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writes:If you ask a guy if he still loves you and he says "yes", is he telling the truth? I mean, I know none of you know for sure, but is it likely that if a man says he still loves a woman, during a break in the relationship, that it's true?The reason I'm asking is because my bf and I have been having problems lately, fighting a lot, and he's distanced himself and taking a break from me. He didn't contact me yesterday but he initiated contact tonight, but it was basically just to say "hey", and I asked him straight out if this is the end and he said no, that he's just in a fucked up spot. The "spot" he was referring to is something not involving me. Then I asked him if he still loves me and he said "yeap" and then I asked if I'll ever get to see him again and he said "yea". So, is this a positive or am I getting my hopes up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013): Don't believe what a guy SAYS, believe what he DOES (or doesn't do).I suspect in this case he's just telling you what you want to hear in order to keep stringing you along as a fallback Plan B in case he goes too long without getting laid elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013): Oh boy! The only way to tell if a man loves you is thru his action's. If you don't find yourself wondering where your place is, in his life, that means you have secured your position as his lady love. The reason behind is because he honestly loves you.
But if you find your self questioning where you place in his life, it means he doesn't mean every words you heard from him. Its like a bubble.
If his making you insecure, his words is just a bubble.
When that happens, it only means he doesn't really mean he loves you for real. Its just one of those things he wants you to hear, so he can keep playing with you.
We'll you can sense it yourself, otherwise you wont be writing here.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 December 2013):
 Men and women "say" widely varying things when they say "I love you."
When a woman sez it, it refers to a warm, loving, caring relationship that she believes that she and the person who she is saying it to are experiencing together....
When a man sez it.... it CAN mean the same thing as above... BUT, it can also mean: "I'm not getting any sex, elsewhere, these days... so I want to have sex with you."
Many times the latter definition is what a guy is REALLY saying. (P.S., to OP: I think this (the latter) applies in your case.)
Good luck....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 December 2013):
 Really we cannot know for sure. Some people only ever tell just the bare truth, some other embroider it or strech it a bit for reasons of convenience or diplomacy.
Personally, I would not get my hopes up. Because I believe that love is an ACTION, is in what you DO, not in what you say ( that's easy ) or not even in what you feel in your heart. Feelings are great, but then you've got to be able to translate them in appropriate actions. LOVING actions, for a feeling of love. That's why I dpn't see real love in breaking up for personal reasons of being in a bad spot. Whether it is money, or health, etc... part of the idea of being a couple is to battle things together, and to share LIFE, with its good moments and bad moments. Otherwise, if you only can love people when you have got all your ducks in a row, and you are in a great mood , and nothing whatsoever bothers you .. well, for most people then the periods they could love would be real short.
That's why I think, personally, that breaks are foolish wastes of time. Either couples can deal with bad stuff together or- well, if they can't they aren't really a couple, are they ?
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