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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 How is it your concern in any case? You're over-thinking stuff which doesn't even have to do with you. They might have some other problem, which is why they're avoiding each other. Tr not to be so cynical and dont get into things that have nothing to do with you. You're not anybody's guardian, let their respective spouses sort out their problems, if any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): None of your business. you won't get caught in the middle unless you get yourself involved like you're trying to do now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 September 2011):
 explain to me how YOU would be caught in the middle
you didn't set it up
you know nothing
so NOT your problem.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 September 2011):
 Well, without catching them in the act these signs can also be signs that something embarrassing happened between them, or that they share some kind of secret, although not necessarily an affair.
Maybe they ran into each other at a naughty sex shop for all we know. But yes, this sort of acting does signal that something has happened between them. It just doesn't say much else than that.
It could be they shared a brief kiss, or something accidentally happened like her slipping and then he accidentally grabbed her breast or something. And that they are too embarrassed by the episode to even look at each other.
See if the behaviour continues or changes. But in either case, without hard evidence all you can and should do is observe from a distance and not talk about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): You won't get caught in the middle if you don't assume and dig for clues by reading body language and asking websites. You also have a best friend who is married, who has secrets he only shares with his wife, so you'll never know everything and you shouldn't pry or even want to know everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell the guy is my best friend... and i love his wife dearly as well. i went to school with his wife [we took the same classes at college and became fast friends] and they sort of met through me. i just dont want to get caught in the middle of this mess when it explodes.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 September 2011):
 You can't.... but why do you care? It's none of your business.... UNLESS you are a busy-body and would feel good about being the first to report, of confirm, the rumor that they are "doing it"!!! If THAT is what you hope to accomplish in life... HAVE AT IT!!!!
Good luck.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 September 2011):
you can't.
but if you think it's enough of your business to worry about it you could ask them.....
in other words unless the person is sleeping with YOUR Partner I'm not sure it's YOUR business.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2011):
 No matter what there body language says it is impossible to be able to read from it if they are having sex or not. There could be any reason why they are behaving the way that they are. I think the best thing for you to do is just to ignore it and let them get on with there lives. You will only make things worse if you get yourself involved in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): Frankly, it is certainly their respective spouses' business... but it's definitely none of yours
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): I don't think you can and even if you could, would you really want to be burdened with that information? With it comes a responsibility and it's best you don't know and stay out of the crossfires and all the drama. People often shoot the messenger and even speculating about it without facts to other people who know them can be very harmful and damaging if it's not true.
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