Why does he keep bringing up our past
Q. Him and i had a bit of a casual "relationship" for a while and it was fun at the time. That ended just over a year ago. He's got a girlfriend now and i've recently started dating somebody new too. Since i told my "ex" that i'm dating someone he's ...
A. 16 December 2011: That sounds like one of the "conversations" that you can put behind you and never think of again........ (read in full...)
We doubt each other a lot and have lots of negative thoughts when we are apart....is this normal in a relationship?
Q. i have a boyfriend and we work different places, we always meet up after work but on our days off when we don't meet there's this problem like we have negative thinking bout each other is it right? and at times we doubt each other a lot that...
A. 15 December 2011: Your submittal "sounds" like a typical drama- and angst-laden arrangement. Is THAT what you seek in a relationship with a guy? IF "yes," then continue as you have been doing. IF you'd prefer to have a warm and loving relationship, built on caring ... (read in full...)
How does one prepare for being fingered?
Q. Preparation for being fingered? I know im supposed to shower and everything, but anything else to smell nice and stuff down there?...
A. 14 December 2011: All you have to do to "prepare" is to SHOW UP!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I just can't read him, it's hard to know if he likes me the way I like him or not.
Q. Hello there cupids, I shall try and keep this as short as I can. I had to come to all of you for your advice as this is driving me nuts! So basically, I really like this friend of mine, we shall call him 'bob'. Me and bob used to go to school t...
A. 14 December 2011: The darndest thing about such difficult-sounding questions as your's is that the solution is SO simple.....
IF you want to know what Bob is thinking... ASK Bob!!!!!
Good luck...
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Caught her having sex with 2 of my friends at our housewarming.....I'm so hurt she cheated but turned on at the same time!
Q. Hi. my girlfriend and i met a year and a half ago and weve just recently moved in together. Its both our first place on our own. A month after we moved in we had a house warming party. after a night of drinking i woke up to find my girlfrie...
A. 14 December 2011: I'm with the three who preceded me..... WHAT kind of "friends" and "girlfriend" ARE these people?????
Are you content to resign yourself to being your G/F's patsy???? Or, if you check between your legs, will you see the remnants of some testicle... (read in full...)
Live with family or live with boyfriend?
Q. I promise it's a quick read, if a bit long! This is a two part question: Part 1: My parents are asking me to pay for bills now that I just graduated and got a job (I make $25,000 as a receptionist). I would be okay with that but 1) ...
A. 14 December 2011: Here's some opinion and choices: 1. Your folks are asking you to pay because they want you to "learn" that, in the "real world" people have to pay their own way. IF you stay with them, then you will have to face that.... 2. Moving together ... (read in full...)
What would be a non-creepy way to get this guy's number?
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I really like. He's got a girlfriend, but I know her quite well (she's actually one of my good friends) and she's not happy with the relationship. She feels that they're moving way too fast, and stuff like that. She wants to ...
A. 14 December 2011: Why don't you simply talk to your (girl) friend and ask her if she'd agree to pass along this (her) boyfriend to you??? Stranger things have happened.....
Good luck......... (read in full...)
My Bf and I constantly fight over unwanted attention I receive from other men. What can I do to fix this?
Q. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. My problem is that we constantly fight over unwanted attention I receive from other men. I am naturally a very friendly person to any individual regardless of age or looks. My career is in ...
A. 14 December 2011: While the players would be reversed... I could have written this submittal in 2001. I tolerated this lovely girl for 3 years, until her unwarrented/unnecessary jealousy simply got too intense (and frequent!)... so I walked away.... You wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Self conscious about my eye, how do I deal with people who make fun of me for this?
Q. So first of all, im blind in 1 eye. I don't feel like going into detail about it but I can say ive have a lot problems that have come along with it. If I look even the slightest bit upwards my blind eye goes completely crosseyed and it has been very ...
A. 13 December 2011: When I was a kid, one of THE most-successful guys in my town - with the ladies - was a guy who had only one eye... having lost his other in a fish-hook accident when he was a kid...... Take it from me.... you are overplaying this... and there's no ... (read in full...)
We've been together 5 years but I can't commit!
Q. I really need some advice - I spent over 10 years married to a guy who put himself first, was never really proactive in thinking of doing stuff together and was selfish regarding his hobbies, career etc. He also put me down and showed no ...
A. 13 December 2011: Let me re-state your submittal as I see it (my quotation marks):
"I have met a great guy who is everything I ever thought I wanted to have in a man-friend/partner. HOWEVER, I won't let go of my past - which included a 10-year marriage to a guy wh... (read in full...)
Do women want powerful, wealthy men more than considerate, nice guys?
Q. I know nobody wants a wimp. But do all women prefer the self-absorbed jerk with power over the nice, middle class guy who is considerate of a woman's feelings? Is the law of the jungle and the law of human love really the same?...
A. 13 December 2011: Women (collectively) want to find guys who are THEMSELVES..... that is, who are TRUE to who they "really are"..... and are not putting on airs and trying to be someone WHO THEY ARE NOT!!!! IF a guy is rather wimpy, then there is likely a woman "... (read in full...)
Was I too harsh on him? Should I move on or reach out to him?
Q. Hi, I would really appreciate advice on my situation. It's difficult to be objective at the moment. I went for a first date with a guy I met online (dating site), we'd only exchanged few emails, it wasn't anything special but I still decided to meet ...
A. 13 December 2011: I think that THIS is the most important phrase in your submittal: "....I left a text message, saying I don't like games...."
Now, since you've SAID that, how about LIVING UP TO IT??? .... and STOP playing HIS game????? He has you pursuing... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he is cheating on me?
Q. my boyfriend and i have known eachother for 10 years. we have been dateing for three.. and i think he is cheating on me. he hides his cell phone -i'm not alowed to touch it. he hides it at night so i cant find it and look at it. and i'm not alowed ...
A. 13 December 2011: Why BOTHER "finding out????" You have a preponderance of evidence... PLUS, this submittal indicates that you believe he is.... so why not just "cut to the chase" and dump him??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My son and I don't have a good relationship because of my ex (his father)....I feel like I am losing him
Q. I raised my son on my own in UK, without any help from my ex-husband who left me for a younger woman. He did not pay any child support. He did not see our son. He saw him every now and again in total of 10 times up to the age of 7. We split up ...
A. 13 December 2011: Your ex- sounds like quite a guy... changing wives about as frequently as many of us change our sheets......
The best advice I can offer is to take the "high road" and continue to do your best to be the best Mom you can... and let the chips fa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arrived for a 2 week stay with me without any money! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has just arrived for a 2 week stay (we're long distance) without any money! He says he's taking a month long break unpaid and has just enough to meet child maintenance payments during this time so I'm going to have to cover for him. He ...
A. 13 December 2011: I suggest you turn his a*s around and send him BACK to his Mother..... and tell him that he's welcome to return once he grows up!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I please him sexually without sex?
Q. Ok another question for the guys..girls feel free to answer How do you sexually please a guy without having sex? And yes you will all say hand job and blowjob...but can I have more detail please...see this guy he doesn't show any emotion or pleas...
A. 12 December 2011: Here's my sage input: IF you are with a guy who is interested only in YOUR pleasing HIM.... and NOT by some form of sexual activity by which YOU get some enjoyment... then you are spending time with a major-league loser... AND you are selling your ... (read in full...)
Been together 10 years, married for 6 1/2 yrs, we have sex 5 times a week, but I'm still a virgin because there's been no vaginal sex!!
Q. I am very in love with my husband, we have been married 6 1/2 years. There is a big age difference between him and I, I am 28, he is 48. His son is older than me, he is 30. My husband was married to his 1st wife, this might sound bad but w...
A. 10 December 2011: What you describe is certainly "out-of-the-ordinary," in my opinion. BUT, what difference does MINE (or anyone else's) opinion matter if you and your hubby are happy?????
I DO suspect that you've posted this because you sought validati... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is distant, cant forgive me, and plays hot and cold with me, no sex either???
Q. I am 27 yr old male. I have been with my GF for over three years.She is 24. we moved so i could go to school. she is a bartender. We had a great relationship then i realized she was verbally abusive to me. Its been over 12 months since things have ...
A. 10 December 2011: Sometimes, a couple has to recognize that they JUST AREN'T "hitting on all eight cylinders" when it comes to their relationship.... and they have to go their separate ways..... It sounds like your "relationship" is at that point, now....
Do as... (read in full...)
My partner refuses to acknowledge that alcohol affects his performance and always blames me or tiredness or stress for his brewer's droop
Q. I am so angry with my partner right now. He got back from a 4 week business trip and he was telling me how much he missed me and was looking forward to coming home and when he got home that night he started having a few drinks which turned in to ...
A. 10 December 2011: As a guy who has abused alcohol at times during his life... I will attest that it DOES supress a guy's se*ual capabilities.... AND, that can erode a relationship down to nothing.....
Please show this reply to your B/F... and be sure he reads th... (read in full...)
Now I'm 21 Is it normal for me to be okay with wanting to experiment with sex?
Q. Throughout this year my stance on dating has changed. I used to think that I would be the type of guy to wait until I was in a real relationship to have anything to do with sex. But after my 21st birthday my thoughts about dating in general have...
A. 10 December 2011: What have you been eating for breakfast these last 21 years?????? OF course a young man of 21 wants to experiment with s*x!!!!
P.S. Imagine if you were to wait until you were 42.... THEN, you would have to look back and say to yourself... (read in full...)
I have three guys I'm considering. Who to choose? Please, as much advice as possible?
Q. So, there are these three guys... It's not just like I'm desperate for a boyfriend and I've narrowed it down to these three guys, I actually really like them all. So, Guy 1 is in my class at school. He is in my form. We've been in the same c...
A. 10 December 2011: At your young age, I suggest you juggle the three and not give the matter another thought.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do girls think about their ex's penis
Q. I was wondering if girls think about the size of their ex's penis. My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them. For me and guys I ...
A. 10 December 2011: Remember this sage adage:
It's not the size of the wand, but the magic of the performer, that puts the rabbit in the hat!!!!!... (read in full...)
He's so clingy that it's getting irritating
Q. There's a guy that I've met who is really nice and I enjoy spending my time with. We have the same interests and he's great to be around. BUT I'm starting to feel that he's very clingy. If we are alone he kisses me which I don't mind but he never ...
A. 8 December 2011: Once a guy-friend (or a girl-friend) get clingy and irritating it's time to dump him or her and get a better one....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I believe in signs?
Q. twice or thrice while praying i asked God to give me signs and gave him some random conditions like when a coin drops in front of me (w/c happened and actually it was coinsssss) and the other one is when a food, whatever food drops in front of...
A. 8 December 2011: The only signs that I think you have to be certain to follow are those that say, "STOP" or "Spped limit, X miles per hour".... Those that you sound like you're following probably are just coincidence.....
Good luck.....
P.S. My sign is: "YI... (read in full...)
Do girls think about their ex's penis
Q. I was wondering if girls think about the size of their ex's penis. My girlfriend made it a point to tell me the sizes of her ex and it hurt my self esteem because i'm just average. And she sounded like she was gloating for them. For me and guys I ...
A. 8 December 2011: EVERY GIRL who has ever seen (and/or experienced) my "Mr Happy" spends the rest of her life fantasizing about it (him).... and ME, too, by the way......
Why do you ask????... (read in full...)
Why do I get the worst of my boyfriend and everyone else get the best?
Q. Hi everyone, my boyfriend acts so different with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. I've noticed that he has changed with me. he used to be funny, eloquent, loving in the past two years everything changed. He acts like im just ...
A. 8 December 2011: Just dump his sorry bottom and find yourself a real, nice boyfriend. This one isn't worth your time and/or your mental effort...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can you use ordinary lube with non-latex condoms?
Q. Quick question: can you use ordinary lube with polyurethane condoms? As in non-latex ones? Because all the lubes I've seen have "suitable for use with latex condoms" (or words to that effect) written on the back. Does that mean there different lubes ...
A. 8 December 2011: Both K-Y and Astroglide are water based........ (read in full...)
Can braces cause trouble with oral?
Q. my boyfriend recently got braces, and i've heard horror stories that if a guy gives a girl oral,things can get caught.. Is it still ok to let my boyf give me oral?...
A. 8 December 2011: Shave yourself smooth "down there" and don't give the matter another thought!!!!! Good luck....... (read in full...)
Crush doesn't notice me and if I dump boyfriend everyone will hate me!
Q. well i have a crush on someone who barely even notices me even worse ive got a boyfriend and i feel like i cant dump him cause every one will hate me so what should do????? ...
A. 8 December 2011: Today - and for the REST OF YOUR LIFE - you should NOT give any weight to whether or not "... everyone will hate (me) you...." That doesn't matter..... Do what's right for YOU!!! Good luck....... (read in full...)
My professor is hitting on me. What am I supposed to do? Is this normal in college today?
Q. So I'm 18 years old and a freshman in college. One of my professors is always hitting on me. I'm not saying this to sound conceited, I'm saying it 'cause I know. The other day he told me I looked gorgeous. Also, in my college we have our teacher's ...
A. 7 December 2011: Here's the advice you want/need.....
STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!!! Student-teacher "relationships" are NOT meant to be.... they come from an imbalance in power.... and that means HE is more in control than YOU are!!!!! In many/most institut... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my immature boyfriend to grow up?
Q. My boyfriend is REALLY immature. He's my age (19), and although it was a lot worse a year ago, I don't think I can deal with it anymore. He farts, he burps, he makes stupid comments/jokes. He doesn't take anything I say seriously (when I want to ...
A. 7 December 2011: Some of us guys get our brains stuck at about 5 years old. It's not a sure-bet they we (he) will change. AND, it's pretty much a roll of the dice. How long are you willing to tolerate his childish behaviour???? I suggest you give yourself an ... (read in full...)
Can you teach someone how to love?
Q. We are all damaged in some way or another. My boyfriend has suffered some tragedy in his life. He lost his father early on. His mother has abandoned him on several occasions. He has some social awkwardness issues and has very few close friends ...
A. 7 December 2011: I suspect that it "breaks you heart for YOU"... as well....
Be patient and be a good friend and G/F.... and see if he does, indeed, learn to experience and express love... for you and others.....
Good luck.... you sound like a good G/F....... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this? My husband does not love me and does not like me helping my parents
Q. I am 21 years old and my husband is 38 years old he does not love my parents and he does not like me to help my family. so i want to divorce him . How can I get through this? please help me...
A. 7 December 2011: You get a good and aggressive lawyer... file the divorce and tell the creep that you expect to leave the marriage with 1/2 the assets that the two of you have accumulated since your wedding day.....
What could be easier?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Girls, especially, do you think a guy being able to dance well is important to you?
Q. I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how impo...
A. 7 December 2011: I'm a guy who sez if you want to make time with the ladies you're 'way better off if you drop your childish-sounding aversion to dance and LEARN to do so .... WELL .... 'cuz there's no better way to meet and make time with the ladies than by DANCING ... (read in full...)
Did he ever love me to begin with?
Q. It's been almost 8 months since I moved out from living with my ex. A couple months ago I started feeling better and really started enjoying being single. I started finding what I enjoyed doing and living for myself. But lately I can't stop ...
A. 7 December 2011: P.S. Of course he didn't love you... he was USING you!!!... (read in full...)
Did he ever love me to begin with?
Q. It's been almost 8 months since I moved out from living with my ex. A couple months ago I started feeling better and really started enjoying being single. I started finding what I enjoyed doing and living for myself. But lately I can't stop ...
A. 7 December 2011: The important portion of your submittal is this:
"... I knew he was seperated, but he lied to me about how long it had been, he was still married almost a year after he told me he would be divorced. He also lied and told me he could have kid... (read in full...)
I'm married, met someone online and thinking of going further. Will I regret it?
Q. Well I have been threw many ups and downs in my relationship . It was very long and ans stressful experience for,but my husband actually made a 360 degree improvement .So I should be happy right ? The truth is I don't really care .He did not care ...
A. 7 December 2011: Yes, you will....
Good question........ (read in full...)
How do I prove to my friends that I am capable of getting a boyfriend?
Q. hello aunts! I have a small problem. I recently got out of a relationship with a guy that went to a different school than me. When we were going out, none of my friends believe he existed. There were rumors going around that i faked a boyfriend just ...
A. 7 December 2011: Here's a better question: WHY do you need to "prove" (to your friends) that you have a boyfriend???????... (read in full...)
I wouldnt normally get involved in a friend's relationship, but I cant stand by and watch her get hurt! What should I do?
Q. This is not about me, but about a relationship of someone who's close to me. Two friends of mine got together about a year ago. I'm always for letting people be, but this relationship is only working out for one of them, namely the guy. I care ...
A. 7 December 2011: The two important phrases in your submittal are these:
1. "...he's with her because she gives him a lot and requires very little in return, which works for him..."
2. "...and I'm really starting to feel as though I can't just witness her... (read in full...)
Guys: When you want oral sex, what do you want exactly?
Q. A question for the guys.... When you want oral sex, what exactly does that mean? Until you ejaculate? Instead of intercourse? To get you hard and then intercourse? Does it help to get hard again if you are in the middle of intercourse and you ...
A. 7 December 2011: Any/All of the above, at various times......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?
Q. If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and ...
A. 7 December 2011: I love your choice of words.... i.e. "inferior."
IF you want to quantify your love and emotional life, then you are on the right track...
IF you want to find a delightful girl who might be the best partner you could ever find.... you'll ... (read in full...)
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