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writes:WTF he asks for a break in our relationship and says he regrets needing one or having to do it but still does it. Then can't explain it to me. WTF what does that mean??? Can any male here explain this to me please. A little light here would be very greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd could one of you explain to me how the hell I, a straight young female, lost to a self proclaimed LESBIAN??? That makes no sense how could she be the one if she is Lesbian and I am not???? Could this mean she may leave him for another woman??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys that makes some sense. I got him to speak with me today and last night. Last night he said he would always love me and I don't really like that response. I love the man to death I really do. He has been amazing, but ever since that lesbian chick came around he has been off. She told him that had he not been dating me or her moving away she would date him and he is only one of two guys she would date. She told me she wouldn't steal my man and now he believes she may be the one. I had asked him if when we had first started out and he had said he would love to one day be my husband if that was a lie and he said no it wasn't he has just found the one for him since then and no may not ever get her back. IDK what I will do if she does go away and doesn't come back. DOes that mean that I may be a back up plan for if he can't have her??? I feel like i am in a battle for a love with someone that doesn't want to fight for me as well. I love him and always will and just wish that I could have been the one for him. I have let him have this break. Originally it was supposed to be three days but has extended and I feel like i am dieing inside. I want to hurt her for taking him from me, but i can't. I had at one point wondered if he was taking the break from us because he was afraid something might happen between them, sexually that is, and he didn't want me to get hurt but now i have no clue.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 August 2011):
 Get used to it. You're young, and - apparently - this is the first time a guy has screwed with your head enough for you to pose a question such as this to a wide audience...
It's going to happen to you for the next 50-60 years or so... UNLESS you are one of those rare, fortunate women who meets, falls in love with, and spends her life with a decent man.....
Good luck....
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (26 August 2011):
 Difficult to know really. He obviously wants some alone time at the moment. Thats all you can do is to give it to him. Make a date to check back in in about a month and see whats happening. Breaks can sometimes be the start of the end though.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 August 2011):
To be honest, I've no idea. It could mean a million things. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt you. Maybe there's someone else. Maybe he wants some time to himself. There are loads of reasons.
One thing I do - nearly all breaks are the sign of the end of a relationship. A great many people have wasted time taking breaks only to find out that it's over.
Perhaps rather than worry about his reasons, you should decide whether you want to be with a guy who is wavering so badly on commitment. You're to young to be messing around over one guy who wants a break, when there are so many more out there.
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