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writes:Am I reading too much into something that happened today? My ex fiance's nephew posted a message on fb today saying that he missed me and called me Aunt Mary which is what he called me back when my ex and I were together. We have been split for a little over a yr. now and although, he moved on to someone else during that time I never stopped loving him. We were together for 7 yrs. and planning on marrying but, he ended it 2 mths. before that. My ex has been split from this other person for over a mth. now but, I have still not made any contact with him nor commented about it to his family. I have had no contact with him since he broke my heart although, he has continued to drive by my house on many occasions throughout this past yr. and has sent random txts. in the past which I have ignored. His family has stayed in contact with me and told me often that things were not great with them and that things were not what he wanted me to think they were but, I have not responded to any of that. I have never in all this time spoke of him to them because I never wanted it to get back to him somehow that I still had feelings for him basically, because of the devestation and hurt he caused me. I have seriously tried to move on from all that but, have not entirely been able to do that although, I have learned to carry on with life the best I can. His nephew and I also, talk often on fb as he does not live close by about all sorts of things such as how his children and wife are doing, etc. but, we have never mentioned my ex's name ever nor has he ever told me he missed me or called me Aunt since we have been broken up. During all the yrs. we were together I had become very close to his family and they treated me as if we were already family even though, we were not married yet. When I read what he wrote it brought on a flood of tears and a longing for the past. I'm really confused as to why all of a sudden he wrote that to me. Could there be an alterior motive or am I just imagining this? His mother, my ex's sister also, clicked "like" on what he had written. Your insight would be appreciated.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 August 2011):
 Cripes!!! Being "used" by an entire family. That's gotta be some kind of record.
How long to you plan to tolerate that????? You can probably find a REAL man friend without looking too hard......
Good luck....
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (26 August 2011):
I would continue to ignore this unless you get any msgs from your ex personally them you will know for sure if he still likes you you cannot go through that hurt again to find out its just someone saying things good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): It's hard to say what is really going on. Did he ask his nephew to put that message there? Why don't you ask them? You need to speak with him directly about that to find out for sure what is going on. If his family liked this then they may want you to get back together.Do you want to get back together with him? If you don't and you think having contact with him will stop you from healing then don't, but if you want to know what is going on then go ahead. I don't know the reasons for your break up, but he did hurt you a lot obviously so do protect your feelings here.
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reader, aebniala  +, writes (26 August 2011):
Dear Mary, its is as plane as the nose in your face. Please ,take note, that you are not getting any younger and you are loosing precius time.Men forgive very easely.Unless you intend to have kids at 60 i would forget the mariage bit, unless you got the time, i think not.Time is passing by, more rapidely, easetating is not productive. You cannot change the past, but the the futur yesssssssssss. Let go of the bag of brick and go foreword.
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