FWB doesn't call me gorgeous like he does other girls
Q. hi, i am seeing this guy for past few years.. we stay in separate cities so it is not exactly exclusive but we aren't really seeing anybody else .. it is basically more sexual than emotional! we sex text a lot and such stuff.. recently he shared ...
A. 8 October 2011: Yes, GWYS, no matter how many times you repeat the "question", the answers to it remain the same.
Your only question - to yourself - is, How long will you put up with this treatment?... (read in full...)
How do you define "sex"?
Q. So here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-how-important-is-sex-to-you.html someone asked how important to you is sex. I have a slightly different question... DEFINE IT... is it just the act of intercourse? is foreplay mandatory? ...
A. 7 October 2011: OK SVC, I'll bite.... and my answer is this cliche:
Women offer sex in hope that it will lead to a loving relationship; Men feign a loving relationship in hope that it will lead to sex....
'Nuff said....... (read in full...)
Am I too sensitive? Or is he insensitive? And when do you call it quits when it comes to a relationship?
Q. I am engaged to my guy for a year and a half now. In the beginning everything was great, I was completely ready to marry my guy. However, the past 6-8 months is making me re-think this whole marriage thing. We're hardly ever intimate, we har...
A. 6 October 2011: I auggest that you "listen" more to his actions than to his words.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What to do? The Cook and I made out in the back room of the restaurant. Do we continue? He's married.
Q. I work at a restaurant as a server. I get along with everyone I work with fairly well, but the cooks exceptionally. All the cooks are men (but I've always been more partial to having male friends than females) Somehow I managed to attract the atte...
A. 6 October 2011: I've often thought that jumping out of an airplane WITHOUT a parachute would provide a terrific rush. My friends all tell me that that's a stupid thing to do. But I reply, "Maybe if I tried it ONCE I could get it out of my system and go on (with ... (read in full...)
FWB doesn't call me gorgeous like he does other girls
Q. hi, i am seeing this guy for past few years.. we stay in separate cities so it is not exactly exclusive but we aren't really seeing anybody else .. it is basically more sexual than emotional! we sex text a lot and such stuff.. recently he shared ...
A. 6 October 2011: When a girl puts out for him.... and "asks" nothing in return.... (rather the definition of "FWB")... then a guy can dispense with the polite niceties (you know, icky-sweet, schmoozy talk.... pet names and compliments and the like) that he has to ... (read in full...)
Should I stick around to see if he'll ever love me?
Q. He said, "I do love you" the other night...in the dark. I took it to mean he's trying to convince himself he loves me. He's already told me he loves just me and his brother. I'm guessing he's not in love with me but he does care and love me - he ...
A. 6 October 2011: We've seen other such submittals on here.... wherein the inquirer complained that someone didn't love them "enough" or "as much".....
I'm wondering if loving will ever become an Olympic sport and what the rules for it will be........ (read in full...)
How do I not let him in when I love him so much?
Q. Please don't judge me.I know what I did was wrong and that is why I stopped it. Any advice would help me out so much. 18 months ago I got locked out of my apartment and my neighbour helped me in.I had seen him a few times in the gym that is in our b...
A. 6 October 2011: Perhaps you could take a flat in another building???... (read in full...)
How do you define "sex"?
Q. So here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-how-important-is-sex-to-you.html someone asked how important to you is sex. I have a slightly different question... DEFINE IT... is it just the act of intercourse? is foreplay mandatory? ...
A. 6 October 2011: (The question, "what is "sex"," is a little like the question, "Why is there air?")..... I'm sorry to see that, at age 51-59 you are still struggling with this.... Do you have any specific circumstances that you would like to discuss? ... (read in full...)
What are the ethics of dating and intimate relationships in the workplace?
Q. I would like to ask a question....what do ypu think of intimate relationships/dating between co-workers? for example are they right? should they be avoided? also is dating between a boss/supervisor and a lower worker ethical? also can some of the ...
A. 6 October 2011: Many workplaces simply will not allow boss/subordinate people to be romantically involved (or, married). It's a common-sense rule that avoids any question of favoritism within a business unit.....
As for romances that occur outside that realm...... (read in full...)
I think my ex heard what I said about him, when I was talking to my friend! What should I do now?
Q. Today I was in a side room in my uni building. I was talking to a friend about my ex and I said "That dick wad dumped me!". My ex was standing right outside when I said this, and I don't know if he heard me or not. I feel so guilty, but I am very ...
A. 6 October 2011: WHY would you/should you do anything? .... or feel in any way peculiar about this????? IF what you say is correct (that he dumped you).... then, perhaps, he IS a dick wad, and it makes no difference if he hears it from you or anybody else.....
... (read in full...)
When does a guest stop being a guest?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months is not living with me but he seems to stay here at least 3 nights a week. He has not worked since I have known him, has had interviews for jobs but not getting anywhere (he is a very intelligent man and has a lot of ...
A. 5 October 2011: A guest stops becoming a guest when his/her benefactor finally realizes that he/she is a FREELOADER. It is OK to ask freeloaders to vacate the premises....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Girlfriend gives me the silent treatment and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. Hye, I'm 25 and is currently in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year who's a year younger..we're both still studying but at different colleges...the thing is i'm a very sensitive guy (in a bad way), even if she doesn't reply my texts or ...
A. 5 October 2011: This reminds me of one of my favorite slogans: "If your wife ISN'T TALKING TO YOU.... DON'T interrupt her!!!!"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I think I might be falling out of love with my boyfriend, but I don't want to hurt him. What do I do
Q. I'm in a dilemma and really need some help. Although I have a boyfriend, I've started to fall for a different guy, which sounds really shallow I know, but please read my explanation of the situation. I truly don't know what to do. :( I'm 19, a...
A. 5 October 2011: NOt to worry. Most any 50 YO man knows that his "relationship" with a 19 YO woman has an "expiration" date on it.... so he'll "understand" when you reveal that you have (finally) learned that there are young men your own age.... and, that you have ... (read in full...)
B/f says he doesn't watch porn anymore but won't get rid of his collection!
Q. Hey there, So my bf and I have been together for about 9 months, and our relationship is great, sex is great, and we're pretty much best friends. I was just curious about his watching porn, so we talked about it. I'm not opposed to porn necessar...
A. 5 October 2011: No.... it's not really "strange" at all........ (read in full...)
Are big areolae a turnoff?
Q. Are big areolae(2 inches) a turnoff? Is an areolae reduction a turnoff to men or are men ok with a reduction?...
A. 5 October 2011: Some of us think you girls' bodies are just fine... and we wish you'd leave them alone........ (read in full...)
Kisses and being called sexy
Q. I have a quick question.if a guy gives you a kiss on the lips and calls you sexy,does he like you ?...
A. 5 October 2011: Probably........ (read in full...)
You don't bring me flowers anymore..
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been ...
A. 4 October 2011: There are TWO "keys" to this....
1. Are you putting out for him???? That means the end of flowers and having to be nice....
2. What's with living together? Does that mean you sleep together and have s*x? That means the end of flowers and h... (read in full...)
An older guy w/ two teen boys is flirting! Then his elder son did it!
Q. Hola! Yes, I'm learning spanish! Okay enough funny talk here's the question. Should an older guy w/ two teenage boys be winking and smiling and flirting at me? That happened when I went out o eat at a Chinese restaurant last friday. Then lat...
A. 3 October 2011: It's OK for you to ignore men and boys who are acting like jerks. You don't need to know any more about them and/or their motives.... you need only to believe that YOU don't wish to the object of their sophomoric behaviour....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I can forgive and forget, but can he?
Q. I was with an ex for 4 years, we split up as we was arguing a lot at the time then he said he didn't love me anymore an to move on. I begged and begged for him to change his mind but nothing. So after so long of rejection I moved on, I didn't intend ...
A. 1 October 2011: We guys will do all sorts of goofy things whilest the girl we just dumped is in romantic limbo....
HOWEVER, as often happens, she learns that we (the guy) ISN'T "all that PLUS a bag of potato chips"..... and moves on in her life. When THAT hap... (read in full...)
My ex-gilrfriend is creating havoc in my life, what should I do now?
Q. Guys I broke with my girlfriend 8 months back, she accused me of cheating having caught me kissing my office colleague on her nose on her birthday there. I don’t think that was cheating since I had no feelings for her. She didn’t let me explain ...
A. 1 October 2011: YOu are considering upsetting your entire life just because this woman acts like an idiot?????? Take a few minutes and think about WHO would be the idiot in THAT scenerio!!!!..... Get a grip on yourself and get on with your life....... (read in full...)
Do I give my LDR ex another chance? I've seen a softer side to him now
Q. Hi, ok sorry if this is long winded. I had a long distance relationship between the uk and us for 2 years. I split up with him a year n half ago because I found out he had cheated on me. I was heartbroken n although he bombarded me with emails, ...
A. 1 October 2011: Looks like his "schtick" has sucked you in.... Go ahead, c'mon over to the Colonies and see him.... and give him yet another chance to play with your feelings.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm angry that I was so kind to this man and he doesn't appreciate it!
Q. I ended my relationship with my boyfriend six wks ago because we wanted different things! He doesnt want anymore kids, he has one son from a previous relationship! Doesnt believe in marriage! And wont ever move from his house which is half hr away! ...
A. 1 October 2011: Soooo, he took advantage of you... you allowed it.... and now, you're beginning to recognize this "relationship" for what it is.... a cake-walk for him.... and you don't like that..... How easy is it for you to step away from it and start to make ... (read in full...)
I'm heading for heartbreak
Q. How can you stop falling in love? I,m dating a guy who does NOT want a relationship. I love dating him and I,m starting to fall in love with him. I really need help with this one I,m leading myself to heartbreak what can I do????...
A. 1 October 2011: When I find a lovely girl who I seem to be falling in love with.... BUT, I know that "love" is ill-fated..... I put my hand on the window frame of my car door, then SLAM the door.... REALLY HARD!!!!! That seems to startle me back to ... (read in full...)
If men want their women to look like porn stars, why don't us women care that our men don't look like porn stars??
Q. I'm 25, and I'm here to discuss pornography and men. Some but not all men complain their women don't look like porn stars/models etc. but how come women don't do the opposite and ask for 6-packs/chiselled bodies / big penises etc? Or if they do,...
A. 30 September 2011: Mostly, we want our women to BEHAVE like porn stars. We'll give you a "free pass" if you don't happen to LOOK exactly like one......... (read in full...)
Do you think it's demeaning for someone to have a GED instead of a high school diploma?
Q. I'm going through a bit of a sticky wicket right now. I have two months till I turn 18 and till graduation. Due to family emergencies, I was unable to attend a month or so of school. I received a call from my counselor, who told me that I was go...
A. 29 September 2011: Quite to the contrary.... anyone who perseveres to a GED after circumstances have kept them from getting a "regular" HS diploma, via "regular:" channels is to be applauded.....
Go for it, hold your chin up high and say, "This is how I did it and I... (read in full...)
Do I turn him on or what?
Q. Hi. I just have a little question. Yes I'm young. And don't be mean about this. So I've been going out with this boy for about 5 months. Well I read this thing that like boobs and butt and lips and eyes can turn a guy on. Well when I hug him...
A. 29 September 2011: PLEASE try to learn, early on, that most guys DO have a propensity for being pigs..... AND they get turned on by most anything that they think is even the remotest detail that they believe is evidence that they are going to be able to get a girl to ... (read in full...)
Should we have a break? Will this pattern continue?
Q. Im in need of some insight right about now!! When i was 15 I was in an abusive relationship that lasted 3 years with the person who i feel was my first love. I endured all abuse possible being talked down upon, being accused of things i never did, ...
A. 29 September 2011: The "pattern" of crapphy guys behaving like crappy guys can and will continue ad infinitum IF you seek out guys who will mistreat you and will tolerate their boorish behaviour.....
The key is for you to look for NICE guys.... and spend time wit... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up and I regret what I did, is there hope?
Q. My ex and I been broken up for about 2 months already. We broke up once and it lasted for 4 months and we both liked other people, but in the end, she came back because of the NC rule and we ended up going back out. We went out for 3 and half years ...
A. 29 September 2011: I thought I was pretty up-to-date on the rules... but can't find the one called "NC".... Care to enlighten me?
(P.S. I'm an old guy!!!!)... (read in full...)
My family wont accept my boyfriend!
Q. I am 26 yrs old, my partner's 28, yet my parents will not and cannot accept him. He's Black Canadian, I'm Canadian by birth but my family is of Lithuanian descent, so that makes us Lithuanian-Canadians. However, they won't accept him AT ALL....
A. 29 September 2011: Your life is YOUR's to live.... as you wish....
While it would be nice to have acceptance and concurrance of one's parents, regarding one's decisions - such as who to fall in love with -..... it is NOT a "necessary condition" UNLESS you let it b... (read in full...)
Does this make him gay?
Q. My bf told me that he is bi and likes me to use a dildo on him. Does that make him gay? I'm afraid I will lose him because he might want to be with a guy. He loves sex with me and I turn him on. He also tells me he loves me . He says he doesn't ...
A. 29 September 2011: Sounds like you (and he) need some help with definitions...
"Bisexual" means he is sexually attracted to either or both men and women.... The first part of that "means" that he has an attraction to men.... and, so, has BOTH straight AND gay comp... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if a woman doesn't reach orgasm?
Q. Hi every one! I've been wondering and would like to know that can a woman get pregnant if she still doesn't reach orgasm? If yes how does it happen? Thanks for your time reading this and thanks for your answers in advance. ...
A. 29 September 2011: The only requirment is that she show up,.... fertile....... (read in full...)
Mother in law interference....
Q. Hi. My mother in law is so controlling. She wants to tell me how to give her money, when to phone her and how many times. She practically wants to run every facet of my life. How i am raising my children. Apparently i am staying with two of her ...
A. 29 September 2011: Is your hubby unable to stand upright? It "sounds" as if he is lacking a spine..... AND that your problem is twice as bad as you thought when you started writing this...
That is: You have a MIL that you haven't figured out that you can tell her... (read in full...)
I think I have to choose between my career and my boyfriend.
Q. Hi, Just a quick question! Should I accept my boyfriends offer to financially support me or focus on my career just in case?! I live with him for a few years now and have always been pushing myself really hard to get a great career so I'd have s...
A. 29 September 2011: In my humble opinion.... your submittal has TWO completely separate questions.... so needs two answers....
1. As regards your B/F... IF you and he want to stay together... and IF YOU want to be married.... then make a decision about this WITHOUT ... (read in full...)
I want my old best friend back. How can I help her?
Q. Hi All, I would just like some opinions on my questions and would like too know if any one has ever been in a similar situation. Do you believe that it is possible for someone too love you so deeply that it is virtually impossible for them too be ...
A. 29 September 2011: It's a "fact of life" that we can't "fix" our friends, after they have been damaged..... AND, we can't shoulder their emotional burdens for them...
That said... I believe the best a real friend can do is stand by, at the ready, for their friend..... (read in full...)
Is his promiscuous ex flirting with my man? What can I do to stop it, or am I possessive?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a loving relationship with my bf for a month plus. Before that we already knew each other for almost a year. Although I'm very happy with everything, I can't help but feel that his ex is trying to flirt with him. She replies ...
A. 29 September 2011: From what you describe, it appears that this B/F hasn't really shifted his priorities to you.... he's content to add you in to his life-mix.... but you're just another tomato and not his real salad.
IF you are uneasy with his behaviour, especial... (read in full...)
She's got a girlfriend but I'm attracted to her. Should I go for it?
Q. ok I haven't known her very long, I've only been at university a couple of weeks, but I quite like her. I'm a lesbian btw. I first saw her a couple of times while waiting for inductions on my course. She stood on her own, me with my flatmates and...
A. 29 September 2011: From your commentary, it "sounds" to me like you SAY "....I quite like her..." but you are doing everything you can to avoid behaving toward her as if you do....
Quite honestly, from your description, I'd say that you are sending her wildly v... (read in full...)
I have a secret ultimatum.
Q. I've given myself a timeline that if he doesn't propose to me by then, I'm going to focus my life on something new. Ive been with him for a few years, and last year October he mentioned he was going to propose in Feburary... its now nearly October ...
A. 29 September 2011: Does "...Ive been with him for a few years..." mean that you and he share the same address? If "yes," then you must either confront him.... telling him that, only with marriage will you continue in that arrangement
IF you choose to NOT have tha... (read in full...)
If I leave it means moving back in with my parents and having no money with 2 young children, but I know he will never change if I stay.....what should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for 5 years and married for 2 months, we have two children together ages 1 and 2. He is in the army so when we got married i moved in with him, 3 hours drive away from my home, i gave up my home and to be near m...
A. 28 September 2011: YOu're in luck!!! Mothers are usually a lot nicer to daughters (in the long run!) than are abusive boyfriends/husbands and fathers.....
Count your blessings and get on with life....
Good luck (to all of you.... you, your Mom and your kids)..... (read in full...)
Ladies, which do you prefer - the cook or the dancer?
Q. Just out of curiosity to all the women out there, which do you prefer - a man who knows his way around the kitchen or a man who knows his way around the dance floor? And why? (I'm just taking a poll of sorts after an interesting discussion among...
A. 28 September 2011: ARE YOU CRAZY????? No self-respecting woman gives a whit of concern if a guy can dance or cook.... what she wants to know is: CAN HE GIVE ME A GOOD MASSAGE???????
I hope you've found this reply enlightening and will take it to heart!!!... (read in full...)
What are the tell tale signs that two people are romantically involved?
Q. What are the tell tale signs that two people are romantically involved particularly are having sex. I think two of my close friends [male and female] are doing the nasty.... yet both of them are married to other people. I dont know if its all in my ...
A. 28 September 2011: You can't.... but why do you care? It's none of your business.... UNLESS you are a busy-body and would feel good about being the first to report, of confirm, the rumor that they are "doing it"!!! If THAT is what you hope to accomplish in life... ... (read in full...)
What do I do? Would it be bad if I did have sex with him next time?
Q. I met this guy online and we've been talking for a month now. We had finally met last week, and have hung out two nights since. The first night we met, he took me to dinner and we hung out at his house after. We were cuddling on the couch watchi...
A. 28 September 2011: It "sounds" to me like you have reversed the "4-date" scheme on this guy.... and he is struggling with it...
You KNOW the "4-date" scheme, do you not????
In it, the savvy guy does not ask a lady to put out over the first three dates..... He kn... (read in full...)
How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...
A. 27 September 2011: Here's advice from an old guy who should know better:
Both of the things he wants to do are STUPID..... so, don't do them!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a woman to say I love you first?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for a while, and we are very close. We have told each other how much we care about each other in a lot of ways, but haven'y actually said "I love you" yet. Is it ok for a woman to say I love you first, or ...
A. 27 September 2011: I see by your submittal that you are between 30 and 35 years of age....
If you want to wait until you are in your 50s to hear a guy say "I love you".... then go ahead and wait....
Good luck.....
P.S. You KNOW you've only got a 50/5 chance t... (read in full...)
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