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writes:My girlfriend of 1 year and I broke up 2 months ago. We are both in graduate school.Background (2 months ago): After we broke up, we met up once for dinner a week after breaking up and i asked her if she wants to get back together, she said no. I probably asked too many times and she was furious. From then on, sms and emails to her dont get replies except for special ones like free furniture etc.Current situation: Last night I helped her and her best friend move into their new apartment. Her roommate suggested that I stay over since it is getting late. My ex agreed. Her roommate went to sleep first, and after my ex bathed, we spoke a little as we unpack stuff into the kitchen. I notice an increased amount of 'accidental' physical body contacts like brushing of fingers and touching of hand when passing stuff around, brushing of arm when reaching to put things and she even press her boobs against me as we stretch out to put stuff on a higher shelf.We also lay together in her bed to talk for a while, but I had to sleep on the couch eventually. We rearranged the kitchen and because of all the physical contact, I felt that she is more comfortable with me now and I decided to hug her and give her a few kisses on the cheek. She was holding a pillow so she placed it between us when we hugged, and she did not have any major reactions like slapping me or pushing me away, she just mentioned that we are no longer boyfriend and girlfriend. But I continued to hug anyway and stroke her hair, her face and eventually kiss her. She mentioned to stop touching her hair but did not push me away. We spoke a little while hugging and she said that after giving her some space for awhile, and having some progress in a startup I have been working on, I appear more attractive to her. I asked her out for a movie during this weekend but she said she want to watch that movie I suggested, but alone.My question is whether this is a good sign that she is now possibly interested in me again, and how does the chances of getting back together look like? I'm confused as to why we have intimate physical contact but not able to watch a movie. Girls when you have this manner of physical contact, is it attraction?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): Trust Me bro. The earlier you let go the better for you. Truth is she is using you like a standby generator, you gotta ditch her for good and try getting yourself into another good relationship. Goodluck
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reader, LettertoJuliet  +, writes (1 September 2011):
It is attraction maybe but maybe only the remains of it as you dated before... That physical contact could be natural to her. It could be that she feels insecure or wants to get attention and acts that way. Anyway you shouldn't rush and push her maybe even better show her that you feel amazing maybe she will get jealous and will try to get you back.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 September 2011):
 I suggest you just walk away and DON'T make yourself available to her.... OR, initiate any contact. Give it about 6 weeks and she will be desperate... wondering "What the heck is WRONG WITH ME????".... and then, SHE will re-initiate contact with YOU..... and YOU, Sir, will be in the driver's seat.... getting her to do WHATEVER you want...
Good luck.... and give us an update in mid-November...
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