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writes:Looking for some advise, I've been with my partner for 23 years. 6 years ago we split up for two years, in that time I met someone else and was with them for seven months. When that finished a while after I got back with my long term partner. Things were ok for two years then for the past four years this other guy has contacted me and we have had sex a few times then I don't see him, my own choice as I'm scared he just wants me for sex.Today I saw him again, what chance is there of us being together for good, should I give it a chance and see where it goes, I must be doing it because I'm unhappy, I just don't know.This guy is 47, never been married or lived with a women before.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (14 December 2013):
 first of all, you're cheating on your husband. not cool. you know that. so before you proceed and do anything else, STOP having sex with this other guy.
then, take time and evaluate what you want. take all things in and really think about it. you've built a life with this man for 23 years. you have a very long history together. so before you throw it all away, you really need to decide if that's what you want. it's a huge decision. don't underestimate that.
if you DO decide (while not sleeping with this guy) that you want to leave him, then proceed and do it. seperate from him and work towards an official divorce. then you can see whom ever you want.
as for this other guy - he definitely doesn't seem like he's looking for a commitment. he sounds like he's just looking for sex with no strings attached.
so in conclusion, stop cheating on your husband and respect him enough to just leave him if you want out.
good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2013):
Clearly the other guy just wants sex. His whole history is a man that hasn't settled down, and he's not about to change.
But this isn't really about the other man. It's about you. I's about you cheating on your partner of 23 years. It's about the fact that you broke up previously, then got back together only to wind up seeing this other man again.
In a nutshell, why are you in a relationship with your partner? There doesn't even seem to be anything there. Perhaps it's best if you split for good, and spend some time actually working out what you want from your life.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 December 2013):
 yep he does just want you for sex.
so stop having sex and see if he still wants you
but i can tell you that at 47 having never been married or lived with a partner he may be pretty much stuck in his ways and if you were THE ONE he would have made that play for you back when you were an item years ago.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 December 2013):
 You've really put a gem of information, right here in your submittal. To wit: "...I'm scared he just wants me for sex."
You are correct. So, armed with THAT important detail, how do you intend to proceed?????
Good luck....
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reader, M Proops +, writes (13 December 2013):
He sounds like a bloke with a lot of women's numbers in his little black book which he calls on from time to time and gets sex with no strings attached or luggage.Why hasn't he married by now.Things can't be right between you and your long term partner if you act like this,maybe divorce is the only option if your back to square one after a seperatation.The grass on the other side is always greener on the other side initially but what if the other guy dumps you after a while?
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