Is it ok for a woman to say I love you first?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for a while, and we are very close. We have told each other how much we care about each other in a lot of ways, but haven'y actually said "I love you" yet. Is it ok for a woman to say I love you first, or ...
A. 27 September 2011: I see by your submittal that you are between 30 and 35 years of age....
If you want to wait until you are in your 50s to hear a guy say "I love you".... then go ahead and wait....
Good luck.....
P.S. You KNOW you've only got a 50/5 chance t... (read in full...)
She stops me from confronting individuals that want to date her?
Q. We have related with my girlfriend for a year now at campus. now that i finished my program she alone there, she tells me about people who are asking her for love and that she turns them down. However, she stops me from reacting to those ...
A. 27 September 2011: She's trying to keep you from making an a*s of yourself. You should thank her and put this whole matter out of your mind. It's obvious that she has things under control....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Insane jealousy driving me crazy, please help!
Q. Hi. Does anyone have any help for me in how to deal with jealousy/insecurity? I have been with my bf for almost 2 years and we are about to move in togther. I know he is my one, I have never felt like this about anyone, I love him deeply. The thing ...
A. 27 September 2011: I suggest we focus on this segment of your submittal:
".... i feel i definately love him more. It upsets me and while i know it is not enough to end the relationship,..."
Love is not a "match" wherein we keep score.... IF that's how you a... (read in full...)
She doesn t want me paying for her lunch...what should I do now
Q. hi, I have known this girl for just over a month and plucked up the courage to ask her out. I asked her if she would like to go for lunch sometime this week. Initially she said, yes, that sounds like a good idea. But then she hesitated and said that ...
A. 27 September 2011: The easiest way to handle this is to put on your smileyest face and say to her: "OK.... I'll LOAN you the money for lunch, and you pay me back sometime in the future." You might even go to the extreme of making up a cute "IOU" on your computer, ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husbands family
Q. I have been married for 4 years to a very kind and loving man but I do not get on with his family. His family take the mickey out of me and call me posh and snigger about me behind my back. We come from very different social backgrounds and they go ...
A. 27 September 2011: Sorry to read that you've married a man who lacks a spine....
That said..... you can - and should - do all you can to stay away from his family.... At the same time... when circumstances put you (force you) in to contact with his family, be a fri... (read in full...)
My baby's father cheated and had a baby with her!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i got pregnat in may 2010 and while i was pregnat he had cheated on me most of my pregnacy but after my son was born i wanted my family together so i for gave him. i found out the girl he was cheating on ...
A. 27 September 2011: He's a lying, cheating dog.... You are better off without him....
(My apologies to dogs... since they are much more dependable and faithful than this guy was!!!!!)... (read in full...)
How common is it for women to have sex because they think it will help "catch" a guy?
Q. I realize this is a very broad question, and every woman is different so there's no single "right" answer, but I'm curious what people's general thoughts are? To what extent do women have sex because they think it will help them catch a guy? I r...
A. 27 September 2011: Unfortunately, there are LOTS of women who DO seem to believe this.... or, at least, they ACT as if it makes sense.... My "take" on this matter can be described like this:
Women offer sex in hopes that it will lead to a loving relation... (read in full...)
Do you think he's using me?
Q. I just wanted some advice, because I really feel like my bf is jst using me. We knew each other really well b4 we went on our first proper 'date' and by the end of it we were snogging. Since then we have had abt 5/6 dates and every time he just ...
A. 27 September 2011: Yep. He wants to have sex with you... and anything else is just "fluff".....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for not doing it more often or when he asks for oral sex?
Q. hi, my boyfriend and i are both 26 and have been together for four years. We seem to have the same repetitive arguement all the time regarding performing oral sex on him. The thing is i really dont like doing it, so i dont do it often. maybe lik...
A. 26 September 2011: There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with what you are doing. What IS wrong is that your "B/F" is a self-centered, insensitive, narcisstic lout.... and doesn't understand the basics about how two lovers should interact....
I'd guess that this wil... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from insecurity and need help please!
Q. Hey, I was wondering if anyone can help me really ? Im 17 years old ( nearly 18 ) and just over 5 months ago i met this bloke from my workplace. I knew straight away he was the one and anyway we hit it off quickly and have been together 5 month...
A. 26 September 2011: Your's sounds like an unfortunate situation.... and I'd recommend that you seek professional counselling.
The time spent getting mentally beat up by boyfriend 1 has, clearly, taken its toll on you..... AND has made you ripe for the ill-fate... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has started partying more on weekends. Is this just growing pains?
Q. Dear Cupids, I have dated a couple of different people in my life, but I've never gone steady with my significant other as long as my current relationship. I am looking for others experience manly in this area and the area of change. I love ...
A. 26 September 2011: College IS a time for self-discovery.... and that also can mean self-destruction, if one doesn't act responsibly....
From the tone of your submittal... you are distant from where this girl is in school...... so I would suggest that you take a "... (read in full...)
Is she out of love? taking me for granted? it was my birthday 2 weeks ago and she did not plan anything for me
Q. For the past couple months I feel that my girl and I are drifting apart. I feel that I am always trying to hug her or kiss her and it's like she doesn't want it. We have been together only for 2 years now and we barely make love and she comp...
A. 26 September 2011: It's hard to see if you have two problems here.... but, frankly, it appears that there may be just one... You say that you and she do not have an active sexual part of your relationship because of your tendonitis. (Aside: Are you seeking any ... (read in full...)
Can this be a relationship? He is straight and I am gay. He's a co-worker.
Q. i would like to ask help or advice regarding my relationship to my co-worker. i am so very confused about our relationship because between the two of us there is a mutual understanding between our friendship. probably he knows that i care for him ...
A. 26 September 2011: There's certainly nothing wrong with two guys having a close friendship. HOWEVER, it would be naive of you to believe that you and this man can be other than "men-friends".... so you need to steel yourself to that reality.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My FWB: I'm starting to like him and I want to know how or if I should let him know?
Q. Hello everyone I'm new to this and hopefully will get some advice ... I've been sleeping with this guy for about a year and half I guess we are friends with benefits. Even though he has said he likes me, and one time after sex he told me I was going ...
A. 26 September 2011: You write: "...I'm starting to like him and I want to know how or if I should let him know ..." Of course you may let him know by telling him....
HOWEVER, doing so (telling him) involves risk... IF your FWB is content ONLY being FWB, then you... (read in full...)
I love him. If he was doing his part, would I be cheating? But am I wrong?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together 9 months, known each other 3 years, havent seen each other in 3 months, spoke on the phone once in those 3 months. our primary form of communication is texting. And sometimes we go a week without a text, es...
A. 26 September 2011: I'm sorry to inform you that your "justification" for cheating is NOT NEW..... DOZENs of men AND WOMEN have used this line in the past.....
It was as flimsy for them as it is for you.....
... (read in full...)
I cannot ignore my former LDR any more. I took a risk. Was this the right way to reconnect with him?
Q. Five months ago, I told a long-distance love (I live in LA; he's from San Fran) that I couldn't do it anymore. Mainly, because he would constantly tell me he missed me and wanted to see me, yet wouldn't follow through. Granted, we only dated six ...
A. 26 September 2011: I believe the cliche which is appropriate comes from the basketball court: No blood; no foul...
You did OK.... Now, good luck as you (and he) figure out how to persevere with the difficulties of an LDR...... (read in full...)
Sad part? I don't think he likes me that way. Is it that he just wants to have sex?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for quite some times. We are really close and I believe we've known each other for 7 years. Well this year we finally confessed we liked each other and dated for a two months. After we broke up things went back to o...
A. 26 September 2011: You are wise to feel as you do. Let me leave you with this reminder.... which I've lifted from YOUR submittal, and include more than once so you will remember it vividly:
I just think he wants to have sex
I just think he wants to have sex
I ... (read in full...)
Is dinner a good idea for a first date?
Q. Hi there. I just started uni and met this really nice girl. We've been chatting most nights in our kitchen, been out drinking together and seem to enjoy each other's company. Its been just over a week since we met and I'd like to ask her on a dat...
A. 26 September 2011: tennisstar: Thanks for the pointer about putting it in the drier!!!!!!... (read in full...)
I want him to propose. Should I hint or just wait?
Q. hi you agony aunts and uncles back again for some of your great advice, i was just wondering, me and my man been LDR for over two years now we are fully committed and i am moving to be near him soon, and we are eventually moving in together, this ...
A. 26 September 2011: I wouldn't move 100 yards until/before I knew that this guy was serious and was going to go through with become a mate/partner/spouse with you...... If/when YOU move to be near HIM, then he has all the POWER.... and guys love that POWER because it ... (read in full...)
He's turned it around to try to make me the guilty one!
Q. Here's the thing. I had my boyfriend of nine months. Well about 2 months ago I started noticing little things/clues that were telling me that he was talking to another girl, like a text every so often and he would say it was this app that he has ...
A. 26 September 2011: He'll act like that as long as YOU let him get away with it..... No guy is "worth" the angst that you described for yourself in this submittal........ (read in full...)
Is it bad if I don't want to take my boyfriend to Homecoming?
Q. My friends say I'm being insensitive if I say I don't want my boyfriend to come to my homecoming dance with me but I just really want to go alone and enjoy it with my girls. Is this really that bad?...
A. 26 September 2011: Is "everybody" going to be paired-up at the dance?... (read in full...)
How can I know that my virgin girlfriend is really ready for sex?
Q. My gf and I met through mutal friends, I knew she was a virgin and planned to stay that way until she met`the perfect guy`` before we started dating.I am 23, she is 21. Its been over a year (14 months) and I respect her decision about sex. I will ...
A. 25 September 2011: Looks like she's got you in a classic "double bind".... you're damned if you DON'T have sex with her, believing as you do, that you're accomdating her preference to remain virgin..... AND, you're damned if you DON'T have sex with her, because that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my perfect match that I wear coloured lenses?
Q. I don't know how to go about this. I met this guy who is amazing in so many ways, it is shocking how good looking he is!! But more so that he is on the same wavelength as me and i've never met anybody who has been more of a perfect match for what ...
A. 25 September 2011: I'm wagering that he's sufficiently shallow such that, if and when he sees your eyes their natural colour he will run for the door!!!!
C'mon!!!!........ (read in full...)
This guy is so decent and respected my boundaries. Is he interested?
Q. If a guy in a club/bar talks to you for a while, genuinely taking an interest in you. But yet, he doesn't try anything with you (proper flirting, holding your hand, putting his arm around you, touching your shoulder or leg) that kind of thing. It's ...
A. 25 September 2011: EVERY guy is angling for a way to get you (a woman) in bed.... The guy that you describe has a very good "schtick" going... as he has got you wondering, and you can't get your arms around why he would be nice to you....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drinks a lot. Am I right to be worried?
Q. What should i do? My boyfriend is always sitting at the bar drinking, like everytime i talk to him .. im like ' Hey what are you doing ? ' , and he is always like at the bar .. or having drinks with my friends .. and he already got in trouble from ...
A. 25 September 2011: You can start by steering clear of him.....
Then, you can finish by steering clear of him....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Two weeks later he is not replying. Was I too hasty not letting him go further?
Q. Was I being to harsh on the guy? we were dating for two months and we were kissing all the time through the dates but I wouldn't let him go any further on our last date, however I let him touch me down there, and it was fine. we havent seen eac...
A. 25 September 2011: Quite to the contrary.... you didn't put out soon enough!!! IF you had... then you would have been writing something like this:
"I let a guy touch me "down there" and have sex with me... and now, 2 weeks later, I haven't heard from him agai... (read in full...)
Is it okay to feel this way? sometimes it feels like a FWB, yet when with him the sex is amazing.
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend feels more like a friend with benefits or something. I love him to pieces, I trust him completely, he understands me better than anyone; in short, he's the best mate I could ever wish for. But thinking of the fact that we're ...
A. 25 September 2011: Let's pick out the two phrases that really get to the heart of your question:
1. "my boyfriend feels more like a friend with benefits or something.", and,
2. "Perhaps it's because we're long distance?"
THEREIN is your answer.... What guy... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the criticism I'm going to get? How can we work it out in the future?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend two years on Friday, because he thought it was getting too intense and serious for two year 11's we were arguing a lot. It was done really nicely and he said if I ever needed anything he'd be there for me, I was the best...
A. 25 September 2011: I suggest that you not spend even a MOMENT thinking about the criticism "that you are going to get." Heck, I just spent two days worrying about "the space capsule that could land on me".... and it was all for naught!!!!... (read in full...)
Is dinner a good idea for a first date?
Q. Hi there. I just started uni and met this really nice girl. We've been chatting most nights in our kitchen, been out drinking together and seem to enjoy each other's company. Its been just over a week since we met and I'd like to ask her on a dat...
A. 25 September 2011: C'mon, tennis.... focus on the "lengthy" and "best behaviour"...... Fabreze can take care of the "clean shirt" thing!!!!! XO... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of getting back with my ex?
Q. Well I called my ex up, got her voice mail. I said something like, "just wanted to chat for a minute, call me back if you want. ttyl." She called back like 5 mins later and said she was in the shower. Sounded happy to hear from me, who knows? she ...
A. 24 September 2011: IF she had told you to come on over and towel her off after her shower, THEN you would know, for sure, that you had a chance with her.... Otherwise, you're still in never-never land and the best you can do is hope and pray that she will ever wa... (read in full...)
Why is my FWB acting like this? And why only now?
Q. Me and my coworker became ftf's, fwb, cuddy buddy's whatever u wanna call it a year ago. I knew what I was getting myself into and I understand a ftf is not meant to last but I thought I knew what I was doing. He's starting to act different and I ...
A. 24 September 2011: IF a girl puts out for a guy... then HE has gotten all he wants and needs... and anything that YOU want and need doesn't make any difference....
Does this shed any light on your question?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why is he so hot and cold with me?
Q. I don't get it. He told me he like me and days/weeks later he doesn't call, texts, or even talk to me. Just yesterday he decided to talk to me. What wrong with everything?...
A. 24 September 2011: Did you put out for him????? IF "yes,"then he's gotten all he wants and needs and YOU are "excess baggage" for the time being.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My friend feels too awkward to be around me after we kissed
Q. I got really drunk one night on my friends birthday, and I kissed one of my best friends. We were both drunk and now she feels awkward around me. One of our guy friends dared us to kiss, like a peck on the lips but we ended up full on snogging. I'm ...
A. 24 September 2011: BE FRIENDS? Heck, if you play your cards right you and she can be a real "item"...... Good luck...... (read in full...)
I applied the 'no contact' rule, but last night I caved in and texted him
Q. Recently I wrote about the affair that I had ended I've been working really hard on keeping busy etc but last night I broke 'no contact' and text him. What should I do if he replies? Should I just ignore it and carry on with NC? I've tried d...
A. 24 September 2011: He now knows that you are desperate.... Sorry..... Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend!
Q. I've met a fantastic woman, she is funny, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet with a heart of gold... doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? The problem lies in attraction, I met her from a dating site, we hit it off immediately as we are both of ...
A. 24 September 2011: IF she doesn't "have it" then tuck in Mr Happy and tell her that you and she are not destined to be "an item".... and that she would be wise to look elsewhere for a guy who would like to do nik-nik with her....
Point out to her that YOUR Mr Happy... (read in full...)
Is dinner a good idea for a first date?
Q. Hi there. I just started uni and met this really nice girl. We've been chatting most nights in our kitchen, been out drinking together and seem to enjoy each other's company. Its been just over a week since we met and I'd like to ask her on a dat...
A. 24 September 2011: Unlike Tennisstar, I am not big on dinner for a first date.. It's too darn lengthy and requires you to wear a clean shirt and be on your best behaviour..... I prefer getting a cup of coffee or a glass of wine at a very informal place. That wa... (read in full...)
My ex and I text each other a lot. Does this mean he still has feelings for me?
Q. ok so some years ago i was dating this guy. He was awesome. We didnt went too far on our relationship just held hands kissed n some cuddling, then he got me at a point where i was so head over hills for him and he tells me he didnt wanted us to co...
A. 24 September 2011: There's something that you MUST know in order to answer your own question...... IF you put out for him, then the who dynamic changes.... Please let us know if that has happened.... or is likely to happen... and, then, we can give you usefu... (read in full...)
He moved on quickly. Did our relationship mean nothing to him?
Q. i was w/ my boyfriend in a serious relationship for 2 1/2 yrs and i recently broke up w/ him b/c i didnt see a future w/ him. he started dating someone new in only two weeks and when i found this out i was really hurt. does this mean that our ...
A. 24 September 2011: There is a wide spectrum of times for people to grieve following a breakup.... His, evidently, is measured in HOURS; your's is more like days/weeks or months....
You needn't give it a thought if he "moved on" more quickly than you did........ (read in full...)
My bf never texts me or asks me to come over on his days off. What does this mean for our relationship?
Q. I hardly see my boyfriend anymore because we work different schedules now. He works mornings/afternoons, and I work evenings (both work at different companies). I am trying to get a different job that will allow me to work morning hours. That way, ...
A. 24 September 2011: Sounds to me like YOU're pulling all the weight in this "relationship".... and your description is of a woman who exhibits that desperation that is so "off-putting"... Why don't you just reign in your feelings and leave the guy alone for a whil... (read in full...)
Is my relationship destined for doom, or can it be fixed?
Q. Well, I have been with my husband for 5 years, we have 2 amazing kids. In the past, I believe he has cheated on me several times, I could never get over it then though he hadn't admitted to it. I know in my heart he has, I had reliable sources. Any...
A. 24 September 2011: Sounds like your home must be a veritable den of lovey-dovey!!!!!
IF you two have - or WANT TO HAVE - any chance of continuing in this so-called marriage I think you have to TALK to one-another.... put on the table those "cards" that you exposed ... (read in full...)
Is there medicine for wetness?
Q. is there any medication one can take to reduce the wetness during sex?...
A. 24 September 2011: AT my local pharmacy you can get plastic sheets to put under your regular sheets. That should take care of your "problem"..... Good luck...... (read in full...)
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