picking on me constantly because I'm not married and she was at my age. She says that the reason why I'm not married is because I'm ugly,I'm worthless,I'm fat, ETC. And she always ...
A. 15 December 2012: Great Grandmother you've got there.....
How about forgetting any- and everything that she's said to you in the past? .... and limiting your contact with her as much as you can?.... and ignoring any ongoing - or additional - B/S that you can, pre... (read in full...)
Best friend. Should I tell her about her boyfriend?
Q. Okay well im starting to be really good friends with this girl at my school and she has a boyfriend for about 2 years. When i walk in the hallways at school he is always smiling and staring at me when she isn't looking, ill confess he is cute but i ...
A. 15 December 2012: I suggest you try this:
1. Take him aside, privately, some time ... and say to him: "I've perceived that you seem to give me a peculiar amount of attention... such as when you "brushed up against me" at the basketball game..... AND I think it... (read in full...)
What do I do after breaking my ex's heart?
Q. I broke my ex's heart by completely neglecting her, not being there for her for two weeks, because I suspected she was seeing someone else. On top of that, by the end of the two weeks I sent her a completely unreasonable message where I was venting ...
A. 15 December 2012: You ask: "....What can I do? Cut my losses and move on?"
The short answer is, "yes."..... and the long answer is, "Yes.... and hope that you've learned your lesson and don't repeat it...."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this normal male behaviour or is he being overly possessive?
Q. My boyfriend and I are on holiday, staying in my friend's apartment. She and her boyfriend live here. My boyfriend got upset with me last night as I came to bed in my pyjamas and he said the top was see-through and he hoped I wasn't letting N (the ...
A. 15 December 2012: I can't speak for his being "male or overly possessive".... but I CAN tell you that he was being an A$S!!!
If he's dumb enough to escalate this such that he takes a flight home... I suggest that you stay behind, say "Good riddance".... and get ... (read in full...)
How does my friend really feel about me? He rejected me and moved in with his girlfriend, but cant say if he still has feelings for me...
Q. im a bit worried as to how this will get read so please help if you can ok here goes, during the summer i got close to my best friend. we never had sex but kissed a few times. hes in a problematic situation with his girlfriend of 5 years so what hap...
A. 14 December 2012: You've written: "....hes in a problematic situation with his girlfriend of 5 years...".... in the passive tense... as if this "situation" happened and he had nothing to do with it.....
It's HIS "SITUATION".... and didn't just "happen" by the move... (read in full...)
Why am I so sad, instead of being mad at the way my married ex pressured me?
Q. I am in a really difficult situation. I have been in love with a man for 18 years. When I met him he was separated from his wife and I was newly divorced. We were together 4 years and then he returned to his wife and children. I was hurt but I ...
A. 14 December 2012: It's amazing what refusing to buckle for sex with a guy will bring out from his mouth and brain... It's better than ANY "truth serum"!!!!!
NOW, you know that this "long-term love" was really just looking for a little nooky, all along...... (read in full...)
Am I right or wrong for wanting for being upset over him winding me up over the fact that I've loaned him money?
Q. just a minor issue really.. just want to know if im right or wrong... just leant my boyfriend £1000 towards a deposit on a new flat for him.. dont want to move in with him and have no probs with him paying me back at all.. just when I txt him to ...
A. 14 December 2012: I suggest you be intensely suspicious of a guy who would borrow money from you (a tidy sum, at that!).... under the premise of it being necessary for a specific important thing.... then, learning that he is planning to squander it on himself, on ... (read in full...)
I want my relationship to work, but I also want my life to take off finally and I keep thinking that if I wait one more year maybe he will be ready to move with me.
Q. I just pasted my 2nd anniversary with my boyfriend and I have been feeling like I need a change of scenery. I brought this to his attention and he is not ready to go any where. I considered Illinois cause that is where my mom is and the rest of my ...
A. 14 December 2012: When a person co-mingles these three items (career, love-life and address) it is usually quite a mine-field of choices.... My opinion?
1. Don't move in together whilest your relationship is as tenuous as your's is.... To extricate oneself ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend blows hot and cold about getting back together
Q. So here it goes. Me and my girlfriend of 2 years just broke up on Thanksgiving and it was a pretty rough break up. The thing is this Friday would have been our 2 year anniversary which is going to be a really rough day for me. Heres my question...
A. 13 December 2012: She's playing "schoolyard" games which, usually, are insipid for adults....
YOU are in total control. Either go along with her and play the game (HER game),.... OR, develop testicles and put her out of your life and go on your way.....
Ooooops... (read in full...)
Fertility doubts!
Q. hi! i seem to have a 32 days based period, does that make one less fertile? i wonder, i sometimes don’t get periods for 2 months do i still have a chance to conceive?...
A. 13 December 2012: OP: May I "justify" myself a bit? I made a glib comment about your submittal because it seems clear to me that this is the kind of question that should be discussed between YOU and a OB/Gyn Doctor..... and NOT on/in a public - and, admittedly, an ... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: I was in your shoes, once.... with a girl whose behaviour was just as you've stated....
I tried to endure it, to compromise, to explain myself, to discourage her jealousy and encourage her worth-to-me.... all for naught. So, after about 18 month... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me or is it just that I'm 'available' to him?
Q. I've been talking to this guy (A) on and off for 2 years. He told me 6 months ago that, he's not attracted me and he doesn't want to get close to me. We all have the same friends so we interact every now and again. Two years ago I met him (A) and ...
A. 13 December 2012: Yes. His actions are SO LOUD that they are TOTALLY drowning out his words....
Soooooooo, "LISTEN" to his actions, only, and decide, for yourself, whether or not you want to be this guy's "little piece on the side".... because it's clear that tha... (read in full...)
Fertility doubts!
Q. hi! i seem to have a 32 days based period, does that make one less fertile? i wonder, i sometimes don’t get periods for 2 months do i still have a chance to conceive?...
A. 12 December 2012:
The best way to figger this out is to put out for any guy who approached you.... whenever you want.... and see if he
"puts the bread in your oven....."
Honestly.... WHY do you girls ask us these type of questions??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I don't want to appear desperate but I don't want to discourage him either. How do I do this?
Q. Hello My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months.He was the most wonderful boyfriend a girl could have.Did the nicest most special things for me. We are in college. Recently he suffered a terrible loss and I guess I was suffocating him. He ...
A. 12 December 2012: There's 'way too much drama in this submittal.....
Please re-consider and post this again, if you think it is appropriate......... (read in full...)
Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...
A. 11 December 2012: This is a classic case of "talking the talk" but not "walking the walk".....
You don't need to put up with him and his shenanigans. YOU can do much better with a sincere and loyal boyfriend. I'd wager that you'll need not more than 10 days to ... (read in full...)
How can I get my self confidence back after being left by my husband? I feel like damaged goods now.
Q. How can I get my self confidence back after my husband left? I tolerated a lot of behaviors from my husband during my marriage that I never thought I would because I thought marriage was supposed to last forever. Every time I would be verball...
A. 11 December 2012: OK.... so you're damaged....
NOW, get yourself in to the "Repair shop of life" (maybe, with a counsellor).... and go out and make a better life for yourself... happy and pleased that you're rid of that a$$ who damaged you, in the first place, w... (read in full...)
Who will want me now?
Q. Who will want me now? My self confidence is shot. After a volatile six years of marriage, I am now a 30 year old single mom. I feel like I will never meet anyone decent, and if I do, they will run for the hills as soon as they know I have a ch...
A. 11 December 2012: WHOA!!!!! Hang on.... Before you relagate yourself to the grave... think about: 1. your child, and 2. the prospect that you've got about 1/2 of your life left to live.....
C'mon, a setback at age 30-35 is a TEMPORARY setback... and you have... (read in full...)
I don't know how to deal with this love triangle. Do I compromise love for comfort?
Q. I need help!! I dont know how to deal with this love triangle. About six month ago I left my fiance of 11 years for many reasons. 1. I felt in love with a woman 2. he lied to me and was cheating on me. Although I never saw him cheating; but I ...
A. 11 December 2012: A "triangle" requires THREE people.....
In your story there is no "love triangle"... just YOU, with ties to two (other) people....
Because this "triangle" is stressful for you, it is incumbent upon YOU to recognize how this "triangle" came ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend leads another life when he's out drinking and partying. I don't like it!
Q. Hi there, I've asked for advice a few times before and been very happy with the responses, so here I am again! Basically, to cut a long story short, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, and in that time, we have only ever fought ...
A. 11 December 2012: When a pair of people are attracted to one-another, and wish to have a relationship, there are a few compatibilities which must match or be in-sync..... Consider:
- Age (even if it's an age DIFFERENCE),
- Appearance,
- Education,
- En... (read in full...)
How do I feel confident when my crush said I was unaatractive?
Q. I'm not pretty and i don't think any guys will love me because i'm ugly. Every girl that i've have known who had a boyfriend were pretty and then there's me who wants a boyfriend and to know what it feels like to be loved. People find me ugly ...
A. 11 December 2012: First, your so-called "crush" has proven to be an a$$h@le.... so be glad that you're rid of him....
Then, look up "Lizzie Velasquez" on a search engine (Google or Bing).... and learn why people like this crush don't really make any differen... (read in full...)
I trust HIM, not HER!
Q. One more question before I go. There is a girl who texts my boyfriend relentlessly. She's my age or younger and is a compulsive flirt. I also know of her because she coerced my friend's ex-boyfriend to run away with her while he was still dating...
A. 11 December 2012: The "issue" here is with YOUR BOYFRIEND... NOT with this flirty-girl.....
It is incumbent upon HIM to say to HER: "Say, cute, flirty thing.... DON'T continue to send texts to my phone..."
ONLY when/once he does THAT will this matter truly be ... (read in full...)
What to do? Shall I give my Gf a third chance?
Q. okay so long story short...i am currently with my gf of 8 months. We started out as best friends and eventually started dating (finally got out of the friendzone :) ) But now we are starting to have problems. In the beginning of the relation...
A. 11 December 2012:
Whilest the lady's actions are not laudable, I find your your reaction(s) to them rather odd....
I think your submittal is an interesting story about YOU... and that "story" is that you have both a peculiar set of standards for your/a girl'... (read in full...)
My FWB says that he's not cheating on his girlfriend with me because apparently I'm not a service , I'm just a girl who he likes in lust
Q. I am 19 years of age and now is in an affair with a man who is 29 who has a girlfriend he has been dating for 8 years. He says shes his best friend, with her he has a so called life , clean clothes to wear. But he is unsure if he wants/or is going ...
A. 11 December 2012: I think your submittal is a great piece of prose to validate HIS lying/cheating and justify YOUR naivity...
BUT, at the end of the day, you are going to have to face-up to the facts. I.E. HE is using YOU... and YOU are the "third wheel" i... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 11 December 2012: Let me be more perfectly clear about this:
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO....Don't send him any compromising pictures of you. Don't give him a photo copy... DO NOT reveal your intimate self to this guy...
WHAT do we have to say to get yo... (read in full...)
We've only been married six weeks and my husband wants a divorce
Q. Hello Im in a big family trouble now. And I wish I could get some advice from here. ( I dont know hot to begin this question ...) Me and my husband we have knew each other more than a year then we got married 6 weeks ago. And yesterday he t...
A. 10 December 2012: Let him get the divorce.... and chalk the experience up as a month-and-a-half of learning......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't sleep in the same bed with me. Should I get divorced?
Q. I married since 1994. After four years later, we have first child my husband did not want to sleep with me on the same bed, because I breast feeding. But after my child turn one he still did not want to sleep together. However, sometime he came to ...
A. 10 December 2012: It "sounds" like you and hubby have a LOT of talking to do....
YOU need to tell him about your feelings - roughly, of abandonment.... as you've described, herein....
AND, he needs to tell you how he feels about your marriage ... AND about th... (read in full...)
Do I leave my fiance because I'm not totally happy?
Q. I have been engaged to an amazing guy for a year, i really love him but there are a few things that i really don't like about him, one is that his a momma's boy who can't do anything without his mom's help and another is that he is not thinking ...
A. 10 December 2012: DON'T co-mingle these issues!!!!
Decide, first, if you are through with "Momma's boy"....
IF you are, then - and only then - can you consider if you want to spend time with this "second" guy....
It's easier to make TWO simple decision... (read in full...)
My older husband says he is too tired to have sex
Q. Iam 33 years old and am married to a 65yr old man.My problem is he's very restrictive,won't let me go any where.I like clubbing but he won't let me go and when I tell him to go with me he says he doesn't want and that kills me.Two, we can only do ...
A. 10 December 2012: Don't worry about the child. Kids are very adaptable....
Decide if YOU want to live your life like a Nun. IF you do, then stay where you are and let the "status quo" be the "status."
IF you want to have a REAL LIFE.... like many women of th... (read in full...)
Does anyone feel shame after masturbating?
Q. I've read a lot of testimony from others about feelings of shame after masturbating, and I share a similar experience. However, I am only ashamed after thinking about or viewing certain things that under normal circumstances I would find morally ...
A. 10 December 2012: Are you crazy????? I feel terrific after doing you-know-what..... and then spend time and mental energy looking forward to the NEXT time that I'll be doing you-know-what.
Case closed...
P.S. My eyesight is shot... but that's been a small pri... (read in full...)
My 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager. Will her grow out of it?
Q. My problem is that my 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager at times. He is still very influenced by what his friends think, and because of that he often does things to fit in with them. He is often the drunkest guy on a night out because he ...
A. 10 December 2012: From your descriptions, it's easy to conclude that HE is stuck in childhood, whilest YOU have gone along to adulthood.....
The decision is your's.... live with a child; or look for - and spend time with - an adult....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What is your position on living together before marriage?
Q. Hello dear Aunts :) and uncles :) What is your position on living together before marriage? Before engagement? What do you think the pros and cons are to each scenario? Some say that while living together, the man gains everything, while the ...
A. 10 December 2012: You write: "Do you think that when living together without a further commitment, it decreases the man's motivation to propose and make it official?"
I have made at least a dozen submittals, on this site, to remind women that MEN have, or get, all... (read in full...)
Over my head or out of my league?
Q. Here's my question: Is it ever appropriate between a first and second date (which I asked for) to ask the other person if they've met someone new? She has already rescheduled the second date from a Saturday night to a Tuesday night, and her ...
A. 10 December 2012: Don't rush things (especially since it will make you look desparate!!!).
Wednesday will be here soon enough.... and then you will have the "answer" to this question....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Weed seems more important to him than our relationship
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years has started smoking weed regularly and I hate it. He has become secretive, lazy and snappy with me since he started, and only seems interested in getting stoned these days. I have told him I don't like it (I have my own ...
A. 10 December 2012: You write: "....he will not change for me and it's not fair of me to ask. .."
He's correct. HOWEVER it IS fair of you to tell him to take a hike and get out of your life.... "Fair" works both ways....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What would be the perfect Christmas gift for her?
Q. hey ladies, if i were your boyfriend and were to spend christmas together what would you like to receive as a gift within a 350 dls budget? a gadget? jewlery? i want to give her something nice, to cause a good impression and she would remember me. ...
A. 10 December 2012: If I were a girl, and knew my B/F was going to get me a gift that cost about $350, I'd cross my fingers and say my prayers that he would get me a new lawnmower.....
Merry Xmas........ (read in full...)
How can I determine if he is just a really nice guy, or is he also interested in me?
Q. I am 19 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I've never been kissed, asked out, or even had anybody hold my hand. I think this is because I use to give off an aura that I wasn't approachable, but that isn't the case anymore. I really ...
A. 9 December 2012: There are really two good "answers" to your query:
1. Spend less time and mental energy trying to quantify/identify/define what - if anything - is (or isn't) going on between you and this guy.... and,
2. Enjoy the friendship and comeradarie ... (read in full...)
Her Fiance was caught cheating. How can I help her see him more clearly and help her heal from her blinded love?
Q. how can i convince my friend that her to-be-husband is not worth keeping? all her family have had many doubts before with no hard evidence, but now he has been caught with a women in their village. Relatives saw them and told her. Yet she wouldn...
A. 9 December 2012: Sometimes, when you're standing on the bank of a river, you see someone paddling past, downstream, in a canoe, and you call to them: "Excuse me... but there's a very dangerous waterfall just ahead, and perhaps you should go to this or the other ... (read in full...)
She's a twin. How can I start up a conversation with her? Seeing as we don't have any classes together?
Q. 21-year old community college student here. There's this girl I really like who I see around every so often and I think she's really pretty. Only problem is I don't have any classes with her or really know her, her identical twin sister was in one ...
A. 9 December 2012: A bit of sage advice from an old guy who's "been there"...
Next time you hold the door for this Angel.... and she sez "Thank you".... YOU SAY, "You're welcome, beautiful lady.... and, by the way, do you have any plans for the next 35-or-so... (read in full...)
Scared I'll miss him if we break-up. But I feel neglected and second best. Any advice on how to manage this situation?
Q. I think I should leave my boyfriend of 3 years but I'm scared to because I know I'm going to miss him so much. Can anyone give me some advice on whether this is normal or if it means I shouldn't do it? Here is some background on the reasons I have ...
A. 9 December 2012: Didn't you post this previously? ....and not too long ago?
The "answer" is; you have to choose from between two alternatives:
1. Continue to be this guy's foot-wiping mat for the indefinite future (until you, finally, get fed up), or,
2. ... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 9 December 2012: You write: "....he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind of slag?"
What is he going to think of you if you DO send them????
Don't go along with his creepy request. Remember: Pics in cyber-sp... (read in full...)
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