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writes:What should I do with my life?I feel I have a boyfriend who doesn't deserve me. He has cheated on me with many women but I still gave him a chance, but he continues to treat me very badly and I just cannot pucker up the courage to break up. What should I do?
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reader, Alba5  +, writes (27 August 2011):
You said it yourself he doesn't deserve you. I'm in the same situation and I'm realising that if he really loved me he wouldn't cheat on me and treat me badly. Everytime I take him back I'm basically saying I forgive you and I allow you to do it again because I will just forgive you again.
I know I have really low self esteem and I'm now going to work on building it, so should you.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Hi,
Cheating is one of the most painful experience one can go through besides death. I understand the fact that you forgive him, gave him another chance. I don't judge you, blame you for give him another chance, because we are all humans and sometimes we make mistakes.
But, I am going to be honest with you. If after your act of kindness he has not chance, treat you with respect, love you the way you deserve. If you are not happy, then I think it's best you end your relationship and find someone that trutly deserves you.
It's very hard to end a relationship, after all you love this man, rather he's perfect or not. This is the man that is part of your life, spend numerous times together, have memories, but a relationship won't work if you are not honest with each other and respect.
More than love is the attachment. You are so used to having him in your life. Honestly, after the second chance, if he doesn't change I don't think he will. So what are you left with? It's your choice, your life. Do you want to continue being with someone that doesn't make you happy?
Its going to be difficult in the beginning, very hard, but I have faith in you because you show a lot of strengh by forgiving him before, and I know if you put your mind into, you will overcome all the pain and make a better life for yourself.
Anyways, hope this helps and I hope you make the right decision. What's best for you and your future.
Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2011):
 The operative phrase in your submittal is: "...He has cheated on me with many women but I still gave him a chance..."
As long as you tolerate that as being a description of how you behave, you are setting yourself up for a future of misery.... not only with this man... but with any OTHER man (future B/F) who you might choose to spend time with.
My question to you: Are you satisfied that that's the best you can do in life?
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (27 August 2011):
how about rehearsing your break-up conversation many times over and over, so that when you finally do it it will be slightly less nerve wracking. If you're really really uncomfortable about a face-to-face conversation, another option is to write him a letter.
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