In 10 months we have never been out anywhere together and only his brother knows about me, should I leave him?
Q. Hi I was just wondering why men always have to play games when they know a woman likes them? I met a man nearly 10 months ago now we live close by he asked me out and I have a three year old son from a previous relationship. anyway I couldn't get a ...
A. 18 November 2011: EVERY testosterone-bubbling guy is ecstatic if/when he finds a girl like you... who will put out and not ask for anything in return....
NOW, the issue is: When are you going to wake up and ASK FOR SOMETHING in return????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What are symptoms of a ruptured uterine fibroid, and treatment?
Q. Havent been feeling well all week. Fatigue, adominal pain... woke up this morning with exteme adominal pain and bleeding. Have a history of uterine fibroids. Had intercourse on wednesday and it was a little painful. Is it possible i had one and it ...
A. 18 November 2011: Ask your medical doctor... This is not the place to hope to get a suitable answer to such an important question....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
He moans about giving me oral, am I being unreasonable?
Q. Do I have the right to be upset? Thank you for all advice and for your time! I appreciate it all so much!!! I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. About two and a half months into our relationship we began to become intimate. I go d...
A. 18 November 2011: One-sided sexual relationships are just dandy IF you are the one who is on the "receiving" end. IF you're the giver... things are a bit more tenuous....
YOU have learned that your "boyfriend" is ready to accept,... but has no intentio... (read in full...)
New baby, but an unsupportive abusive husband. No wonder I'm depressed. What should I do to cope with all this pressure?
Q. I've been feeling very unhappy after I got married.. been feeling depressed..I had a baby 7 months ago; I have been staying at home watching the baby and my husband has been complaining about expenses. He 's been telling me I wish That he could be...
A. 18 November 2011: "Sounds" to me like the guy who contributed his sperm to your pregnancy is an idiot. YOU will be better off as soon as you can dismiss him from your life...
I don't mean "exchange him for some other guy...." I mean, just let him go and let natu... (read in full...)
Sex is all about him - he does nothing for me and I feel unsatisfied
Q. What do you make of this? My husband and I have been together for 10 years.. married for 7. We have 2 children. OK this is going to get kinda graphic.... so we recently went 18 months without having sex. If he ever wants it, it completely ...
A. 18 November 2011: YOu've got yourself a very narcisstic and self-centered guy there. Too bad that HE doesn't know that if HE were to apend a little time and attention satisfying YOU... then his sex life would be infinitely more interesting and rewarding.....
... (read in full...)
Can a guy's car make him more (or less) attractive?
Q. Here’s a bit of a strange question. Does the type of car a guy has make him more attractive or less attractive? Does it have an influence on women? The reason I am asking this question is because of this, I used to have a classic BMW, one with ch...
A. 18 November 2011: Of course "the car makes the man"!!!!!
When I drive around in my 1967 Avanti (pics available, on request), I have to all but beat the ladies away with a stick!!!!! You can IMAGINE, no doubt, where THAT leads. I have spent many an hour in the b... (read in full...)
How can I change my G/f's mind about sex? She's had some nasty experiences in the past but my friends' are nagging me about why its taking so long with her
Q. Hey guys, me and my gf have been dating for 5 months already. The thing is she's a virgin and I'm not, I of course care about her and do not want to pressure her into doing anything shes uncormfotable with. We've been talking about sex (well maybe ...
A. 18 November 2011: I find it interesting that your friends are privvy to your sex life.
THAT "tells" me that you're not really being truthful when you write "...I of course care about her and do not want to pressure her into doing anything shes uncormfo... (read in full...)
Does this guy still have feelings for me? or does he just want the best of both worlds?
Q. i just recently been dumped by my bf of two months (we were fwb for 6 months prior to him asking me out) he said that he felt that we would just be better off as friends, and that he doesnt feel like nothing had changed between us when he asked me ...
A. 18 November 2011: Taper Jean: He has NEVER "had feelings" for you!!!! Once a girl puts out for a guy (as you did, as FWB) then you are subject to that guy being a gentleman or not. The difference (between a gentleman and something else) is that "something else"... (read in full...)
No man wants to get married, they can't stay committed to one woman, and ogle my female friends! Thats what HE said!
Q. First off, this is a bit long so thanks to any for reading! Im not sure if I am overreacting or not. My boyfriend and I are approaching our 5 year anniversary and have lived together for over 4 and a half years. He swept me off my feet, convinc...
A. 16 November 2011: I needed only to read the title::::
Dump his sorry a+s and find a REAL B/F.....
'Nuff said...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I feel it is my duty to stay with her. But I don't fancy her any longer!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend now for 5 years in total (though we have split up twice in this period for about a year each). When we first got together everything was amazing and we fell madly in love. After 2 years things started ...
A. 16 November 2011: These see-saw relationships are a pain in the a+s and take their toll on both of you...
Go your separate ways... and if, a year from now, you and she want to "try" resurrecting things again, try it then..
Good luck....... (read in full...)
She said to me during sex "would you just finish" after only 10 minutes! I always thought lasting longer was better....
Q. hi their. I have confidance issues when it comes to how long i last during sex. I always please my partner though oral and hands before sex as she doesnt orgasm through intercourse. Once she had cum we moved on to the sex. I was prolonging cumming ...
A. 16 November 2011: IF I had a nickel for every woman who said, "F'r cryin' out loud....will you please finish off and get OFF ME..." I swear, I'd be one of the richest men in Florida.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?
Q. So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a b...
A. 16 November 2011: I "got" your "question" from your first two paragraphs....
My "response????? How long do you intend to put up with this scum's lying????
The answer tells you how long you'll be stuck in this intolerable situation...
Please note, there ar... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: Well.... the ending of the story is the same.... whether you want to "wait and see" or not. The only difference is WHEN you have reality slapped in your face.... The "ending"???? Let me predict.....
He will keep stringing you along as long as ... (read in full...)
I'm married and now my lover is also married I'm struggling to accept she is physical with another man....I don't want to share her!
Q. I am married and had a relationship with collegaue in office. We got along for couple of years well including physically and now she got married to a guy. She says she wants to continue being physical with me but I am finding it hard to accept now ...
A. 15 November 2011: What's to "go through????" YOU are cheating on YOUR wife... she, apparently, is content to cheat on her new hubby.... and YOU have the audacity to claim "....I am finding it hard to accept now..."
Did you ever get ANY exposure to morals, ... (read in full...)
Would you let your man/ or girl live with their baby mama/ baby daddy?
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together 2 months, and he cheated on his girlfriend with me and he has a kid with her and another one on the way... then he told her that he did and he didn't see the relationship with them going anywhere. ...
A. 15 November 2011: Rachelle: WAKE UP!!! ... and walk away from this exploitive situation. YOU stand to be "the big loser" when all this shakes out......
Good luck....
P.S. Am I correct to guess that this delightful "boyfriend" of your's is AT LEAST 20 year... (read in full...)
The longer I know him the less that I understand him!
Q. After almost two years, I met the family of the man I'm seeing-but it was nothing formal. I'm not sure if this means anything, but he has kept me under wraps before now. It's so hard to understand him sometimes. He's a nice man but I can never ...
A. 15 November 2011:
I'm willing to wager that "...he has kept me (you) under wraps"... because his WIFE would object to him having a little "something" "one the side"....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I help my cousin? She cant move on from her ex and he keeps postponing their dates!
Q. well my cousin was in a relationship with a guy for almost a year, and then she broke up with him because he doesn't give her enough attention. after some time she realized she can not move on. and then she went back to her ex and tried to apologize ...
A. 15 November 2011: Why do you "need" to "help" your cousin? The situation your describe is perfectly clear.... two indecisive people "dancing" about, in a doomed "relationship" just waiting until one or the other finally gets sufficiently ticked-off to walk away ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's potential investor is the mother of a guy who seemed into her, is this appropriate?
Q. My girlfriend of a decade is an aspiring film producer. Her two year old company has a few documentaries in the works, but hasn't had a big payday or even a movie they can really be proud of so far, although there are some candidates still in produ...
A. 15 November 2011: I recommend that you take the text of this submittal to your G/F and have her get it adapted to a screenplay and made in to a movie. It should be quite a hit for its drama, stressed love affairs and intrigue....
P.S. I'll even invest a couple... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of him ignoring me! Help!
Q. My bf of 2 years was ignoring me lately and most of the times he wont call for a week. I told him repeatedly this is not acceptable, even he is busy he should have atleast left me a message. Anyway i lost my control and didnt call for nearly 2...
A. 15 November 2011: "Sounds" to me like you're looking for a "relationship"... and HE is having a "dalliance." If you and he can't reconcile THAT... then you two will have to share a "breakup"...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He left me for harmless online flirting. Why?
Q. I have been with my chap going on 4 years. I have flirted online which was harmless and meant nothing. Just a bit of a joke and no more. I understand i hid it from him,but only so he wouldnt get the wrong idea as we had a break up over it once. ...
A. 15 November 2011: " Why is he so ready to throw it all away?"
He'll "throw it all away" because what YOU describe as harmless flirting is really a MUCH GREATER issue to him.
I believe you are not "getting" one of life's (and relationships') most important p... (read in full...)
Whenever I manage to save up a bit of money, my boyfriend expects me to treat him to a big dinner
Q. Just wanted to ask, is it fair that my boyfriend expects me to pay for dinner sometimes (for the both of us) when he's the one with a pretty good, stable part time job (24hr) and I'm unemployed (because my college schedule is loaded)? I'm not tryi...
A. 14 November 2011: Somehow, "charity" just doesn't seem so "charitable" when you are told to partake of it under duress.....
Considering your joint financial situation, it's not outlandish for you to pick up a check now and again... BUT, you should get inexpens... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on attending a concert while I'm in surgery
Q. This may take me some time to write so here goes. I've just moved in to a house with my bf of two years, we've got a mortgage togther. We started to try for a baby around a year ago and in september I got pregnant with fertility treatment. After ...
A. 14 November 2011: Sounds like you've got yourself a delightful (and considerate) "Boyfriend" there......
I'm not sure which is greater.... his disregard for you, your health and well-being.... or your lack of judgement at getting yourself in to such a predicam... (read in full...)
On the verge of buying a house with a miserly man who only tolerates my children
Q. Scared. My second marriage begun disasterously my second Husband refused to bond with my children lied cheated and left me when I lost my job with his baby and my two other children to fend for ourselves financially and otherwise. My Son who is 9 ...
A. 14 November 2011: Sounds to me like you've crossed the threshold of "brilliance" by choosing to enmesh yourself still further with this guy who you KNOW is toxic.
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why do guys feels the need to brag?
Q. Why do guys brag? He was a party boy and obviously I didn't give him anything sex-related/making out related to brag about. so... when people asked why we hung out around one another...he said that I hung around him and even the police couldn't...
A. 14 November 2011: Actually, you'll find that we guys boast in inverse-proportion to the length and girth of our penises.....
... (read in full...)
His ultimatum: Get rid of my online friends and date site profiles,or he is going to leave!
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months has given me an ultimatum. Either I get rid of my on line friends and Date Site profiles,or he is going to leave. I have been on them for 3 years and enjoy it. I feel a bit like he is telling me what to do. Which shall I go ...
A. 14 November 2011: This one's easy. HE issues you the ultimatun. YOU say to him, "Are you sure that you want to make that ultimatun?" He sez, "Yes," You say, "OK, then pack your things..."
How much easier could this be?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Are people joined at the hip once they marry?
Q. Once people get married are they joined at the hip? Do they get time outs like a week at a time, a few times a year? On average is this acceptable? Kids can survive without a parent once in a while right? Do you think giving partners time out will ...
A. 14 November 2011: Some are... but it's NOT a condition of being married....... (read in full...)
Why did this special connection end?
Q. Hi guys, i'm so confused. And asking you guys on the internet is the last resort I have to get some advice and clear my mind. Anyways, I've been in a FWB relationship with this guys for about 2 months. We started off by hooking up when we were bot...
A. 14 November 2011: When a guy has a girl who will put out for him in a "FWB" arrangement, he really NEVER has much interest in that girl,.... except as she makes him feel good by doing nik-nik.....
You are imagining things if you think that there was a metamorp... (read in full...)
Why are guys jerks like this?
Q. So I started dating this after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other, he told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship ...
A. 14 November 2011: He probably found a girl, nearby, who would put out for him........ (read in full...)
Sex while music is playing?
Q. Hello everyone, just after a few personal opinions here! Do you think it's a good idea to have sex for the first time while music's playing in the background or can that be a distraction from (or to) your partner? I'm thinking classical music, ...
A. 14 November 2011: I usually play Rod Stewart's "Do you think I'm sexy" when I bed down one of my new girls.... Works great....... (read in full...)
Other Non-Pregnancy Methods
Q. Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you....
A. 14 November 2011: Yes.... abstinence has proven to be a perfect method of birth control..... Unfortunately, it requires SELF control.... and that combination is not always available...... (read in full...)
Dating students as a TA?
Q. I am currently a TA at a university and I teach a lab course for pre-meds. The semester ends in a few weeks and there will be only one more lab session meeting next week. Other than talking with the students about class related material, I only joke ...
A. 14 November 2011: I think there's never much of a good reason for a TA to get too close to one of his/her students..... Sorry, but that hot coed is off-limits to you for the time being....... (read in full...)
Why did I get used and how do I resist him?
Q. I did something really stupid, it's a typical issue really. I slept with this guy, I'm 18 and he's in his early 40's. We get on really well, we work together and he used to make me feel special, he would hang out with me, hug me etc. we kissed on ...
A. 11 November 2011: I guess you don't need anyone to cement your acknowledging (finally) that you were an idiot to put out for this guy....
Here's my suggestion...... 1. Decide that you are never going to put out for this guy - or anybody like him - ever again...... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but have a major crush on another boy! Please help!
Q. Hi! Okay, I'm having an issue. There's this boy. Let's call him Tom. I used to be bestfriends with his sister and I used to have a MAJJOR crush on him. I was like IN LOVE with Tom. I thought he felt the same about me, but then people spread rumors ...
A. 11 November 2011: There's a couple of ways you can handle this. The most obvious is to flip a coin..... determining before the fact that "heads" means you will take up with one of these guys, and "tails" means that it will be the other. Flip the darn thing.... ... (read in full...)
I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married!
Q. Hi everyone:) Just want you opinions on something... I have recently met a lovely guy, I like him a lot and we have a lot of chemistry... but he's married. He has been separated from his wife for a few years and they are in the process of sellin...
A. 11 November 2011: Let's cut right to the quick of your query. It's this: "....but he's married."
Are you ready to sell your soul for a few minutes of orgasmic satisfaction? ... for a few stolen dates, before he returns home to his wife and his "real" life... ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 11 November 2011: ... so you KNOW the answer. You can keep on "taking care of this "man" who is, in fact, no more than a baby..."... or you can go out and find a real man for a companion....
Your call.... Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much for handmade birthday cards from my grandsons?
Q. I have two sons, 32 and 30 years old and I have two grandchildren, one is 4 and other is 1 year old. It was my birthday today 11/11/11. Earlier this week I asked my sons to make, with my grandchildren, a birthday card for me with the date 11/11/11 ...
A. 11 November 2011: I'm guessing that you'll also tell them what to get you for a Christmas present.... and will be disappointed then, as well, when they fail to come through for you....
I never knew that it was a propos for someone to tell others what to do to recog... (read in full...)
Ideas for a first date? Would it be too forward to invite her to my apartment to watch a hockey game?
Q. alright so there is this girl in one of my classes at university and i really want to ask her out. We have gotten to know each other a bit in the 2 1/2 months that we have been in class together, we usually end up sitting next to each other and get ...
A. 11 November 2011: IF you can't actually GO to that hockey game (I have just such a date, tomorrow night!!!!).... then go to someplace public - such as a sports bar - whereat you can SEE the game.... but don't risk that you will be in a situation that will be/become ... (read in full...)
My Gf wants to get a tattoo of her ex who died and it worries me that I'll always be a second choice in her life
Q. Hi i am in a dilema my girlfriend wants to get a tattoo of her ex 's name who died it worries not cause im jealous but because im afraid of being her second choice and not being able to make her as happy as he did i dont wana tell her not to get the ...
A. 11 November 2011: Why can't she just get a puppy and name IT after her late-Ex????? That doesn't involve any permanent markings....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?
Q. Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we ...
A. 11 November 2011: Luke: Are you f**king crazy????? You have a wife who is willing to accomodate all but your most egregious fantasy, and YOU think that you "need" to assuage that fantasy with a hooker.... and all that THAT entails?????? Wake up!!! Many of us ... (read in full...)
do women tend to get into FWB relationships with someone for whom they have at least some romantic feelings, hoping it will turn into more?
Q. This question is just out of curiosity, and it has nothing to do with my situation (I'm married, faithful, etc.) There seem to be a lot of questions on this board by women who have feelings for their FWB. Typically, the questions are if their FWB...
A. 10 November 2011:
Women offer sex in the belief that it is part of a loving relationship. Men will feign a relationship in hopes that it will result in their getting sex.....
.. and THAT's the truth....... (read in full...)
Is this an appropriate message for a cheating ex?
Q. Can I send this to my ex who cheated on me? " Remember when you said to me that I'm a strong person, I thought I was but do you think I'd be here with you right now if I was? I'm weak callum, weak for coming back to you while knowing there's ...
A. 10 November 2011: If he's your ex-... then I suggest that you print out a "hard" copy of this note.... Keep it in your bedside stand drawer for 6 months. In six months, remove it from the drawer, read it, and - if it THEN seems to make any sense to do so - send it ... (read in full...)
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