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writes:I am 63 and have been in a committed relationship since May, 2013. We've had a lot of fun together, get along pretty good, and have even talked about the possibility of moving in together. I lost my husband 4 years ago and he has lost his wife 3 years ago. My guy is 69 (just turned), but seems to need to grow up. We've already been through some things that almost split us up before we really got started, but hopefully that has stopped! THAT turned out to be that he was jealous that I had had a relationship before he and I got together. I'm finding that he has a "wandering eye" just about every time I am with him. He also has "friends" on facebook and is talking to one of the lady friends now all the time! We're together just about every weekend (he lives in a different area), but he's home during the week where he lives and I'm here and working part time. I don't like his "wandering eye", but he already almost lost his "friend" who he is talking to now because of that. He swears they are just friends now, but I don't want another broken heart. Anyone have an opinion? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your answers! Things can be so complicated at times and one needs to know the opinions of others while moving along in a relationship. Not to "toot" my own horn, but we are both very good looking people and don't look our ages. That is what blows me away with the wandering eye! We have so much fun together and he's told me that even though he looks, he'll always come home to me. Friends on facebook........who knows!?! My antenna is very alert and I pay close attention........maybe even hold back, but this may be good for now. On the other side, he has taken me to Las Vegas for my birthday and we're going to the Florida Keys for New Years as a Christmas present. He really IS good to me in so many ways! I'll just have to see where this goes and let everything play out. Thanks again for all your insight!
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (11 December 2013):
 I'm not understanding how he is upset that you have been or had a relationship before him something sound wrong about that.You lost your husband he lost his wife. If thats the case this relationship will not work properly ever. You mentioned a wandering eye from you and his ex thats a red flag. My thought to this is it really a wandering eye or is it he just moves on and finds another relationship easier than staying in a dead on that isnt working out. So on top of this you have to worry about a eye and heart and if he is just friends with some other women on facebook.
Let me line this up 1. Talking to women on facebook you feel its more than friends 2. Wandering eye that likes to look at attractive women. 3. Is he just friends with this or these other women. 4. Broken Heart I think you have the answer to these question more than you know on top of this it appears to be a trust issue in this picture if you dont trust then you want ever have a healthy relationship even if he grows up or not. I forgot to add at 69 and 63 if he not mature enough I would fine someone else to my maturity level. I too have always been told you can look but dont touch. If he is with you I wouldn't be worried about a wondering eye. Im sure you look also just not boldly as he may look. This may not be the correct match for you. Communicate with him he may not even want a relationship he may think you are a black widow so to speak.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 December 2013):
 Anyone have an opinion?
Yes.... this guy "is not that "in" to you, enough for YOU to believe that you and he can have a "relationship." HE needs more time to "play the field"... maybe, FOREVER!!!
Don't let yourself get trapped in to trying to make a relationship wherein YOU do all the work, and HE gets all the benefits. DEFINITELY, do NOT move in together... as that just complicates the inevitable split that you and he will face....
There are LOTS of nice guys "out there"... and one of them will land his eye on YOU.... and be pleased with what he sees, and who you are.... and THAT guy is the one you will be able to make a REAL relationship with....
Good luck.....
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