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writes:I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the first one he asked if we could make a sex tape together OR try "risky sex" as he called it, he wants to have sex during whiel watchign a movie at a theatre. He said he has always wanted to try both of those things and since we are both committed to our relationship he thinks it would be fun and special. I'm not sure what to do. I want to because he is really excited about them but I'm nervous at the same time. I want to do something special for him but if we get caught at a movie how much trouble would we get into? Any advice I could get from guys or girls who have done either one of these would really help thanks
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reader, landomando +, writes (29 September 2011):
I work at a movie theater. We have to check the movie a couple times when it is playing. If its a small theater they will kick u out a larger theater they can press charges.. I wouldnt save it for the bedroom
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): honestly, lf you want to have sex there, why not first try a drive in, lf your city has one, ltd be better cause 1, lts ln your car, and 2, ltd be alot easier to do lt, lts the closest thing to a movie theater, the only risk would be being seen by a walk by, or the car moving roughly, but try that, cause lt does seem to be alot of fun, and lt ls exciting, but thats a safer bet, and as for the sex tape, theres 2 things you could do, 1, have lt hooked up to your tv, so you guys can watch yourselfs while your doing lt, or do make a tape, but you should make an agreement that lf he wants to keep lt around to watch, that you hold on to lt, and let him watch lt, but get lt back once lts done, cause like everyone says, you never know in the end, so just keep lt yourself, better to be safe than sorry,
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (28 September 2011):
 Been there, done that. Got caught (you will, too) and took a lot of negotiation not to have charges filed against us.
Giving a BJ is relatively more feasible, but again, not for the faint-hearted. Role play is a far far better otion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): Sex in a theatre is very risky...being caught is very easy. You could try however and set the mood from there. My boyfriend and I had oral in the theatre and no one noticed, although the pop corn actually poured all over, funny!It was fun and all but there are crazier places to get it done without having to get caught. ever thought of a national park? its awesome!! try it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2011): If you have sex in a movie theater, everyone is going to be able to turn around and see you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Sex in a cinema is risky and it is almost impossible to pull off because no one is NOT gonna know whats going on if you are sitting in someone's lap during a movie.You might just try for some sneaky oral or a handjob as these are much easier to hide.Look, I get that you are nervous but sex where there is a risk of being caught is amazingly hot for the couple involved... you just have to be smart about it. Pick a location that is easier than a cinema.Go to the freaking botanical gardens, or museum or something (interestingly, museum sex is awesome particularly if you can play with it a bit and try and get your partner to focus on the exhibits during the act, like a game... very fun).There are a million better and safer ways to try risky-sex.Filming yourself... well, that's a mixed bag. There has to be a lot of trust or you have to be sure you don't care if it ever finds it's way to the interwebs... or make absolutely sure it is viewed only once and then deleted from existence.Look, spicing up your sex life is nothing to fear. If you don't and just stick to regular old bedroom sex... then you are gonna find the relationship will get strained as you both get bored sexually.Try every position in every sex manual you can get, go on a sexy holiday, role-play some popular fantasies (the dodgy English teacher and the failing nymphette student is quite good for getting the juices flowing), try some alfrsco sex in your backyard... during a thunderstorm/rain (this is possibly the best way to have sex with lightning and thinder clapping all around you, wind blowing you both hither and thither).It's all limited only to your imagination. But get out there and spice things up, but do so safely and MAKE SURE YOU DON'T GET CAUGHT!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Youre lookin at gross misdemeanors of.lewd conduct and indecent exposure. Each count carry max 1 year jail if convicted. Check ur state laws to verify.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 *role play
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 I want to make a point that no one else has picked up on yet.
This is YOUR two year Anniversary.
*YOU* as in a *COUPLE*.
Not just him.
You say "He is really excited about it so I want to do somethign special for him"
Well that is great, but it is a JOINT special day, not just a special day for him to do things he wants and for you to give in.
He should be wanting to do something special for you as well! Not emotionally blackmailing you by sulking to get his own way.
Pick something romantic instead, it will be a whole lot nicer to remember in the future than *oh darling, do you remember when we got arrested/posted on youtube on our 2nd anniversary*.
Public sex is illegal. Sex tapes can end up in the wrong hands and can ruin your life in the future. They always have a habit of surfacing - in 10 years time would you want potential employers seeing it by doing a quick google search?
If you are not comfortable then do not do this, if he loves you then he will fully understand.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Here's advice from an old guy who should know better:
Both of the things he wants to do are STUPID..... so, don't do them!!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Doing it in the movie theater would be extremely rude and inconsiderate. I hate it when a couple is making out during a movie. It is so gross and I don't want to be exposed to that.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (27 September 2011):
Do NOT make a sex tape! Once you and him break up that sex tape will land online faster than you can say "oh crap".
Sex in the theatre? Sure, if you don't get caught. Make sure the theatre doesn't have cameras. You can try it. Alternatively you can tole play it to avoid any prosecutions.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (27 September 2011):
 it is called 'lewd conduct' and you could be prosecuted, have your names in the local press and end up a laughing stock and an embarrassment to your family. i am sure there are clubs you can go to if you are into this, where like minded people will be there, doing the same. it is not for the general public. they don't want to see you or end up sitting in your mess afterwards! as for making a video, this is only to be done with someone you REALLY REALLY trust and who you KNOW won't broadcast it if you break up or share it with any of his friends. as soon as something finds its way onto the internet, its there forever!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 September 2011):
Arrested. Named in papers. Fined heavily. Laughed at. Possible fired if you work for a reputable company. Possible expulsion from place of education. Youtube.
Basically, if you're caught, you're stuffed.
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reader, eek +, writes (27 September 2011):
 with anything in public there is always a risk of being caught. Though that can be half the fun. If you both prepare properly before hand e.g. Easy access cloths it makes things easier and makes getting caught less likely(its also easier to cover up if you are caught).
Obviously dont go to a childrens film choose one thats screaned late. Choose your location carefully too dont sit somewhere your overlooked too easily and when you do try to choose a position that is least obvious. What will happen depends on what the people are like that catch you. Normally the worst that will happen is you will asked to leave.
Good luck and have fun. :-)
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reader, biznasty  +, writes (27 September 2011):
Risky sex can be alot of fun, but this is not the way to do it. Definitely find a new way to be risky.
Sex tape could be fun, if you both trust eachother to keep it between you. Who knows, you might even learn a thing or two about yourself!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 No that's just NASTY both for you and for other patrons.
You could be charged with a crime if caught, and if children are present anywhere nearby (and rest assured they will be in some other movie somewhere) you would be listed as sex offenders, which would be on your permanent record for the rest of your life and totally destroy your chances of a career. This is beyond a stupid idea. It's called risky sex for a reason and this is not a risk worth taking.
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reader, nessb +, writes (27 September 2011):
nessb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit wasnt soemthing I thougth of it was him, we would never go to a kids movie and do this. as for the person asked what I want to do, I'm not sure. He is really excited about it so I want to do somethign special for him
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Seriously? Someone has to sit in those seat. Eww.. If you want to do it in public, I think you two need to find a better idea.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Stupid idea. You COULD get arrested, thoroughly annoy others in the cinema (though maybe a few would find it amusingly titillating), get some publicity on the local news, if not YouTube.......
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Did you really feel like taking a chance at a mark on your permenant record for some theater nookie?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Do NOT do this.I can only emphasise strongly that this is a bad manouevre.Don't even think about it. You could end up with indecency convictions - or even a fine.However, if it's on PRIVATE premises, then that's at the owner's discretion.It all depends on where and when.The best advice I can give; do it at home IN PRIVATE whilst watching a DVD.You can re-create the cinema experience with popcorn etc. and cardboard cut-outs just for that "feel" and still be intimate as if you were in a cinema.Hope this helps.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 September 2011):
 One word.
YOUTUBE.
If you have sex in a movie theater, someone could whip out their iPhone and take some juicy public action. Then they could either use it as evidence in your public sexual indecency trial, or they could post it on Youtube with the title "OMG Sex in a theater hahahahaa". And you'd be the star.
If you make the sex tape, you won't have to worry about the criminal charges, but what if you and your boyfriend break up? Where will that tape end up? What if he gets vindictive (it happens a lot!) and either blackmails you with it, or spreads it around to all of your friends, loved ones, and YES...Youtube. Trust me, you won't be the one holding onto that tape. He will.
You might want to consider alternate special ideas.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Do neither they are both really, really bad ideas. Listen to the aunts.
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reader, nessb +, writes (27 September 2011):
nessb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe would pick a movie that doesn't have a lot people at it. Then we would sit at the back (alone hopefully) I would wear a skirt and just get on his lap.
The video does seem more realistic have either of you made one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): I'm not gonna approve of sex in a movie theater...but I'll tell you that I had oral sex with my ex boyfriend in a really obscure movie theater, one of those with only like 5 people per cinema (which is actually possible!) and I loved it :D we never got caught physically, but I'm always still wondering if a security guard saw it on tape or something and kept it.... so I'm not very excited about THAt aspect and sometimes I regret doing it so I would say the sex tape is a safe bet since it's for both your eyes only... but it's up to you: what are you comfortable with?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 I'd choose making the sex tape together. Having sex in a movie theatre would be " indecent exposure " which is a misdemeanour everywhere and a felony in some States. If it's a first offence probably you would not go to jail ( but in theory, you absolutely could ! ) ,maybe they'd give you community service, but again, it depends from the jurisdiction. And, if it happens in front of minors,- then you are totally screwed.
Just out of curiosity... but how would you go about it in practice ? I can understand getting away with a hand job, or maybe even a BJ,.. but for having sex I guess you'd have to sit on his lap or you'd have to stand up, how could the people around you possibly NOT notice ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): If children are present, you could be charged with a sex crime against a child. Regardless, if you are caught, the charges brought against you could be so serious that if you are found guilty you would BOTH have to register as sexual offenders and be held to the same standards they are (in my state, they cannot live within 1,000 feet of a school, or park and their Address information is public).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Well there are risks to both. The bigger risk is the movie theater because it is a more immediate threat. You are breaking the law if you get caught, a real law that could get you both arrested. Laws are different from state to state, and it would depend on the situation and what other people were in the theater. But the law that comes to mind are public indecency, which I think is pretty common.
The risk of the sex tape is that if you ever break up or it falls into the wrong hands, it could be used against either of you for embarrassment. It's not illegal, I believe, if you are both adults and consenting. But, it may come back to bite you later. This really only matters if you are looking to have a job as a public figure / position of trust such as politician or teacher.
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