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writes:So I began a relationship with a guy that ive known for many years.Early in the relationship we moved in together and I started having second thoughts.So I told him him we were done.I regret it but I spent the weekend with my ex and yes I had sex with him. after wards I realized I had made a horrible mistake/descision and started over with the guy I had been dating.We moved on and everything was fine.I became pregnant,six months later with my horomones and emotions we started arguing again.He leaves the house without his vehicle or phone and I didnt know where he was. I searched all night for him trying to make amends I find him at his sisters house with his ex.No one would open the door for me and he took off running.He didnt speak to me for seems like days and when he did he said he had oral sex with her!!!So at my next docotors appt my i tested postitive for clhymidia!We worked through had the baby and we get along most of the time but this girl comes to thanksgiving and new year and it makes me so uncomfortable.Is this fair or right that him or anyone in his family for that matter will not tell her how disrespectful it is. i feel like not attending holidays they mkae me feel like they dont care???Any onsight from anyone would be nice.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (30 November 2012):
yes it is unfair and you would be better off without someone who gave you a STI
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 Yes, it is unfair and stupid for his family to invite his ex- to holiday affairs...
The "problem" ... as I see it, however .... is that this ex- won't STAY an "ex-"!!!!!!
YOU can handle this best by packing all of this cad's "things" in to boxes.... place them outside, on your front doorstep... and, when he comes "home" and notices them there.... and asks you "Wussup???" you tell him - through the door - whose locks have been changed - that whatever it was that was going on between you two is now officially "over".... and he'll have to find another address to live, as of now (that delicious moment)....
Good luck. No woman (or man) deserves such shoddy treatment.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Well the thing is he didnt lie to me about what he done She did!How can I trust her.Shes known around here to be a hoe.I dont understand why he doesnt say anything because he shouldnt want her there either.My family would never ask him to spend holiday with my ex because it is disrespectful wether hes friends with anyone in my family or not!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): I don't think it's unfair to tell him that considering the history with that women he asks is family not to invite her. If he is serious about a future with you and your child then that shouldn't be a massive problem. With her entwined in some of your past problems it is a very cruel reminder of that stage in your lives, as him how would he feel if your ex was at every occasion?If she happens to be very close friends to a member of his family then I would either have your own gathering and only invite the people you want or just spend holidays as a family. I can't see how he can expect you to be around her especially now you have a child together, when your child is older will they be calling her aunty?? I wouldn't not be comfortable and wouldn't hesitate to tell my partner how I felt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): This relationship seemed "doomed" from the very beginning. You get into an arug. break up with him and go on to have sex with an ex asap - he is rec. oral sex from an ex girlfriend and so forth and so on. I don't think this relationship has what it takes to be a successful one at this point. Also, if this ex is still friends with his family, there is nothing "disrespectful" about them inviting her over for dinner for the holidays and visa versa. The reason why she makes you so uncomfortable is because, you don't feel secure in your relationship with your boyfriend as he as already lied before about having oral sex with this woman. It's not necc. this woman that is the problem, it's you and your boyfriend. Go to counseling, trying to work out the "inner" you and once everything is aligned within yourself, the outer environ. will reflect that change. There seems to be too much tension, jealous and distrust in this relationship...believe me I can tell because, I have been there before. Being in such a relationship is not healthy, it doesn't feel good and it will start to take a dangerous toll on your self esteem. Either fix this relationship or get out and leave for good.
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