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writes:Guys I broke with my girlfriend 8 months back, she accused me of cheating having caught me kissing my office colleague on her nose on her birthday there. I don’t think that was cheating since I had no feelings for her. She didn’t let me explain anything and dumped me saying she would create hell of my life. She’s been stalking me ever since she left me. After two months, when I started dating different girls , she would find their location and tell them I am cheater and bla , bla. Last night, I took someone on date and she stormed in that restaurant and created scene that I am cheater No 1 . I have talked to her several times that either take me back or let me move on with my life but she’s doing neither of it, she says she will spend rest of her life doing this I can’t believe such a nice girl like my ex-girlfriend doing this to me. You guys must be thinking she is a psycho and but she’s not and she is more than stable person …why my one innocent kiss got her changed so much? I don’t want to bring police into this whole thing because I still care for her but what else I can do to stop her from doing this? Should I leave this city where I have god job and apartment? Or should I stop dating other girls and let her come back in my life through gradual process? Please help get of this mess! Thank you all in advance!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (2 October 2011):
 Simple, she's a woman scorned.
You may not think you cheated, but kissing your colleague's nose is considered cheating in your ex-girlfriend's eyes. I wouldn't classify it as cheating, but it's an intimate gesture, so I'd settle with you weren't be 100% faithful to your girlfriend. If I caught my boyfriend kissing another girl's nose (feelings there or not), I'd be pretty upset too. HOWEVER, I wouldn't carry out such actions like your ex is displaying.
Yes, your ex has some loose screws..she's hurt that you cheated and would tell the whole world if she could, that you're a cheater. But she'll settle for hijacking your dates and making a fool of you.
If you ever want a girlfriend, then you need to threaten your ex with legal force if she doesn't knock this crap off. She's already punished you enough, it's time to move on. It's rather sad that she takes time out of her own day, to mess up your dates.
No offense, but you would be an idiot if you stopped dating other women and let her back in your life. If she does take you back, which you shouldn't be so sure of, then she wouldn't be able to trust you at all. Without a foundation of trust, the relationship will end.
To sum it up, threaten her with harassment charges, or a restraining order if she doesn't stop. If she doesn't heed your warnings, then you have no choice but to get the police involved. Let it be a lesson not to kiss women who aren't your girlfriend on the face.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 October 2011):
 YOu are considering upsetting your entire life just because this woman acts like an idiot?????? Take a few minutes and think about WHO would be the idiot in THAT scenerio!!!!.....Get a grip on yourself and get on with your life....
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (1 October 2011):
 Yes she is (a psycho) she just hid her spots from you while everything seemed to be going swimmingly well. She is a vindictve little psycho. Better you found out now, rather than later. No normal woman behaves like this and I'm sorry you still have feelings for her but you have only two choices. 1) Put a restraining order on her 2) Move to another city and good luck with that, she may still find you. You should NOT however stop seeing other girls or wait for her return. You will only be rewarding her unacceptable behavior or worse yet, tying yourself down to someone who will no doubt use this tactic to get what she wants in the future as well.
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