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writes:This guy has been flirting with me for 7 months now, he is a nurse at the place where my gram lives. All his coworkers know he likes me they watch him watching me, my relatives know he likes me he would always ask them about me.months of talking, flirting he is always blushing and staring.He will look me up and down and smile and blush while he's doing it. This last month I have to say was some pretty intense sexual tension between us I thought he was defiantly going to ask me out. He end up getting another job I was crushed, I tried telling him how I felt before he left but he was so busy I tried 3 times and It just wasn't happening. I knew he had to work one weekend in the following month so I went every weekend until I ran into him. I told him "I really miss seeing you" and he responded "me too" I don't know if he was just saying that to be nice or if he really meant it,he sounded sincere but who knows . When I first came over to talk to him he was telling me how he was really really busy and was sorry he picked up the day so when I told him to call me sometime and we can go out or hang out he responded ok I will,then said "but remember I 'm really busy right now " . I know he has 3 jobs but if he cared about me wouldn't he stay in touch.he sure did fool a lot of people cause it's been 3 weeks and he hasn't called me. How could all these people be fooled by his action. He's a sagg if that matter.Any thought why he won't call just disappeared???
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 December 2013):
 because sometimes some of us (me included) flirt just because we can... it doesn't mean we want to date the person we flirt with...
he may very well miss seeing you and flirting with you but in all seriousness.. MOST adults when they find someone they are interested in, if they are in a position to want and have a relationship will make time for someone no matter how busy they are. He's not making time for you, he's not asking for your number.. he's just not that into you...
he probably likes you enough to flirt with you and that's it.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (9 December 2013):
 Maybe he was just getting off on flirting with you but never really intended to take things further.
Some people are just like that...they enjoy the thrill of catching someones eye and it probably made his working day a little more fun.
It's upsetting for you because you thought you were onto something but you need to teach yourself that if a man isn't asking you out on a date after so long...something gotta be wrong!
He could possibly already have a partner and was just using you for an ego boost. If you heard how some guys talk in the locker room about women, you'd be shocked...they love to play all sorts of games and all in the name of boosting themselves.
As for Saggitarians...well it's true that they are some of the hardest men to have a relationship with, they are the eternal adventurers, optimists and love love love their freedom. If you date a saggitarian, it will eventually become clear that he has his own personal agenda...but I have to say, if you love a challenge, they will definitely give you a run for your money...and sexually they are the absolute cream of the crop.
Don't waste time chasing this guy...because he is already gone! I am sorry you mistook his flirting for more xxx
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 December 2013):
 He just wasn't THAT into you. In fact, for all you know, he might already be dating someone else. One thing is flirting on the job- for lots of people is a way to relieve stress and monotony and make work hours seem shorter, another actually deciding to go out with them or at least ask them out, and if he never did that in seven months....
I think he was trying to let you down easy when he said, and repeated , that he was going to be very busy. In his case it is also true , since he works 3 jobs.... but " very busy " is never ever the main or only reason for not making a move. In sex and romance matters, - when there's a will there's a way, ( I am reading a biography of J.F. Kennedy, and if that was not a busy guy , I don't know who can be one - and still, he did always make time for his escapades.. ) ,this guy just was not willing enough.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 December 2013):
 "Any thought why he won't call just disappeared???"
Yes.... He's not sufficiently interested to make the effort. Don't waste your time throwing yourself at him.... it will just lead to more disappointment...
Good luck...
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