I like this guy, but he smells really badly. Do I tell him and ruin my potential for a relationship?
Q. Hey there. So my question is a little weird. For starters, I'm 17 and I'm dating one of my classmates (we're just seeing each other, we're not official or anything yet). We go on dates and hang out a lot and it's all really fun and I really like and ...
A. 3 September 2011: Here's a chance for you to be a REAL friend.... Take this guy aside.... someplace, just the two of you, privately,... and tell him about what you wrote here. You could even print a copy of this submittal and hand it to him..... Tell him you li... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be attracted to people whose names all begin with the same letter?
Q. Hello :). Alright so here's the deal. I'm wondering if you can be attracted ("only") to a person whom names starts with a certain letter. When I was around 9-10 I had a "relationship" with a girl which name started with the letter "E" (It ...
A. 3 September 2011: "Sounds" to me like Karma's gotten a hold on you........ (read in full...)
LDR thats getting hard to handle, what do I do?
Q. I know this is probably one of the most asked questions, but I would still like to hear other peoples opinion. I have a long distance relationship with this guy, and we've been together for quite a few months now. But anyway, I don't know what ...
A. 3 September 2011: Discontinue this "relationship"... and I guarantee that the "problem" will disappear...... Good luck...... (read in full...)
How to let go of anger in a relationship?
Q. Question. Is it right to continue to hold onto hatred for someone in a relationship if you're honestly wanting to move forward? And any suggestions to help let go of pass issues? Dilemma's over an 8 year relationship has spread us in two. We...
A. 3 September 2011: My thoughts and solutions: 1. You call this a "relationship"?????? 2. Go your separate ways and put this sorry excuse for a "relationship" behind you. You both will be better off for it..... Good luck...... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
Q. Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured ...
A. 3 September 2011: From the "tone" of your submittal, I'd say that you are 'way too smart to give this incident even one iota of time in your head..... Good luck...... (read in full...)
Someone teach my boyfriend how to kiss!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I am his first girlfriend even though he is 19. My big problem is he is a terrible kisser and I just can't get past it. Help?...
A. 3 September 2011: What a great opportunity for YOU!!!! Turn this "problem" on its head.. and become your B/F's "kissing tutor".... that will give YOU plenty of opportunity to instruct this guy in JUST WHAT YOU WANT!!!! Good luck.... ... (read in full...)
Cheating for 7years and a child to another woman!!
Q. my husband has been having an affair for 7 years with his female college friend and a male college friend of his told me that she admited to her close friend that her 6 year old gaughter is my husbands. he has changed alot and swears at me every day ...
A. 3 September 2011: Ditto... what CaringGuy said....... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped all of a sudden??
Q. I'm confused! I am in my early 20s and ive been with my boyfriend(fiance) for almost 2 years. for the last 8 months, he doesnt want to go down on me?for the first few months we were together, he would go down on me. and now he always expects me to ...
A. 3 September 2011: Ruthy.... you included another submittal, today, in which you exposed that your "B/F" is homosexual. Put the two submittals together and the "answer" to this one will jump out at you like a Momma Bear protecting her cubs!!!!!... (read in full...)
I know it's wrong what he's doing but what do I do?
Q. My fiance cheated on me to have a 3 some with men, and he had a bunch of text messages, emails.. he made up profiles for sex ( for both men and women) hes a liar! but he confuses me, makes me think im wrong when i feel so badly in my heart that i am ...
A. 3 September 2011: The quick answers to your three questions: 1. Who cares what is going on in the head of this lying, cheating dog? 2. You are perfectly right to feel hurt. This L-C-D is making a fool of you.... 3. Yes. ... as quickly as possible.... ... (read in full...)
I've cheated and she forgave me, but why can't I forgive her?
Q. my wife had one afair, not a one night stand, after i had cheated for 6 years and while she was pregnant. We are suppose to put all this behind us but what i didnt tell you is ive been lying to my wife, telling her im going to the bank, then i go to ...
A. 3 September 2011: I'd guess that you're angry with YOURSELF... because she has taken a much-higher road than you have (she's forgiven you)..... and the only way you know how to react to your anger is to direct it at someone else (your unfortunate wife)... since you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been played but I'm not sure?
Q. I'm just a nice girl from New Jersey who came to West Virginia to make new friends and get away from the stereotype of NJ. I'm a really nice person I am honest though with people and I don't let people walk all over me too much. I'm really book ...
A. 3 September 2011: I guess your confusion results because you are book smart and street smart (as you've noted).... but you're not "geography smart".... That takes in to account that different people, in different places, may not fit in to one of those other "smarts." ... (read in full...)
I love two guys and not sure what to do about it???
Q. Hey Cupids, I am a little confused as I seem to be inlove with two guys at the same time. How is this even possible??! Have you ever been in this situation? And how do you know which one to pick since you care about both of them and have a great ti...
A. 3 September 2011: Why is there any need to pick?... (read in full...)
I want children but my partner doesn't & his ex is involved
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years. He asked me to marry him, so we had the discussion about having kids, finances, religion etc. The sticking point was children – he said he thinks on balance doesn’t want (he has 2 already with ex) but that ...
A. 3 September 2011: The "answer" to your question is right there... nested in it. To wit: "... I can’t decide if it’s me being oversensitive or her being tactless or maybe simply her not thinking or knowing how what she says affects me." It's a little bit of al... (read in full...)
We are in a rut!
Q. Have been with my boyfriend for 7yrs, he used to be so romantic, birthdays he would spoil me rotton, would buy me flowers every month etc send me cute texts, but the past 6 months thats all changed. Most nights we both do seperate things and then ...
A. 1 September 2011: Cool it with this guy for about six months... and, if you hear from him after that time, make contact and ask him - point blank - if he wants a B/F;G/F arrangement, or is he just "in it" to screw with your feelings and your head.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Confused about increased physical contact with ex-girlfriend.
Q. My girlfriend of 1 year and I broke up 2 months ago. We are both in graduate school. Background (2 months ago): After we broke up, we met up once for dinner a week after breaking up and i asked her if she wants to get back together, she sa...
A. 1 September 2011: I suggest you just walk away and DON'T make yourself available to her.... OR, initiate any contact. Give it about 6 weeks and she will be desperate... wondering "What the heck is WRONG WITH ME????".... and then, SHE will re-initiate contact with ... (read in full...)
I want the husband and family. Am I too old now?
Q. I am 27 and my partner of 4 years has just left me for a younger woman. I was meant to get married to him and have a family and no near my 30s I find myself single. Is it too late for me to have the husband and kids? ...
A. 31 August 2011: SURE.. get thee to a nunnery and pledge the rest of your life to the Lord!!!!
F'r cryin' out loud!!! Of course you're not too old... in fact... you're in just the right time of life to have several babies... and be a great Mom to them. Caveat: ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend if he sees himself married again?
Q. I have been dating a great guy for 7 months now. I am 43 and he is 46. I have been divorced for 5 years and he for 10. We really like each other a lot. We have a lot in common. We like each other's kids. We get along well and have good ...
A. 31 August 2011: The operative phrase in your submittal is: ".... he was not "there yet" and was okay with waiting ..." AFTER 10 YEARS???????
What you really have here is him enjoying all the benefits of you making yourself available to him; whilest offering... (read in full...)
I need advice for dealing with my menopausal mother
Q. I need advice with my menopausical mother. She is in that stage and I try not bother her and just please her and go along without arguing. Sometimes she does things that are hurtful, for example I have spent 3 days painting all the flower pots ...
A. 31 August 2011: Perhaps it would be best if you could put distance between you and your Mother.... both figuratively (emotionally) and literally (get another address).....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I break it off with this married man?
Q. How in the world do I break it off with the married guy im sleeping with? im tired of him texting only for sex. He doesn't have a real conversation with me anymore. The sex is so wonderful with him but I can't take not being respected anymore. He ...
A. 31 August 2011: If it's any consolation... there is NO "good way" to break off with a lying, cheating dog.... You simply depart from where he is... don't communicate with him again.... and get on with your life....
P.S. Has this REALLY been going on for abou... (read in full...)
My ex moved in with his new girlfriend so quickly!
Q. Its so hard to explain how I really feel.. I just recently found out that my ex bf of five years, just moved in with his new gf.. We broke like a year and a half.. He's only been with with this girl a couple of months and he's already living with ...
A. 31 August 2011: Perhaps the thoroughness of his break from you (moving in with his new G/F) will startle you in to realizing the futility of your hope that he will have an awakening and return to you....
THEN, you can close this chapter in your book of life and... (read in full...)
My wife fell pregnant by another man, should I forgive her?
Q. Hai people, my wife had a child by another man, i kicked her out but she returned begging to be forgiven she was always sad so i feared she would have a miscarriage so i took her back in despite the pain i was going through. The father of the child ...
A. 30 August 2011: If you're looking for validation to dump her sorry, cheating butt ... I'm willing to offer it...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
She will go out with me, but only as friends. Any suggestions?
Q. I have a friend who I have known for years, and she has split up from her long term Boyfriend. we have messed around when she was tipsy, kissing etc. I have just asked here out for a date but got the reply she would love to but just as friends....
A. 30 August 2011: Take what you can get.... and BE PATIENT!!!!!... (read in full...)
My step son leaves everything to the last minute and leaves me to pick up the pieces, and my husband expects this of me too!
Q. I am extremely frusterated about something that keeps happening and I don't know what to do.. My step son always waits for the last minute to do everything then it is just expected that I will jump through hoops to take care of it. My husba...
A. 30 August 2011: Sounds like that apple didn't fall far from that tree. Daddy taught Sunny to be a procrastinator... AND found YOU to bail out the both of them... Ergo... YOU get to be miserable, and neither of them ever has to grow up.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My lying cheating ex is so ungrateful for all I did for him
Q. I broke up with my ex a month ago after he lied cheated several times while I was living with him helping him get well after foot surgery he coudnt walk I cooked three meals a day cleaned after him and his cat got his medicine and other errands to ...
A. 30 August 2011: Who cares????? He's your "ex-".... so put him, and everything about him, behind you and resume your life...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Married man wants to keep me as his side dish. How do I walk away?
Q. Hi Cupids. This is my first time here. I could really use your advice. You can be honest and harsh, whatever you feel is necessary. I know what I have done is not right. I am a married mom and I have been having an emotional affair (no physi...
A. 27 August 2011: The operative statement in your query is this one: "But maybe I need to stop seeing this guy as a good guy I would want to be with?"
Print a copy of that and tape one on your refrigerator door, one on your bathroom mirror and one on the ceiling ... (read in full...)
Would starting smoking affect the fact I'm taking birth control?
Q. Dear cupid...im 17 yrs old and i've been on birth control for about 6 to 7 months. I never smoked anything before but i've been tempted to lately since im always surrounded by people who do that. So i was wondering if i do smoke a cigarrette, how ...
A. 27 August 2011: I would suggest that you focus on the REAL IMPORTANT QUESTION that you are posing here. I will re-state it (the question) for you in a form that may be more helpful... To wit: "I'm a lovely young woman of age 16-17. At the moment, I am con... (read in full...)
Can a man grow a backbone? Or should I move on? He believes others over me.
Q. So I had met this guy a few times, and thought he was cute, so I asked my girlfriend about him and she said he was great, that they were just friends and so she gave him my number. So we get together, and right away, I could tell we are really hitt...
A. 27 August 2011: You've already got two great responses to your query... so anything that I might add would be strictly superfluous....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this a reason to breakup again? Is a rebound relationship after breaking up really cheating once the former relationship resumes after a break?
Q. I lately found out that my boyfriend of 4 years has been cheating on me for a whole year with many other girls. When the truth came out, he asked me not to leave him and pleaded for 3 months to take him back and bought me many gifts to win my love ...
A. 27 August 2011: If you're happy being on an emotional roller coaster with a cheating dog... then stay with him. If you seek a relatively normal life... spent with a guy who ISN'T a cheating dog... then dump him and find a NICE boyfriend.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My wife's behaviour is making me lose respect for her
Q. Ever since I have married I have become miserable, as I feel like I got a bad deal, as I don't feel like my wife brings a lot into this marriage. She comes with a past which has made me a bit of an emotional wreck. Add to that she has messed up her ...
A. 27 August 2011: I have two questions for you:
1. How long did you "court" this woman before getting married??? .... such that you didn't see this coming?
2. Now that you're IN this predicament, how long do you intend to REMAIN in it?
The first question is... (read in full...)
I cant get myself to break up with my nightmare of a BF!
Q. What should I do with my life? I feel I have a boyfriend who doesn't deserve me. He has cheated on me with many women but I still gave him a chance, but he continues to treat me very badly and I just cannot pucker up the courage to break up. What...
A. 27 August 2011: The operative phrase in your submittal is: "...He has cheated on me with many women but I still gave him a chance..."
As long as you tolerate that as being a description of how you behave, you are setting yourself up for a future of misery..... (read in full...)
My ex-sister-in-law is planning to attend my father's memorial service and reception, while no one from my family wants her to. How do we ask her to stay away?
Q. My father's memorial service and reception will be next week and I just found out that my ex-sister-in-law is planning to attend and sit with the family. My father was very angry with this woman for what she did to my brother and their 2 young ...
A. 27 August 2011: "Sounds" like the service and reception are being held in a house of worship....
How about buying in to the spirit of the place and turning the other cheek? The view is better from the high road.... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into my ex fiance's nephew's message on facebook?
Q. Am I reading too much into something that happened today? My ex fiance's nephew posted a message on fb today saying that he missed me and called me Aunt Mary which is what he called me back when my ex and I were together. We have been split for ...
A. 26 August 2011: Cripes!!! Being "used" by an entire family. That's gotta be some kind of record.
How long to you plan to tolerate that????? You can probably find a REAL man friend without looking too hard......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I leave him, or should I stay and just be a patient girlfriend?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a little bit of situation here. And i need your advice. 2 months ago i meet this guy from a dating site, and then everything happened so fast and he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes because i liked him. I was ...
A. 26 August 2011: Sounds like this guy will keep you on a yo-yo ride as long as you will tolerate it. Sooooo, HOW LONG will you tolerate it????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He says he needs a break but regrets it?
Q. WTF he asks for a break in our relationship and says he regrets needing one or having to do it but still does it. Then can't explain it to me. WTF what does that mean??? Can any male here explain this to me please. A little light here would be very ...
A. 26 August 2011: Get used to it. You're young, and - apparently - this is the first time a guy has screwed with your head enough for you to pose a question such as this to a wide audience...
It's going to happen to you for the next 50-60 years or so... UNLESS y... (read in full...)
Spring V Autumn. Does she like me? she's 19.
Q. There is this girl, she's 19 i'm 57. she always calls me sweetie when she sees me. The other day at the gas station she called out at me to get my attention. Does she like me or am i just thinking this?...
A. 26 August 2011: Oh, parrishkid.... Is there even ONE of us old dubbers who isn't flattered to get the attention of a hot, young, nubile babe such as the one you describe???????
The answer: You're just thinking it.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin girl?
Q. dear cupid, is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin woman with great personality,respect,trust and love? It seems when i mention this to women they think am crazy or i have insecurities....
A. 26 August 2011: This may be a startling revelation for you... but, for millenia, people who were virgins married one-another.... Humanity did NOT suffer for that.... and you and this lovely lady are at no risk if you (two) pursue matrimony... Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I am embarrassed to talk to my Doctor!
Q. I m getting medical treatment for my thyroid problem from our family doctor who is a mid aged(35-40) male doctor. Now while getting these medicines i hv noticed growth of coarse hair on my thighs and breast which is more than normal now. I need to ...
A. 26 August 2011: There is no such thing as "off-limits" when talking to a qualified, responsible medical person. Tell him about the hair that grows and bothers you, and ask him/her if it results from the medication you take.... and, if "yes," is there anything ... (read in full...)
Different sex style and sexual expectations...how can we make compromises in bed?
Q. Hello everybody, so one month ago, i've started dating one guy. I'm 22 and he's 30 (these age differences are ok for us). We have decieded to be a lovers and maybe one day couple, but we're not in really hurry. Our dates are in the nature, in t...
A. 26 August 2011: When you figure out that "sex" and "love" are widely different concepts, THEN you will be able to address this issue..... Meanwhile... Why are you being intimate with a guy who does not turn you on??????? ... (read in full...)
I am by his behaviour-he will not talk to me!
Q. After a long break up (1 year) my ex came back to me.He was in another relationship at that time. When that girl ditched him he realised my love and came back to me.I forgave him(but not so easily). And everything was going very smoothlyafter ...
A. 26 August 2011: The operative phrase in your submittal is: "...When that girl ditched him he realised my love and came back to me."
IF you substitute "... he realized that he liked to have sex with me..." for, ".. he realised my love.....".... then you will... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? Or does my BF need to be understanding?
Q. I have recently gotten my A level results and was supposed to go to uni and move in with my boyfriend of 3 years. Unfortunately I didn't get the results I needed and subsequently lost my place at university. I spoke to lots of people and they all ...
A. 26 August 2011: If he told you that you had to drink old, used motor oil in order to "prove" that you loved him, would you do that? The "answer" to your question is the very same as the answer to the one I've posed..... Good luck with your NEW boyfriend....... (read in full...)
I am dating an older woman,what issues could come up due to the age gap?
Q. I'm 25 and my girlfriend is 37. Why is it that I get criticism over the age gap from people who I see? I was in a local pizza takeaway joint when the guy behind the counter said "here's the pizza for you and your mum!" I've also had criticism...
A. 26 August 2011: About the only thing I can think of is this: When she begins to collect Social Security (soon!) make sure that she has the amount direct-deposited to her bank account. There are SO MANY stories of elderly people who receive there S/S by mail ... (read in full...)
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