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writes:So I started dating this after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other, he told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship because of the distance but he insisted that his feelings were so strong that he wanted to make it work. At first he would always call and text me saying he loves and misses me. But after that, he didn't call as often saying he was busy with work but still texted me every so often. The last time we had a normal conversation, he said that he wanted to come see me soon. Later that day, he completely ignored me and deleted me from everything. He didnt even bother to answer my calls so I wrote him an angry message. He said he couldnt handle the distance and wasn't in love with me and simply said goodbye. I feel so hurt. He was the one that kept pushing to be with me so why did he have such a change of heart?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 November 2011):
 He probably found a girl, nearby, who would put out for him.....
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Guys deal in dreams most times when it comes to women...It is best that this one didn't work out before you got too deep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): Have a similar situation to yours. I think people are different. Some guys are unable to handle the distance and possibly bcos of work isn't texting as necessary. Mine won't say a word to me for 3 days till I called then he felt he had a lot to say. A total jerk
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 I don't think he knew what in the world a "real relationship" even was. Some guys act all knowledgable and that but have no clue as to real feelings or the what the intangeables of good give and take is all about. just be more careful but never give up.not all guys are jerks it's just that some are very slow to mature into men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): Not every guy is a jerk like that. I think Aunt Honesty has it right.
Just remember that just because this one guy did this to you, doesn't mean that all will.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 I think it was more of a phase he was going through, when someone tells you they love you after about a week this should always make alarm bells ring, because it is obvious he throws the word around way to easily. He met you and am sure he did like you, thought he could handle the distance and then got bored and realised it was not worth it. Am sorry you were left hurt but you must learn from this and move forward now, always be cautious when someone tells you they love you very early on.
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