How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?
Q. If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and ...
A. 7 December 2011: I love your choice of words.... i.e. "inferior."
IF you want to quantify your love and emotional life, then you are on the right track...
IF you want to find a delightful girl who might be the best partner you could ever find.... you'll ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's and my plans for life do not mesh!
Q. All right, here's the deal. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over three years. And good god we love each other like nothing else. We just moved in together and, minor issues aside and one or two larger ones that we have talked about ...
A. 7 December 2011: When I was married, my ex- and I thought we had it clear just what we "wanted".... with nowhere near as much discussion as it sounds like you and your intended have had... Consequently, as time went past, in our 15 year marriage, we grew further ... (read in full...)
My partner couldn't be bothered that I miscarried our baby, and he's been busy texting his ex while I'm going through hell!
Q. Hi I've been with my partner for 3 half years. I was due to move on with him next month. In October I found out I was pregnant and was so happy. I'm 41 and my son has left home. My bf wasn't too keen at first but eventually began to get excited....
A. 7 December 2011: Sounds like you've got a great partner there.... Are you REALLY planning on staying with him for more than another few hours???????
You can do better. Good luck....... (read in full...)
I need a song to sing someone to sleep to!
Q. I'm sure that this might be the first time anyone on Dear Cupid has asked this question (with all the questions lurking in the archives, who knows?), but it means a lot to me, so thank you if you can answer. My romantic dream has always been to s...
A. 6 December 2011: Most anything by Kenny Rogers puts me to sleep......... (read in full...)
Is he being selfish? My boyfriend wants no sex before marriage, and I'm not okay with that
Q. So, 10 months ago I met a guy at a coffee shop. We hit it off quite well. I had to move away for a job, do we were forced into a long distant relationship. After couple months of virtual conversations, we both fell hard for each other. Despite the ...
A. 6 December 2011: Please make a note of this: NO GUY actually "gives up" masturbating until and unless he has undergone castration surgery......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What's on this older guy's mind? Why doesn't he text me like he used to?
Q. Hi i'm really confused... There's a guy i've been texting for sometime now. We have an age gap of 9 years but i really like him. We used to text throughout the day. When we first met, i really thought everything went well because he did text and...
A. 6 December 2011: Did you put out for him? IF you did, then you were his "rebound" sex.... and now - sad as it may seem - he no longer needs that rebound sex, so he's in the process of tossing you aside..... Sorry, that's the way it is when you deal with ... (read in full...)
15 year long relationship, 5 years of marriage...and now we are divorced because my wife could not be loyal to me.
Q. It has been right 3 months as of today since we divorced, which ended a 15 years long relationship and 5 years long marriage. Now, I am living alone and kept the divorce unknown to most of relatives including my parents and friends except a few very ...
A. 6 December 2011: Thank goodness you found out before you spent THE REST of your life with this woman!!!!!.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm starting to lose trust on my fiancée. She lived with a male roommate and when I visited her, her sofa smelt like sex!!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm becoming not to trust my bride. Tobe. She had a male roommate for about a year he recently moved from her home. Just a few blocks away I live farther distance. I. Viset her and her sofa smelled like sex.I got angrry and left after co...
A. 6 December 2011: Than k goodness that her sofa didn't smell like "Hai Karate" aftershave. If it did, you could be SURE that she was doing nik-nik with some other guy on it. As it is... you're whistling in the wind.... AND, it sounds like you're successfully ... (read in full...)
He said I don't text enough. He accused me of seeing someone else. Not true. Now his texts are sporadic. What is going on?
Q. Hi everyone this is the story. I met this man in march he asked me out. I agreed. We saw each other maybe every two or three weeks. He lives six doors away from me. It has been like this since I have been patient with him, but it is starting to ...
A. 6 December 2011: This guy doesn't sound like he's "worth" your time or efforts.... Give him up and find a nice guy friend.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Too many quarrels, Could she change for the better? And can we still get married to each other in the future while she fights like this?,
Q. I have been in this relationship for 3 years. My girlfriend has some behaviours that i don't like. she hardly apologises to me every time she does something horrible, whenever we quarel, she abuses me with all kind of different insults which i neve...
A. 5 December 2011: The important phrase in your submittal is this one: "....and i don't want to be facing all this in future..." You KNOW "the answer", of course... and that is "Don't marry this girl if she is the source of your misery".... Women don't chan... (read in full...)
We have not consumated this relationship. He is married. But can I get over him while I have to see him twice a week?
Q. I have a major problem here and need help. I am in love with someone who is married. He is in love with me but we have not had an affair. We acknowledged that this was the case but that we would do nothing about this. The problem is is that I ...
A. 5 December 2011: Print out a copy of your submittal. Tape it to your bathrooom mirror.... In the future, any time you get upset about having seen him, or thought about him, go to the mirror... Look at the copy of this submittal.... and repeat to yourself: "He i... (read in full...)
Why would a man appear jealous if you are with someone else, even though he himself does not want to be with you?
Q. Hello, I just need opinions on this subject. Let me give a little info on my situation. I am seeing a man, and we have decided to just be friends with benefits. We have dated in the beginning and when a relationship was brought up he stated that he ...
A. 5 December 2011: While FWB arrangements often, initially, begin as balanced arrangements.... I believe it's very common that one of the participants (It seems to be the woman, more commonly) is more inclined to believe that the FWB is - or will become - something ... (read in full...)
How do you satisfy an older woman sexually?
Q. I am close to an attractive older woman who is 12 years older than me. I would like to consider sex with her. I am a bit concerned about satisfying her sexually if we do it.What are some ways to sexually satisfy an older woman? How can I make t...
A. 5 December 2011: There are a few important details to keep in mind when you are being intimate with an older woman. Here are a few: 1. DON'T whisper sweet-nothings in her ear.... she probably won't be able to hear you. Be sure to speak up! 2. Put her can... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the one who always tries to make the relationship work
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for nearly 2 years.Only during the start he used to call me, nowadays im the one who is always calling/trying to meet him. He never even tries. If i stop calling even for a week, he wont bother much. I dont want to do ...
A. 5 December 2011: One-way "relationships" really aren't worth it. Give him up and get a REAL boyfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I help my boyfriend with his erection troubles?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am writing because I am desperate. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He's 29 and I am 31. I love him very much but we're having issues in the bedroom department. The first time we had sex failed because he couldn't get it hard....
A. 5 December 2011: It's a fact... if a guy spends too much time stressing over his sexual perfomance he is likely to have trouble getting and maintaining an erection.....
You (and he) will find things much easier (and successful!) if/when you stop doing so much thi... (read in full...)
Could the pressure of trying to have a child make his lose his erection?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem maintaining an erection after he has a bath. He reasures me that he finds me attative and says that I am not doing anything wrong. I am not to bothered by this but he is and it really gets him down. As we are trying for a ...
A. 5 December 2011: I suggest that you and he do nik-nik prior to his bath....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He said we may or may not get married!
Q. Hello Everyone I have been dating my boyfriend for 2yrs now. Im ready to get married but hes not. he said he will know when hes ready. hE SAID WE MAY OR WE MAY NOT...Is he ever going to matty me or should I just let go and move on? I know I wil...
A. 5 December 2011: Sounds to me like he covered all bases ("...WE MAY OR WE MAY NOT..) so you've got yourself an expert, there, at not addressing your question....
I wouldn't spend another WEEK with such a guy.... BUT, it's YOUR decision....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Do dads and stepdads deserve to have access to their daughter's information?
Q. Long story short, I found out my mom decided to tell my stepdad all my secrets, including the fact that I want to go on birth control, and the fact that my last shampoo gave me dandruff, and I didn't know until the lady cutting my hair said I need a ...
A. 5 December 2011: IF your stepdad learning that you have had dandruff is the biggest problem in your life, then count your blessings... because, before it's all over you are CERTAIN to face far bigger and more-important questions/problems than that...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother hates me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years our relationship is great, however there is one problem... His older brother. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 25 and his brother is 27. They still both live at home, so whenever I'm around his brother is too. For ...
A. 5 December 2011: My sdvice it to tell your B/F to man up and tell his brother to act more civally toward you... and that, if he won't (act nicely) that he'll punch him in the nose....
IF your "B/F" can't/won't speak up on your behalf, then you've got yourself... (read in full...)
For some reason, my friendships with women never work out. What is wrong with me? What can I do?
Q. My friendships never work out. Particularly with women. One minute I think I have a good friend, I invest time into being with her, but she turns out to be a horrible person and somehow hurts me. For some reason, I attract bad seeds. My last friend ...
A. 5 December 2011: Best suggestion that I can offer is for you to spend more time attending to your studies and not worry about the women that you pursue and/or spend time with....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's father, who just got out of jail a few months ago, is driving me crazy!!
Q. Ok, I have a problem with my boyfriends dad. He just got out of jail a couple months ago. At first I liked him because I never met him till he got out of jail but now...2 months later...the man drives me crazy. If me or my boyfriend dont pick up the ...
A. 5 December 2011: Print out a copy of this submittal.... and show it to your B/F..... Tell him you wrote it and ask him how does HE suggest that you and he get past this problem????.....
IF he reacts as a REAL B/F should... then you and he will address the prob... (read in full...)
The issue doesn't warrant us breaking-up, but it really bothers me!
Q. Hi. I'm in a mostly-happy, well-adjusted four year relationship. I'm pretty good about not sweating the small stuff, but what about the medium stuff? How do I get past a relationship issue that really bothers me, but that I can't resolve and isn't ...
A. 3 December 2011: I suggest that you read good novels on those nights when he is elsewhere, so late that he can't come to your home....
When he CAN come "home" make the most of it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm living with a guy who I'm madly in love with, and he's going out with one of my friends
Q. Hi, I'm going through quite a conflicted phase at the moment, and was wondering if you could help. I'm living with a guy who I'm madly in love with, and he's going out with one of my friends. I've loved him for almost a year now - we were stay...
A. 3 December 2011: "Sounds" to me like the "relationship" you want to pursue doesn't exist..... Save your mental energy and look for a guy who is available.... The one in this submittal isn't worth it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I handle my slutty, model roommate?
Q. My friend looks like a model and is SUPER pretty and I am just somewhat pretty. At the start of college, she started to party and now she has a reputation of a slut. Some guys, because we are friends, thought I was the party type too. I'm not. I ...
A. 3 December 2011: Being a good person - a good girl - is its own reward. Continue to be an upstanding your woman... and the "reputation" that you endured as a function of your roommate's escapades will soon evaporate. YOU can control what is your reputation... ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for the right one to lose my virginity or find a complete stranger on Craigslist?
Q. I am a 21 yr old male and I am a virgin. I am thinking about using Craigslist and having sex with a complete stranger to lose it. I know craigslist isn't the best place to go. . . My question is should I have sex with a stranger or wait until I ...
A. 3 December 2011: Here's a hint: Unlike women... the "virginity" of a guy is NOT evident... UNLESS he fails to keep his mouth shut and TELLS the prospective conquest that he hasn't been on this turf, previously.....
Sooooo, wait until you find some great girl....... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 3 December 2011: One other problem: Unless you marry sisters, you end up with TWO Mothers-in-law, as well.....
A guy would have to be CRAZY to incur TWO Mothers-in-law.... unless, of course, one or both of them were HOT and had no scruples about fooling around w... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 3 December 2011: SVC: There's no cause-and-effect between leg fetish and doing nik-nik..... It's just that I get all aroused by a great set of legs.... AND, I suspect that you (and some of the others who have commented herein) do so, as well. It's all good..... ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's love for anal sex is ruining our relationship
Q. My man loves Anal sex, but I couldn't be more turned off by it. We are engaged to be married, and have been dating for three years. We have amazing sex, on the daily, but when it comes to anal, I'm just not in to it. This is creating some problems ...
A. 3 December 2011: Print this submittal out, off your computer. Show it to your B/F. If he doesn't back off on his anal-sex thing, then you know (You will have learned...) that your intended doesn't really give a darn about YOUR feelings... and, so, he SHOULD become ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want her to wear a different dress? The one she chose for New Year's Eve looks like Lingerie.
Q. Hey everyone, I have a somewhat delicate issue here. First of all my girlfriend and two mutual friends of ours (a boy and a girl) decided that we are going to celebrate new years eve together in a club in town, so far so good. Today she was s...
A. 3 December 2011: What's to gripe??? IF she looks blisterin' hot, then YOU look like a guy who is getting on with a BLISTERIN' HOT girl!!! How many guys would sell their souls to be in your BVDs?????
Good luck... and Happy New Year....
P.S. Where are you g... (read in full...)
Father with two kids and a persistent housewife
Q. We have a married couple with 2 kids where the husband wishes to divorce his wife but she wants to continue with the marriage. Here are some questions I'd like to get your answers to : 1)How can a single father protect himself and the kids when he...
A. 2 December 2011: You say, "...we have..." WHO has???? Are you the girl that this married guy is fooling around with? ... and you are trying to learn what he's in for if he continues to fool around with you? ... and you're hoping that he can, somehow, dodge the ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid sex in a loveless marriage?
Q. Is it possible to stay married, not be love and avoid sex with husband all the time? Is there anyone here who has been in this situation? Please share your views and experience to help me. Many thanks.....
A. 2 December 2011: I've been on the other side.... a guy who was in a relationship with a woman who withheld love, intimacy and sex..... It's EXCRUCIATING.... and I endured it for 4 years... then said, "Enough" and left......
You can go ahead and see how long he ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was my best friends "booty call". How do I get over this?
Q. My girlfriend of about 5 months now slept with my best friend two years ago - multiple times. I know this shouldn't bother me, but the fact that I know her past, and how she was (sleeping around/being a 'booty call'), has me skeptical. I have been ...
A. 2 December 2011: IF you are unable to put behind you this tidbit that you know of your prospective "girlfriend's" past... then you should drop her......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a "leg-fetish"?
Q. I understand the whole foot-fetish thing, but is there a specific fetish toward 'legs'? A female friend and I were discussing what we were in to and I told her I'm a sucker for a killer set of legs, which she said is a foot-fetish. However, I'm not ...
A. 2 December 2011: As a guy who has experienced it all his life.... I CAN CONFIRM that there IS such a thing as a "Leg" fetish...
Why do you ask????... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 2 December 2011: AS if ONE wife isn't enough of a problem, you want to DOUBLE UP????? What were you smoking when you wrote this??
Reminds me of the raffle that the Chicago Cubs had a few years ago.... Winner got 2 tickets to a future Cubs game... Second place wa... (read in full...)
Do not connect to new husband..
Q. I am in love with my boss who is married and loves me too. I recently married a guy as per my parents wishes knowingly he is not my type but didnt had any options. I cannot leave the job because it pays me well with other benefits and has ample ...
A. 2 December 2011: Do you live in the same United Kingdom where Margaret Thatcher was once Prime Minister?????
I ask because you question is SO PREPOSTEROUS that I believe that it is contrived.... probably spam... Is it??
You write: ".... he is not my type but ... (read in full...)
Went through his phone. Not sure what to make of findings
Q. Huge problem. I went through my boyfriend's phone almost a year ago, found nothing, but he got really pissed and I promised never to again. But I did tonight. And I'm freaking out a little because his friend (a girl) texted him saying if she didn't ...
A. 2 December 2011: You went snooping... and now are disappointed at what you found.... How far to you want to take this game?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
This relationship seems so one sided
Q. im 18 and my boyfriend of almost 6 months is also 18. well we have our ups and downs just like every couple. but latey we've been arguing a lot more. and well im trying to change myself to make things better but things still dont seem to get better. ...
A. 2 December 2011: You say: "....we have our ups and downs just like every couple..." WHO SAID that you (any couple) has to "have your ups and downs?????" What's wrong with having a GREAT relationship..... one in which the two of you care for each other ... (read in full...)
What could cause a mental block causing no erection?
Q. Do you know, what can be a mental block, for getting an erection? There is no explanations of my sudden loss of erection, now chronnically. ...
A. 2 December 2011: I was never able to sustain an erection if my Mother-in-law came in to my thoughts......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What is 'fatal attraction'?
Q. What is a fatal attraction?...
A. 2 December 2011: Go to your local library.... Get the movie... go home... watch it... and your "question" will disappear...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My married lover wants to continue seeing me while he ties up loose ends with his soon to be ex-wife
Q. I am involved with a man who is still married but unhappy. he tells me he will file for divorce within the next 5 months because he is unhappy. he wants to wait to do it because she is not able to support herself financially due to their debt.......
A. 2 December 2011: Yes..... drop him.... and, when he becomes "available" by completing his divorce, tell him to call you.....
Don't be stupid.... guys do this all the time.... and the second woman (you!!) is usually the one who gets screwed... and I DON'T mean in ... (read in full...)
What is with men being attracted to teenagers?
Q. I've seen a few questions on here about this. Guys if you're in your twenties why don't you want to date someone your own age? Why do you want to be with someone who hasnt even finished school? Is it because it's forbidden?...
A. 1 December 2011: It's because the younger girls are likely to be less worldly (less experienced) so won't see through our almost-transparent facade.... and will put out for us....
Girls in their 20's start to get pretty smart!!!!
Why do you ask????... (read in full...)
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