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*ennifer P.
writes:I've have been in the big trouble! I have fallen in love with my teacher, and I wonder if he loves me too. The way he looks at me and he also looks at me a lot! My friends already thought I'm crazy. They said it's impossible to love the teacher whom is older than me. He's 24 years old and I'm 16 years old which is not too old, right ??? Last Wednesday was his birthday, I gave him a big box of chocolate and he looked so happy with his smiley face. He also invited me to his party but he didn't ask any of his students JUST ME! He always sneaks glancing at me when I walk pass him. I'm dying to know what he is thinking!
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (27 November 2012):
One of my favorite quotes is: "Everyone in love is stupid, it's part of the condition." People get easily confused when it comes to matters of the heart, OP. Good for you that you had the sense to ask for advise when you needed it. Keep that attitude. It'll help you avoid potential train wrecks like this one. You have a good head on your shoulders.
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reader, Jennifer P. +, writes (27 November 2012):
Jennifer P. is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey guys I just wanna tell you I can swear I haven't had sex with him! We haven't even kissed :) I know what the right thing is. My own feeling just confuses me too much so that's why my question is on here. Perhap, someone's been in this situation before. But now everthing is quite clear to me...I'm gonna stay away from him, okay ?
By the way, thanks again for your sharing :D
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 November 2012):
 OP did you have sex with this man? IF so you must report him (go to your parents and let them do it)
IF you had sex with him and he continues to approach you he's a predator and he must be removed from his job ASAP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): OP, I hope you're not implying what I think you are.
You've had sex with your school teacher?!
If that's the case the guy needs removing from the school, banned from working with kids again and throwing in prison!! As for you, if you're prone to jump into bed with a school teacher you have a crush on, you ought to be home schooled because its completely WRONG!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (27 November 2012):
You sound sensible OP. Thank god for that. You don't want to know how many teens we encounter who fight us tooth and nail when it comes to pursuing their teacher. I'm happy to see you realize what's the right thing to do here. In any case, I'm just going to elaborate a little.
It's often hard for young teachers in the 20-something category to keep the line separated between students and friends, so his invitation was probably just a knee jerk reaction to your gift. In any case, it's not legal and definitely not a good idea to go. As others have already pointed out: his career and future is at risk. It's a mistake that could cost him dearly. If he can't be sensible, you'll have to be, if you care about him.
Plus to be honest, even if he wasn't your teacher but just some regular dude you met on a social outing, I think 24-16 is still a too big of an age gap. Think about it: you're still in high school and he's already finished his college education and has a job. Also, you're still developing (both physically and mentally) and he's basically done when it comes to that. For now, you couldn't be further apart. If you think boys your own age are too young for you, try an age gap of max 2 years. When you get older age gaps matter less, but while you're still developing they matter a lot.
Also, in the future, refrain from giving him presents or any of the sort. If he's truly into you, you can pursue it when you've graduated or when he's no longer teaching at your school. For now though, he's off limits.
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reader, Jennifer P. +, writes (27 November 2012):
Jennifer P. is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your sharing ;) Actually, I never meant to have sex with him.....I feel so ashamed sometimes when I look at him.
You all are definitely right, I should let him go and say NO when he asks me to go out with him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 This is the third such "I'm in love with my teacher, and I think he/she is in love with me...." submittal that we've seen in the last couple of days.
Is it just me? .... or do some of you other Aunts and Uncles also find it most curious that there is going to be a full moon tomorrow night?????
Just askin'.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): If he IS having feelings for you too and he's your teacher, he's a creep! He's in a position of trust around all you youngsters and if he is viewing you in any other way than a professional way, he needs to be watched very closely around young girls.
Yes, 24 IS too old for you no matter how mature and grown up you feel in yourself. You ARE a child, and obviously NOT mature enough if you think a relationship with your teacher could actually work.
You should NOT pursue this, more trouble than you can ever dream of could come of this!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 November 2012):
he's your teacher (STRIKE ONE... you never get involved with a teacher or a boss)
you are 16 you are still legally a child and emotionally still very immature.
he's 24 and an adult and should know better.
clearly he's willing to risk his job and his livelihood (he will never be able to teach again should he get caught being inappropriate with you)
Hopefully all he thinks is that you are a charming YOUNG student of his that he has no ideas to have anything more with.
and if he does he needs to be reported.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 November 2012):
 He invinted you because he is INAPPROPRIATE - and no, honey he doesn't LOVE you. He might feel LUST for a little school girl.
And yes a 24 year old TEACHER should stay far far away from 16 year old students.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (26 November 2012):
 Yes 24 is too old for you, I'm sorry but your teacher could lose his job if he did anything with you and I'm sure you dont want that to happen, so you need to back off.
Nothing can happen while you are his student, so you just need to realise that unless you want him to go to prison and ruin the rest of his life, then you have to leave him alone. It doesnt matter how he feels or what he thinks, he knows he is your teacher and he cant do anything with you.
Let this one go and look for a guy closer to your own age.
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reader, megsplace +, writes (26 November 2012):
 I understand you have feelings for your teacher and maybe he does have feelings for you but are you willing to put his career to a full stop or even still have a relationship with this teacher who is 8 yrs your elder who obviously cant be trusted in young ladys company,you have 2 rare gifts the first is your youth dont ever want to grow older that will come fast enough and second your body is yours so respect yourself,do not show this man your feelings they will soon disapear in time if he does pursue it further you must tell a friend or family or just say NO!
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